-Approach day by day life affirming the possibility of happiness in all its events.
-If happiness requires a worthy long-term vision and an affirmative attitude that happiness is a possibility in life's day to day events, it also, I believe, requires a third and final ingredient. Happiness almost always has something to do with others.
-The happiest person I know is a monk. His life is, in a way, a living heaven. What is your secret? I asked him. His reply? Every day, in every encounter with every person, he said, I tell myself, I could die at any moment. This person I am speaking to now may be the last person I ever speak to. I need to love him, to care about him, more than any other person I've ever met.
-It's too late.
For you it is not too late. I pray that you will not just go along, that you will not confuse short-range objectives with a lifetime vision. Be tough enough to contemplate the prospect of your own death, your own temporariness, and ask yourself: Who do I want to be? Seek the great vision. What do I want to accomplish before I die? Each one of our lives is passing away. Grasp each moment as if it were your last: approach each moment thinking of it in terms of its possibilities. Finally, remember that you can be happy only if you are able to break out of your shell, to burst the prison of self-envelopment. Happiness comes most of all from caring more about others than you care about yourself.
-If you want to be happy, you begin by accepting reality, and the reality is that you don't deserve anything in life. Life doesn't owe you a damned thing; and you don't always get what you want.
-Face reality, expect trouble, and work constructively to deal with whatever life dishes out to you. Then, instead of being a victim, you will be the captain of your own destiny in thepursuit of happiness: expecting obstacles and roadblocks along the way, willing to seek the help of God and man, looking always ahead, with hope and cheerfulness, for new opportunities.
Wednesday, March 27, 2019
With love and prayers by F. Jarvis. Quotes IV
-But I was wrong. If anything I am less happy because I now realize that in the future when I get something I think I want, like a good job, that will not make me happy either.
-There is nothing wrong with wanting to get into a good college. But, far more, I hope you know why you want to do that in terms of a much larger vision for your life. Getting into college is a good short-term goal, but it is not an ultimate vision for life.
-Any worthy long-term vision must take life's most basic realities into account. Nothing more certain, about our lives than our own deaths. How desperately we try to avoid considering death!
-I never thought about dying. We we are all going to die. If you want a great vision for your life, you need to begin by dealing with that single most certain reality.
-Happiness in life comes from a worthy vision of all of life, in all its reality including the inevitability of our own death. Try to imagine yourself at your own funeral. What is it that you want people to say about you? That's the question you have to answer if you want to find a long-range vision for your life. What do you want people to say about you when you are dead?
-Who we want to be?
-It has been said that the saddest words in any language are: it's too late. For many people my age, it is almost too late. They find themselves trapped. You have the greatest treasure of all on your side: time.
-Your vision of who you want to be will become deeper and richer and wiser as you mature. But the very fact that right now you step aside from the day to day concerns and pressures and ask the ultimate questions will prevent you from just going along in life. The very fact that you try now to find a vision that will encompass all the years you will be here on earth will help prevent you from drifting through life, mistaking short-term goals for long-term visions.
-There is nothing wrong with wanting to get into a good college. But, far more, I hope you know why you want to do that in terms of a much larger vision for your life. Getting into college is a good short-term goal, but it is not an ultimate vision for life.
-Any worthy long-term vision must take life's most basic realities into account. Nothing more certain, about our lives than our own deaths. How desperately we try to avoid considering death!
-I never thought about dying. We we are all going to die. If you want a great vision for your life, you need to begin by dealing with that single most certain reality.
-Happiness in life comes from a worthy vision of all of life, in all its reality including the inevitability of our own death. Try to imagine yourself at your own funeral. What is it that you want people to say about you? That's the question you have to answer if you want to find a long-range vision for your life. What do you want people to say about you when you are dead?
-Who we want to be?
-It has been said that the saddest words in any language are: it's too late. For many people my age, it is almost too late. They find themselves trapped. You have the greatest treasure of all on your side: time.
-Your vision of who you want to be will become deeper and richer and wiser as you mature. But the very fact that right now you step aside from the day to day concerns and pressures and ask the ultimate questions will prevent you from just going along in life. The very fact that you try now to find a vision that will encompass all the years you will be here on earth will help prevent you from drifting through life, mistaking short-term goals for long-term visions.
With love and prayers by F. Jarvis. Quotes III
-If you want to be healed, restored, reinvigorated, you must stop and wait upon the Lord, stop and take stock.
