Quotes on mental toughness

 “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” –Unknown
 “Me personally, I believe that it’s only pain if you acknowledge it. If someone sees it as pain, I like to describe it as something that is unusual, out of place, or uncomfortable. You have to be all about being comfortable in uncomfortable situations. In the end, there’s work that has to be done. You don’t really have the time for self pity”.-Unknown
“When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.”-Franklin D. Roosevelt
“Adversity causes some men to break, and others to break records.”- Unknown
“Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated.”- Unknown
 “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”- Mark Twain
“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”- Alexander Graham Bell
“Today I will do the things that other people won’t, so tomorrow I can do the things that other people can’t” 
“We’ll operate with no excuses. There are no excuses. You succeed or you don’t.”                    -Unknown
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands at times of comfort and convenience, but at times of challenge and adversity.”-Unknown
”Why tip toe through life, to arrive safely at death? If you’re gonna be afraid to live, what’s the point?”-Unknown
 “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” –Theodore Roosevelt
“Nothing on earth can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”- Thomas Jefferson
 “Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you ready or not, to put this plan into action.”-Napoleon Hill
 “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”-Dale Carnegie
“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”-Michael Jordan
 “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” -Muhammad Ali
“Falling down is how we grow, Staying down is how we die.” – Brian Vaszily
 “When someone tells me something is impossible, all i hear is that he or she in particular cannot do it. If it can be thought, it can be done.” – Brian Vaszily
“What this power is, I cannot say. All I know is that it exists…and it becomes available only when you are in that state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until you get it.” -Alexander Graham Bell
 “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.”
- Henry David Thoreau
 “He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right.”
- Confucius
“If a man does not have an ideal and try to live up to it, then he becomes a mean, base and sordid creature, no matter how successful.”-Theodore Roosevelt

Samsung SGH-A157

SGH-A157:

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DONE.

Invictus. William Ernest Henley

En la noche que me envuelve, negra como un pozo insondable.
Doy gracias al dios que fuere por mi alma inconquistable
En las garras de las circunstancias no he gemido ni llorado
Ante las puñaladas del azar si bien he sangrado jamás me he postrado
Más allá de este lugar de ira y llantos acecha la oscuridad con su horror
No obstante la amenaza de los años me halla y me hallará sin temor
Ya no importa cuán recto haya sido el camino ni cuantos castigos lleve a la espalda
Soy el amo de mi destino
Soy el capitán de mi alma

Who can win quote

"Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or the faster man. Sooner or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can". Vince Lombardi.

Aristotle

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, it´s a habit"

Muhhamad Ali's greatest speech

Muhammad Ali giving an amazing speech

Ali Speech Transcript:
"When I retire from boxing, I really don't know. I'm gonna say something here that might make you all think. Life is not really long. Let's say the average person is 30 years old. If you're 30 years old, you're not but about 7 years old."

How can I prove it? Add up all the 7, 8, 9 hours you slept each night for 30 years. Last night when you went to bed and woke up this morning, you don't remember a thing. You've been unconscious for about 8 years if you're 30 years old.

How much traveling have you done in 30 years? You've probably spent two years of your life just traveling to get back and forth from where you're going. So there's 8 years of sleeping, two years of traveling, out of your 30 years of life before you accomplish anything.

How long do you sit in school? In America we sit in school from the 1st grade to the 12th grade, 6 hours per day. Break it down. You sit in a class room for about 3 years of your life without leaving.

So two years of traveling, 8 years of sleeping, 3 years of school, and how many movies have you gone to? How much entertainment? Probably two years of entertainment. And by the time you have children, by the time you've made a way for your children and you have a home, you're pushing 60 years old. So, life is real short. Add up all your sleeping, all your traveling, all your entertainment, all your school, and you've probably spent half your life doing nothing.

I'm 35 right now. In 30 years I'll be 65. We don't have much influence and can't do much of nothing at 65. Your wife will tell you that. And out of my next 30 years, I might have 16 years to be productive. So what am I going to do over the next 16 years? What's the most productive thing for me to do? Get ready to meet God.