-There is something in our matures that makes us resist thinking, resist helping ourselves. There is a fear of stopping, a fear of taking stock, of thinking about ourselves. We need to overcome that inner rebelliousness to take control, to take charge of our own lives. We need to stop. The Quakes call this centering down, quieting ourselves, waiting upon the Lord.
-We stop in life in order to look and listen for clues about the meaning and purpose of our lives. We find meaning only if we are looking and listening for it.
-You never see unless you stop and look diligently.
-If you stop and assiduously look for the meaning of your life, your goals and objectives, a star will always appear and guide you, perhaps not where you think you want to go, but to a truth greater than you can imagine.
-St. Luke tells us in his Gospel that when the angels sang their song that night, only the shepherds heard it. The shepherds were the lowest class of society. They were out in their fields, in the silence of the night, watching their sheep, listening.
-The foolish among you will say, because I don't see it, it isn't there. Because I don't hear it, it isn't there. The wise among you will realize that to see and hear you have to stop and be quiet. You have to center down. You have to shut up. You have to wait. Then you will see and then you will hear.
-Having myself lived in a glass house, however, I cannot throw stones.
-All of life should be an awakening of awareness.
-The reality beyond sensual, that reality that cannot be seen or touched or heard or smelled. to our awareness of that Reality that, though impenetrable to us, really exists.
-It's been my experience, that's it's often the nuts who ask the ultimate questions.
-If any of your boys want to become doctors, send them to me. I will tell them why they should not. I no longer enjoy what I do. Why do you keep doing it, then? I asked him. Because I like the things I can buy with the money I make. And he talked about his cars, his stereos, and the other adult toys he buys to give him moments of pleasure amid a life he hates, moments of escape from the pain.
-There is something in our matures that makes us resist thinking, resist helping ourselves. There is a fear of stopping, a fear of taking stock, of thinking about ourselves. We need to overcome that inner rebelliousness to take control, to take charge of our own lives. We need to stop. The Quakes call this centering down, quieting ourselves, waiting upon the Lord.
-We stop in life in order to look and listen for clues about the meaning and purpose of our lives. We find meaning only if we are looking and listening for it.
-You never see unless you stop and look diligently.
-If you stop and assiduously look for the meaning of your life, your goals and objectives, a star will always appear and guide you, perhaps not where you think you want to go, but to a truth greater than you can imagine.
-St. Luke tells us in his Gospel that when the angels sang their song that night, only the shepherds heard it. The shepherds were the lowest class of society. They were out in their fields, in the silence of the night, watching their sheep, listening.
-The foolish among you will say, because I don't see it, it isn't there. Because I don't hear it, it isn't there. The wise among you will realize that to see and hear you have to stop and be quiet. You have to center down. You have to shut up. You have to wait. Then you will see and then you will hear.
-Having myself lived in a glass house, however, I cannot throw stones.
-All of life should be an awakening of awareness.
-The reality beyond sensual, that reality that cannot be seen or touched or heard or smelled. to our awareness of that Reality that, though impenetrable to us, really exists.
-It's been my experience, that's it's often the nuts who ask the ultimate questions.
-If any of your boys want to become doctors, send them to me. I will tell them why they should not. I no longer enjoy what I do. Why do you keep doing it, then? I asked him. Because I like the things I can buy with the money I make. And he talked about his cars, his stereos, and the other adult toys he buys to give him moments of pleasure amid a life he hates, moments of escape from the pain.
Tuesday, March 26, 2019
With love and prayers by F. Jarvis. Quotes II
-All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why.
-Knowledge and wisdom are not the same.
-I see so many people just going through the motions: get into a good school so you can get into a good college so you can get a good job so you can get a better job so you can get rich and die. I want more than knowledge; I want wisdom. I don't want to exist; I want to live.
-Remember to be modest.
-Greed does not bring happiness. If you want to be happy, you have to go beyond self-interest.
-Choose to live. Born originals. How comes it to pass that we die copies? Given the opportunity to live, how comes it to pass that so many choose only to exist?
-The only life worth living is the hard life. The hard life is the better way. Whatever else the harder way is, it is not dull. It is, I would submit, much more exciting, much more rewarding, and, dare we say it, much more fun.
-It may well be that the most valuable experiences we have in adolescence are not our triumphs or our successes or our popularity, but rather our disappointments and defeats and rejections. We grow more through our sufferings than through our successes.
-How to react to life's realities?
1. Sit down and make a list of all the things I have to do, all the obligations, all the worries.
2. To do something, anything, to get my mind off my own problems.
3. Cut problems up in smaller pieces.
4. Count your blessings.
5. Ask for help.
6. Seek of Divine help in prayer.
-If a school is preparing young people for life, and it is, it would be cruelly wrong to give young people the impression that life is devoid of pain, to give adolescents the impression that in life you don't have to get along with people you don't like or perform tasks that are difficult or unpleasant.
-A mature attitude toward life begins with the premise that life does not accommodate itself to us; we must accommodate ourselves to life. And life often presents us with difficulties.
-We have to adjust ourselves to life's inconveniences, to life's disappointments. We don't get everything we want. We can waste a lot of energy blaming people, complaining or lamenting. But people who have a mature attitude expect that they will have to come to grips with the disappointments life doles out.
-We are not victims. Just because life does not fulfill your every hope does not mean that you have to adopt the attitude of a victim.
-Lowering of expectation alone as an attitude can be nothing more than craven pessimism, disillusioned cynicism. It must always be accompanied by idealism.
-Knowledge and wisdom are not the same.
-I see so many people just going through the motions: get into a good school so you can get into a good college so you can get a good job so you can get a better job so you can get rich and die. I want more than knowledge; I want wisdom. I don't want to exist; I want to live.
-Remember to be modest.
-Greed does not bring happiness. If you want to be happy, you have to go beyond self-interest.
-Choose to live. Born originals. How comes it to pass that we die copies? Given the opportunity to live, how comes it to pass that so many choose only to exist?
-The only life worth living is the hard life. The hard life is the better way. Whatever else the harder way is, it is not dull. It is, I would submit, much more exciting, much more rewarding, and, dare we say it, much more fun.
-It may well be that the most valuable experiences we have in adolescence are not our triumphs or our successes or our popularity, but rather our disappointments and defeats and rejections. We grow more through our sufferings than through our successes.
-How to react to life's realities?
1. Sit down and make a list of all the things I have to do, all the obligations, all the worries.
2. To do something, anything, to get my mind off my own problems.
3. Cut problems up in smaller pieces.
4. Count your blessings.
5. Ask for help.
6. Seek of Divine help in prayer.
-If a school is preparing young people for life, and it is, it would be cruelly wrong to give young people the impression that life is devoid of pain, to give adolescents the impression that in life you don't have to get along with people you don't like or perform tasks that are difficult or unpleasant.
-A mature attitude toward life begins with the premise that life does not accommodate itself to us; we must accommodate ourselves to life. And life often presents us with difficulties.
-We have to adjust ourselves to life's inconveniences, to life's disappointments. We don't get everything we want. We can waste a lot of energy blaming people, complaining or lamenting. But people who have a mature attitude expect that they will have to come to grips with the disappointments life doles out.
-We are not victims. Just because life does not fulfill your every hope does not mean that you have to adopt the attitude of a victim.
-Lowering of expectation alone as an attitude can be nothing more than craven pessimism, disillusioned cynicism. It must always be accompanied by idealism.
Monday, March 25, 2019
With love and prayers by F. Jarvis. Quotes
-People say you can call yourself fortunate if you are happy with two-thirds or more of your life. I love ninety-nine percent of mine
-At the start of each term Dr. Jarvis addresses the boys as would a father, a pastor, or a mentor, and while he loves them, he is not their pal: he is the Head, and the boys seem to like it that way.
-Roxbury Latin has chosen to remain small, while at the same time its resources have been so wisely husbanded for so long that it is able to provide the very best education to all who meet its requirements, without regard to ability to pay.
-What we must look for here is first, religious and moral principles; secondly, gentlemanly conduct; and thirdly, intellectual ability. Dr. Thomas Arnold.
-It is not what the story says but what the story means.
-Times of maximum danger provide maximum opportunity.
-Happiness in life is not the absence of pressure and stress. Happiness in life is finding a way to deal with the inevitable pressure and stress of life.
-Don't you get tired of working with teenage boys year after year? I never do, because no boy is like any other. You have to win kids one by one. You have to find the key to each individual boy, and that is utterly engrossing and endlessly intriguing. We have only two weapons we can bring to the battle of winning kids over: love and prayer.