Owning real estate. Getting rich in business. Teaching boxers. That won't get me to heaven. How many here believe there is a God that made the sun, the moon and the stars? So, what I'm gonna do when I get out of boxing, is to get myself ready to meet God.

It's a scary thing to think that I might be going to Hell and burn eternally forever. So when I get out of boxing, I'm going to do everything I can to help people. God doesn't praise me because I beat Joe Frazier. God don't give no care about England or America as far as our wealth. He wants to know how do we treat each other and how we help each other.

So, I'm going to dedicate my life to using my name and popularity to helping charities, helping people, uniting people. People are bombing each other because of religious beliefs. We need somebody in the world to help make peace. So when I die, if there's a Heaven, I want to see it."

Clannad i will find you. (with Lyrics)

Moya Brennan- I Will Find You

Photoshop express

1. Photoshop Express

El último que ha salido, y por el primero que empezamos. Todo lo que podemos decir de él lo hemos contado ya en el análisis en profundidad que realizamos en La Guía Definitiva de Photoshop Express en Español (y Gratis). Cuenta con el sello de Adobe, y parece que el fabricante apuesta fuerte con el producto.

Si quieres ver en detalle las posibilidades que ofrece, no te pierdas La Guía Definitiva de Photoshop Express en Español. En él te contamos con gran nivel de detalle todas y cada una de las funcionalidades que ofrece el producto.

Lo mejor:

• Resultados de gran calidad.
• Previsualización de los resultados antes de aplicarlos.
• Muy sencillo de usar.

Lo peor:

• Llamándose Photoshop se echa de menos las capas.
• Los ajustes son aplican en la totalidad de la fotografía.
• No hay herramientas de selección.

Web: http://www.photoshop.com/tools/expresseditor?wf=editor

Alternative assessment

Alternative Assessment

Alternative assessment, often called authentic, comprehensive, or performance assessment, is usually designed by the teacher to gauge students' understanding of material. Examples of these measurements are open-ended questions, written compositions, oral presentations, projects, experiments, and portfolios of student work. Alternative assessments are designed so that the content of the assessment matches the content of the instruction.

Authentic assessment can include many of the following:

• Observation
• Essays
• Interviews
• Performance tasks
• Exhibitions and demonstrations
• Portfolios
• Journals
• Teacher-created tests
• Rubrics
• Self- and peer-evaluation

Pecho + Abdomen Mega Entrenamiento

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Relentless. Tim Grover quotes.

-When people start broadcasting what they are going to do, and how great they are going to be when do it, it's a sure sign they are still trying to convince themselves.
-The loudest guy in the room is the one with the most to prove, and no way to prove it.
-A Cleaner has no need to announce his presence. You know he's there by the way he carries himself, always cool and confident. He's never the blowhard telling you how great he is. He is the quiet guy focused on results, because results are all that matter. 
-Respect is not just about what you can do physically. You have to be able to perform intellectually and mentally as well. The way you conduct yourself in all areas of your life, your ability to show intelligence, and class and self-control... those are the things that separate you from the rest of the pack.
-Show up, work hard and listen.
-When the answer is no, a Cleaner says no. He doesn't soften it or wrap it in something pretty. No excuses and no explanation afterward. When the other guy sees you had some indecision, he is going to try to negotiate.
-Never running. Always walking. He leaves smoothly and on his own terms.
- A cleaner can lose a battle because he is still planning to win the war. Lose a game, but win the season. Lose the season, come back and win the next three. Lose a job, start a new business. No one else is getting the last word on whether he succeeded.  

Running to the sea. Royksopp

I could hear them howling from afar
I saw them rushing to your car
In a moment all went screaming wild
Until the darkness killed the light

I remember running to the sea
The burning houses and the trees
I remember running to the sea
Alone and blinded by the fear

And the river flows beneath your skin
Like savage horses kept within
And all is wasted in the sand
Like breaking diamonds with your hand

I remember running to the sea
Remember falling to my knees
I remember gliding off the shore
Until I touched the ocean floor

And the river flows beneath your skin
The savage horses kept within
And all is wasted in the sand
Like breaking diamonds with your hand

And the river grows inside of me
And the river grows inside of me
And the river grows inside of me
And the river grows inside of me

Koop - Koop Island Blues (Official) (+playlist)

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Stasi. Organización.