-Those of us who believe that life has meaning and purpose, who believe that honesty, simplicity, respect, and concern for others are eternal and life, enhancing values, cannot in good conscience remain silent.
-Education outside the moral context was dangerous.
-There has never been a more important time than now for headmasters and teachers to speak up about the meaning of life and about values to live by. That is what I have tried to do.
-Teenagers love biography, they are fascinated by the concrete reality of life experiences.
-Why am I doing this? Why have I chosen this life? Why am I working so hard?
-At the start of each term Dr. Jarvis addresses the boys as would a father, a pastor, or a mentor, and while he loves them, he is not their pal: he is the Head, and the boys seem to like it that way.
-Roxbury Latin has chosen to remain small, while at the same time its resources have been so wisely husbanded for so long that it is able to provide the very best education to all who meet its requirements, without regard to ability to pay.
-What we must look for here is first, religious and moral principles; secondly, gentlemanly conduct; and thirdly, intellectual ability. Dr. Thomas Arnold.
-It is not what the story says but what the story means.
-Times of maximum danger provide maximum opportunity.
-Happiness in life is not the absence of pressure and stress. Happiness in life is finding a way to deal with the inevitable pressure and stress of life.
-Don't you get tired of working with teenage boys year after year? I never do, because no boy is like any other. You have to win kids one by one. You have to find the key to each individual boy, and that is utterly engrossing and endlessly intriguing. We have only two weapons we can bring to the battle of winning kids over: love and prayer.
-Those of us who believe that life has meaning and purpose, who believe that honesty, simplicity, respect, and concern for others are eternal and life, enhancing values, cannot in good conscience remain silent.
-Education outside the moral context was dangerous.
-There has never been a more important time than now for headmasters and teachers to speak up about the meaning of life and about values to live by. That is what I have tried to do.
-Teenagers love biography, they are fascinated by the concrete reality of life experiences.
-Why am I doing this? Why have I chosen this life? Why am I working so hard?
Wednesday, March 20, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XV
-The husband puts his wife first; the wife puts her husband first.
-Parents are neither weak nor harsh but rather affectionately assertive.
-Parents do not allow rivals on the home to undermine their authority or undo their lessons of right and wrong.
-They give their children a sense of family history and continuity.
-Count on inviting three times as many people as you hope will show up.
-Parents understand that they must lead their children to see the invisible.
-Mom and Dad want their children to be active, and they know that all active people make mistakes.
-Parents are neither weak nor harsh but rather affectionately assertive.
-Parents do not allow rivals on the home to undermine their authority or undo their lessons of right and wrong.
-They give their children a sense of family history and continuity.
-Count on inviting three times as many people as you hope will show up.
-Parents understand that they must lead their children to see the invisible.
-Mom and Dad want their children to be active, and they know that all active people make mistakes.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XIV
-The way a man treats his siblings is the same way he will treat his wife.
-You can tell a lot about people's quality by:
1. The kind of friends they choose.
2. The heroes they admire.
3. The vigor and joy that they put into their work.
4. How they treat their parents and siblings.
-Everybody is a package deal, a mixture of good qualities and personal shortcomings.
-The whole world is divided into two types of people. On on side are the vast majority: normal, decent people who seek goodness, truth, and beauty in life. On the other side are the minority: those who single-mindedly chase after power above all else.
-Our moral principles are our compass in life, and they simplify life's choices. To people without principles, life is always complicated.
-Fear in the face of adversity is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it's a sign of intelligence, for only fools are never afraid. Courage consists of doing our duty in spite of our fears.
-Money is just an instrument for the welfare of our loved ones and those in need. And that's all it is.
-Real friendship is based on mutual respect.
-When you are thinking seriously of marrying someone, pay close attention to how that person treats his or her own family.
-People's greatest need is to feel appreciated.
-Confident , considerate people are never afraid to apologize.
-Good manners are the way we show respect for other people's rights and dignity. Since courtesy shows good judgment and self-control, it wins people's respect.
-Don't interrupt people.
-When you converse with anyone, make eye contact.
-Be always punctual.
-When you are invited to someone's home, try to arrive on the dot, no more than five minutes late.
-When you want to praise someone, make it sincere and brief. If you overdo praise, it sounds phony.
-The best predictor of future success is past success.
-There's not tyranny worse than an inability to control oneself.
-The real happiness comes from doing good, not feeling good.
-Make your children wait for something they want.
-Show them who to recognize materialism when they see it, and shun it.
-Teach them courtesy and class.
-Explain but don't argue.
-Teach them indifference to be different.
-Keep your priorities straight.
-Your children may forget most of the details of what you teach them, but they will remember what was important to you.
-You can tell a lot about people's quality by:
1. The kind of friends they choose.
2. The heroes they admire.
3. The vigor and joy that they put into their work.
4. How they treat their parents and siblings.
-Everybody is a package deal, a mixture of good qualities and personal shortcomings.
-The whole world is divided into two types of people. On on side are the vast majority: normal, decent people who seek goodness, truth, and beauty in life. On the other side are the minority: those who single-mindedly chase after power above all else.
-Our moral principles are our compass in life, and they simplify life's choices. To people without principles, life is always complicated.
-Fear in the face of adversity is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it's a sign of intelligence, for only fools are never afraid. Courage consists of doing our duty in spite of our fears.
-Money is just an instrument for the welfare of our loved ones and those in need. And that's all it is.
-Real friendship is based on mutual respect.
-When you are thinking seriously of marrying someone, pay close attention to how that person treats his or her own family.
-People's greatest need is to feel appreciated.
-Confident , considerate people are never afraid to apologize.
-Good manners are the way we show respect for other people's rights and dignity. Since courtesy shows good judgment and self-control, it wins people's respect.
-Don't interrupt people.
-When you converse with anyone, make eye contact.
-Be always punctual.
-When you are invited to someone's home, try to arrive on the dot, no more than five minutes late.
-When you want to praise someone, make it sincere and brief. If you overdo praise, it sounds phony.
-The best predictor of future success is past success.
-There's not tyranny worse than an inability to control oneself.
-The real happiness comes from doing good, not feeling good.
-Make your children wait for something they want.
-Show them who to recognize materialism when they see it, and shun it.
-Teach them courtesy and class.
-Explain but don't argue.
-Teach them indifference to be different.
-Keep your priorities straight.
-Your children may forget most of the details of what you teach them, but they will remember what was important to you.
Tuesday, March 19, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XIII
-Effective parent leaders team up to control the family's access to the tube.
-We will watch programs and play games that bring us together as a family.
-Don't let uncertainty lead to inaction.
-Think of time spent with the tube as time away from the family.
-It's unnatural and positively unhealthy for kids to sit still for hours.
-Have only one television in the house.
-All in all, it's not a bad thing for your children to get used to living a little bit different from the crowd, especially in moral matters.
-If young people get in good shape by the time they are sixteen, they will probably stay that way till their mid-forties or later.
-A great husband and wife share one mind and will concerning their children's upbringing.
-Confident kids resist drugs, peer-group pressures.
-How can parents work at strengthening a mutual support?
1. Set some time apart each week to talk about each of your children.
2. Determine that you will never ever oppose or demean each other in front of your children, especially when one of you is correcting a child.
3. Don't ever carry on a heated quarrel in front of your children.
-It is healthy for children to see that sometimes even loving parents will argue but then swiftly reconcile. Everyone has faults and anyone can have a bad day. Spotty flashes of anger flare up in nearly all marriages, but apologies swiftly cover these over. I am sorry... please forgive me... is one fo the strongest bonds of marriage.
-If you sense that a disagreement is getting out of hand, signal with each other. Whatever it takes, do anything rather than scare the kids.
-When your children ask your permission in a fairly important matter, put off your decision until you have checked with you spouse. And your spouse follows the same deferred decision policy with respect to you.
-No matter what you do, realize that each of you may have to swallow your pride a bit for the sake of presenting a united front to your children.
-Kids don't just need to be taught right from wrong; they need specific, concrete words and terms to fasten these concepts into their judgment and keep them there: honor, integrity, ethics, self-respect, etc.
-Judgment means the ability to make significant distinctions in life:
-We will watch programs and play games that bring us together as a family.
-Don't let uncertainty lead to inaction.
-Think of time spent with the tube as time away from the family.
-It's unnatural and positively unhealthy for kids to sit still for hours.
-Have only one television in the house.
-All in all, it's not a bad thing for your children to get used to living a little bit different from the crowd, especially in moral matters.
-If young people get in good shape by the time they are sixteen, they will probably stay that way till their mid-forties or later.