El Ministerio para la Seguridad del Estado incluía las siguientes entidades:

Bandera del Ministerio para la Seguridad del Estado

Escudo del Ministerio para la Seguridad del Estado

• Administración Central de Reconocimiento: centraba sus esfuerzos principalmente en Alemania Occidental y otros países de laOrganización del Tratado del Atlántico Norte, pero también dirigía la inteligencia en los demás países extranjeros.
• Administración Central de Coordinación: coordinaba el trabajo con los organismos de inteligencia soviéticos.
• Departamento Central para Comunicaciones Seguras y Protección Personal: proporcionaba seguridad personal para los dirigentes de la RDA y mantenía y operaba un sistema interno de comunicaciones seguras para el gobierno.
• Administración para la Seguridad de la Industria Pesada e Investigaciones y Administración Central para la Seguridad de la Economía: protección contra el sabotaje y el espionaje.
• Administración Central para la Lucha contra Personas Sospechosas: encargada de la vigilancia de los extranjeros sospechosos, principalmente los de Alemania Occidental.
• División de Análisis de Basura: análisis de desechos y materiales sospechosos del extranjero.
• Administración 12: vigilancia de comunicaciones.
• Administración 2000: vigilancia de la lealtad del Ejército Nacional Popular.
• La Stasi contaba con su propio e independiente servicio penitenciario para sus presos.
• Finalmente, la Stasi contaba con una pequeña fuerza armada: el Regimiento de Guardias «Félix Dzerzhinsky», tropas de élite que daban protección a los miembros del Ministerio. Compuesto por seis batallones de fusileros motorizados, un batallón de artillería, y un batallón de entrenamiento.

Agreement 1. Be impeccable with your word.

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Impeccable means “without sin” and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself.  It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or to others.  It means not rejecting yourself.  To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in “the blame game.”

Regarding the word, the rules of “action-reaction” apply.  What you put out energetically will return to you.  Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe.  The converse is also true. 

Impeccability starts at home.  Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others.  This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.

Rajoy por Roberto Centeno. El Confidencial.

La etapa de Rajoy

Como les prometí la pasada semana, hoy sintetizo la etapa de Rajoy. Si hubiera que definir al presidente del Gobierno, habría que decir de él que,además de un cobarde, tiene una desidia insuperable en la toma de decisiones. Su cerebro, acostumbrado a recibir órdenes -porque siempre fue muy bien mandado- ha sido incapaz de adaptarse a la jefatura: ¡lejos de mí el nefando vicio de pensar y de trabajar! La historia de este trepa profesional no empieza con las elecciones de noviembre 2011, viene de mucho más atrás. Yo la empezaría en el congreso amañado de Valencia, donde se autoproclamó líder del PP y donde asestó una puñalada mortal al futuro del partido eliminando a sus mejores cabezas, sustituyéndolos por niñatos de tres al cuarto y aduladores profesionales.

Que Mariano Rajoy esté financiando con nuestro dinero la secesión de Cataluña y del País Vasco es un caso claro de deslealtad a España y deslealtad a cualquier región españolaSu capacidad de gestión se vio perfectamente retratada a lo largo de su dilatado periodo de jefe de la oposición. Mientras afirmaba muy serio en el Parlamento que “no se puede gastar más que lo que se ingresa”, las CCAA más despilfarradoras como Valencia o Murcia, o la capital de Europa más manirrota por decirlo suavemente, Madrid, no merecieron la mínima atención del personaje y gastaron y gastan a sus anchas. Por entonces, algunos decíamos: “Si Rajoy no es capaz de poner orden en su propia casa, ¿cómo va a ser capaz de poner orden en España?".

En septiembre de 2011, en un programa de televisión en el que coincidí conCristóbal Montoro, me dijo que iban a recibir una herencia envenenada, que el déficit público iba a ser del 8,5% y no del 6%, algo que conocían desde julio todos los analistas. Me confesó que iban a bajar impuestos y recortar gasto político porque era la única manera de crecer. Este sería el centro de la campaña electoral de Rajoy. Al formar nuevo Gobierno, y rasgándose las vestiduras, aseguró –después de imponerle la gran cruz de Isabel la Católica a ZP por sus “grandes servicios a España”-: “¡Nos han engañado, el déficit no es del 6% es del 8,5%, y no tenemos más remedio que subir impuestos!”.

El engaño de Rajoy a su electorado sería total: haría exactamente lo contrario de lo que prometió, lo que le convierte en un presidente inveraz, que es lo peor que le puede suceder a un jefe de Gobierno. En un presupuesto de más de 400.000 millones, de los que 100.000 son gasto político improductivo, ¿no había ningún sitio de donde recortar 6.000 millones? Inaudito. En cuanto al gasto, en febrero de 2012 Montoro anunció a bombo y platillo que enviaría a “los hombres de negro” a las CCAA e intervendría las que hubieran superado los límites de gasto y deuda. Dos semanas después, las convocó en Madrid para decirles todo lo contrario, que “no se dejará quebrar ninguna autonomía y se habilitarían los recursos para ello”: 60.000 millones para que siguieran despilfarrando los caudales públicos para satisfacer su vanidad, su nepotismo y las exigencias inmorales de su corrupción.

Rajoy estaba convencido de que su sola presencia bastaba para que los mercados se rindieran ante él y la prima de riesgo bajara. Con medidas tan disparatadas, ocurrió justo lo contrario y a mediados de 2012 la prima de riesgo coqueteó con los 700 puntos básicos, un nivel muy superior al de la intervención. Pero en lugar de intervenirnos, lo que habría cortado de raíz el despilfarro político a otro irresponsable, Mario Draghi dijo que no dejaría quebrar a ningún país del euro, igual que Rajoy con las CCAA, pero con una diferencia esencial: Rajoy lo hace con el sudor y las lágrimas de los españoles y Draghi imprimiendo papeles de colores. Tras eso, la prima de riesgo bajó automáticamente.

Sólo la irresponsabilidad absoluta del BCE con su barra libre dando más y más droga a los drogadictos sin control alguno mantiene en pie hay un modelo de Estado insostenible y un sistema financiero quebrado. El resultado: sus primeros 18 meses en el poder han sido los de mayor endeudamiento desde Felipe II, la salvajada de 333.000 millones según el Banco de España, un tercio del PIB. Y a finales de 2013 esta cifra superará los 1,4 billones de euros o el 136% del PIB oficial.

La indigencia mental de Rajoy ha sido como la de su antecesor, manteniendo el Estado de partidos donde sobran decenas de instituciones, un millón de empleados públicos y 20.000 asesores que no asesoran. Y su disparatado gasto a costa de lo que sea, y lo que sea es llevar a la miseria a millones de gobernados, a destruir la clase media, a lo que Carlos Marx denomino “invertir en lujo asiático en medio de la miseria” y a dejar hipotecado el futuro de las siguientes generaciones. Este es el hombre que ahora dice que nos sacará de la crisis.   

The four agreements. Miguel Angel Ruiz

Don Miguel Ángel Ruiz (born 1952), better known as Don Miguel Ruiz, is a Mexican author of New Age spiritualist and neoshamanistic texts. His teaching is significantly influenced by the work of Carlos Castaneda.

His most famous and influential work, The Four Agreements, was published in 1997 and has sold around 4 million copies.^[1] It was featured on the Oprah television show,^[2] and advocates personal freedom from agreements and beliefs that we have made with ourselves and others that are creating limitation and unhappiness in our lives. Ultimately, it is about finding one's own integrity, self-love, and peace by way of absolving oneself from responsibility for the woes of others. The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally.
3. Don't Make Assumptions.
4. Always Do Your Best.

Ruiz also wrote a companion book to The Four Agreements. He then wrote several other books, including The Voice of Knowledge, Prayers, and The Mastery of Love.

Don Miguel Ruiz's son Don Jose Ruiz has subsequently released a sequel, The Fifth Agreement, which adds a further agreement:

5. Be Skeptical but Learn to Listen.

In Mary Carroll Nelson's Beyond Fear, he discusses some of his beliefs through a series of interviews, including his belief in the legend of Atlantis; his belief that the sun entered its sixth age on January 11, 1992, which should lead to a new age for humanity; and his belief in the spiritual power of the pyramid of the sun at Teotihuacan. Fluent in Spanish and English, he often lectures and leads retreats in the United States. Many of his students are American. In 2002 he suffered a massive heart attack, and spent nine weeks in a coma, but recovered although he was in pain for the next 8 years.^[3] He has handed the Eagle-Knight lineage^{[clarification needed]} over to his son Don José Luis. On October 9, 2010, Ruiz received a heart transplant at a hospital in Los Angeles, California. He was at a retreat in Wimberley, Texas, at the Lotus Ranch when he found out that a heart was available and had to charter a plane to get back to Los Angeles.^[3]

El etnocentrismo

El etnocentrismo es un concepto elaborado por la antropología para mencionar la tendencia que lleva a una persona o grupo social a interpretar la realidad a partir de sus propios parámetros culturales. Esta práctica está vinculada a la creencia de que la etnia propia y sus prácticas culturales son superiores a los comportamientos de otros grupos.

Una visión etnocentrista juzga y califica las costumbres, las creencias y el lenguaje de otras culturas de acuerdo a una cosmovisión considerada como deseable (que siempre es la propia). Las diferencias entre uno y otro grupo constituyen la identidad cultural.

El etnocentrismo es una tendencia común a cualquier grupo humano. Resulta usual que los elementos de la propia cultura sean calificados o comentados en términos positivos, describiendo de forma negativa las creencias y costumbres ajenas. Las prácticas de uno mismo son consideradas normales y hasta lógicas, a diferencia de los comportamientos exóticos y poco entendibles del otro.

Los antropólogos y otros científicos sociales deben esforzarse por no caer en el etnocentrismo a la hora de analizar las culturas que les resultan ajenas. El investigador debe luchar constantemente contra la tentación de considerar su propia estructura cultural como normal o superior para realizar un trabajo objetivo. El etnocentrismo también impide el aprendizaje (no puedo aprender de algo que considero inferior o menos valioso que lo que ya tengo).

El respeto por la propia identidad no implica tener una visión etnocéntrica del mundo: por el contrario, valorar las diferencias culturales es una forma de realzar nuestra propia historia.

Etnocentrismo y relativismo cultural

Desde sus orígenes, la antropología ha luchado para combatir el etnocentrismo que pondera a unas culturas sobre otras y genera una gran discriminación y disparidad en torno de las necesidades de los pueblos; donde quienes consiguen mayores beneficios son los grupos hegemónicos.

El etnocentrismo es un universal cultural; en todas partes hay personas que creen que su forma de entender la vida y costumbres es la correcta en detrimento de aquellos grupos que no las compartan. De hecho consideran que aquellos comportamientos diferentes son extraños o salvajes.

Existe además otro concepto que se conoce como relativismo cultural, que está ubicado en el extremo opuesto al etnocentrismo. Esta corriente de pensamiento afirma que ninguna cultura debe ser juzgada a partir de los patrones de otra.

Como todo razonamiento extremo, también el relativismo cultural puede ser negativo porque puede ser tolerante con aquellos comportamientos que atentan contra la vida o la libertad de los individuos que forman parte de un pueblo. Es decir que, desde este punto de vista, deberíamos aceptar las ideas preponderantes de la Alemania nazi, al igual que aceptamos las que provienen de la Grecia clásica.

Es importante que los antropólogos, desde un punto de vista objetivo, sensible y ante todo, transcultural, estudien una cultura, pero sin ignorar aquellos valores que tienen que ver con la justicia y la ética, los cuales deben apuntar a la defensa de la individualidad de todas las personas en cualquier ámbito cultural.

Podría decirse que dentro de una postura etnocentrista, la forma de acercarse a otra cultura sería desde una postura autoritaria que considera que todo aquello que se aleje de la propia sociedad es primitivo, inmaduro y hasta despreciable. Cabe mencionar que estos pensamientos niegan el proceso de la hominización y la historia de la diversidad humana.

Por su parte el relativismo cultural afirma que los rasgos característicos de un lugar deben analizarse únicamente dentro del sistema que pertenecen y que son tan dignos de respeto como los de cualquier otro.

Lee todo en: Definición de etnocentrismo - Qué es, Significado y Concepto http://definicion.de/etnocentrismo/#ixzz2hPtUIuGl

The choice theory. William Glasser

The 1998 book, Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom, is the primary text for all that is taught by The William Glasser Institute. Choice theory states that:

• all we do is behave,
• that almost all behavior is chosen, and
• that we are driven by our genes to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun.

In practice, the most important need is love and belonging, as closeness and connectedness with the people we care about is a requisite for satisfying all of the needs.

Choice theory, with the Seven Caring Habits, replaces external control psychology and the Seven Deadly Habits. External control, the present psychology of almost all people in the world, is destructive to relationships. When used, it will destroy the ability of one or both to find satisfaction in that relationship and will result in a disconnection from each other. Being disconnected is the source of almost all human problems such as what is called mental illness, drug addiction, violence, crime, school failure, spousal abuse, to mention a few.

Relationships and our Habits

Seven Caring Habits		Seven Deadly Habits
1.	Supporting	1.	Criticizing
2.	Encouraging	2.	Blaming
3.	Listening	3.	Complaining
4.	Accepting	4.	Nagging
5.	Trusting	5.	Threatening
6.	Respecting	6.	Punishing
7.	Negotiating differences	7.	Bribing, rewarding to control

The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory

1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
2. All we can give another person is information.
3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
6. We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
7. All we do is behave.
8. All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology.
9. All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
10. All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable. 

Reality Therapy. William Glasser

Reality Therapy is the method of counseling that Dr. Glasser has been teaching since 1965. Reality therapy is firmly based on choice theory and its successful application is dependent on a strong understanding of choice theory. Reality therapy training is available to anyone...the first step in learning this tool is to enroll in a Basic Intensive Training.

Since unsatisfactory or non-existent connections with people we need are the source of almost all human problems, the goal of reality therapy is to help people reconnect. To create a connection between people, the reality therapy counselor, teacher or manager will:

• Focus on the present and avoid discussing the past because all human problems are caused by unsatisfying present relationships.

• Avoid discussing symptoms and complaints as much as possible since these are the ways that counselees choose to deal with unsatisfying relationships.

• Understand the concept of total behavior, which meansfocus on what counselees can do directly - act and think. Spend less time on what they cannot do directly; that is, change their feelings and physiology. Feelings and physiology can be changed, but only if there is a change in the acting and thinking.

• Avoid criticizing, blaming and/or complaining and help counselees to do the same. By doing this, they learn to avoid some extremely harmful external control behaviors that destroy relationships.

• Remain non-judgmental and non-coercive, but encourage people to judge all they are doing by the choice theory axiom: Is what I am doing getting me closer to the people I need? If the choice of behaviors is not working, then the counselor helps clients find new behaviors that lead to a better connection.

• Teach counselees that legitimate or not, excuses stand directly in the way of their making needed connections.

• Focus on specifics. Find out as soon as possible who counselees are disconnected from and work to help them choose reconnecting behaviors. If they are completely disconnected, focus on helping them find a new connection.

• Help them make specific, workable plans to reconnect with the people they need, and then follow through on what was planned by helping them evaluate their progress. Based on their experience, counselors may suggest plans, but should not give the message that there is only one plan. A plan is always open to revision or rejection by the counselee.

• Be patient and supportive but keep focusing on the source of the problem - the disconnectedness. Counselees who have been disconnected for a long time will find it difficult to reconnect. They are often so involved in the symptom they are choosing that they have lost sight of the fact that they need to reconnect. Help them to understand, through teaching them choice theory and encouraging them to read the book, Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom, that whatever their complaint, reconnecting is the best possible solution to their problem.

William Glasser. Reality Therapy.

Reality therapy teaches that we need NOT be victims of our past or our present unless we choose to be