-A great husband and wife share one mind and will concerning their children's upbringing.
-Confident kids resist drugs, peer-group pressures.
-How can parents work at strengthening a mutual support?
1. Set some time apart each week to talk about each of your children.
2. Determine that you will never ever oppose or demean each other in front of your children, especially when one of you is correcting a child.
3. Don't ever carry on a heated quarrel in front of your children.
-It is healthy for children to see that sometimes even loving parents will argue but then swiftly reconcile. Everyone has faults and anyone can have a bad day. Spotty flashes of anger flare up in nearly all marriages, but apologies swiftly cover these over. I am sorry... please forgive me... is one fo the strongest bonds of marriage.
-If you sense that a disagreement is getting out of hand, signal with each other. Whatever it takes, do anything rather than scare the kids.
-When your children ask your permission in a fairly important matter, put off your decision until you have checked with you spouse. And your spouse follows the same deferred decision policy with respect to you.
-No matter what you do, realize that each of you may have to swallow your pride a bit for the sake of presenting a united front to your children.
-Kids don't just need to be taught right from wrong; they need specific, concrete words and terms to fasten these concepts into their judgment and keep them there: honor, integrity, ethics, self-respect, etc.
-Judgment means the ability to make significant distinctions in life:
- Needs from wants.
- Heroes from celebrities.
- Love from eroticism.
- Courage from cowardice.
- Objective from subjective.
-Active people make mistakes.
-Put worthwhile books into your children's hands, read aloud to them.
-Encourage children to form opinions, but to base these on facts.
-Integrity means unity of intention, word, and action.
-People respect for your world, your integrity depends hugely on your commitment to keep your commitments.
-You teach integrity in the areas of accepting invitations and keeping appointments.
-The last place where well-brought up kids behave rightly is at home.
-When the kids see that Mom considers Dad the Number One person in the family, and Dad treats Mom as Number One, then most other family lessons fall into place.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XII
-Children do have rights:
1. Right to privacy up to a point.
2. Right to presumption of innocence.
3. Right not to be publicly embarrassed.
4. Right to just punishment.
5. Right to a second chance.
-Never, ever, undercut you spouse if it was he or she who witnessed things. If you think your spouse is mistaken or over reactive, then discuss matters privately.
-The family is one place in the world where we can always count on a fresh start.
-When you apologize, you teach them a valuable lesson: that you put justice ahead of your ego.
-What you are really teaching your children is ethical conduct among responsible adults. You are treating your children as young adults in the making, and you begin by respecting them as people.
-Don't neglect your wife. Wake up. Pay attention. Listen to her carefully.
-Don't undercut your husband. Do all you can to lead your children to respect their father and his authority.
-Don't underestimate your children. Have high ambitions for their swift growth into maturity.
-Don't treat teenagers like large children. Tell them that you distinguish between integrity and judgment.
-Don't ever tell your teens that the high-school years are the best part of their lives.
-Don't let your kids weasel out of commitments.
-Don't ask children if they would like to do something that you expect them to do anyway.
-When you are correcting your kids and they ask why, don't argue with them. If they are looking for an explanation, give it once only. If they persist with why? then they are looking for an argument, not an explanation.
-Don't let your kids dress in such a way as to bring shame to the family.
-Don't miss small opportunities to talk with your children.
-Don't shout at your kids all the time.
-Don't get trapped into prolonged blazing arguments. On those rare occasions where the kids do something truly outrageous, they should experience outrage. Otherwise they won't know what's outrageous.
-Don't forget to praise your children, and be specific about it.
-Come down to your children's level, but don't stay there.
-Don't worry so much about trivia.
-Confidence in their parent's control forms the basis for their own growth in self-confidence.
-In those families where parents win out as boss, by the time kids are five, they years of adolescence are relatively untroubled.
-The why of correction is more important than the how.
1. Right to privacy up to a point.
2. Right to presumption of innocence.
3. Right not to be publicly embarrassed.
4. Right to just punishment.
5. Right to a second chance.
-Never, ever, undercut you spouse if it was he or she who witnessed things. If you think your spouse is mistaken or over reactive, then discuss matters privately.
-The family is one place in the world where we can always count on a fresh start.
-When you apologize, you teach them a valuable lesson: that you put justice ahead of your ego.
-What you are really teaching your children is ethical conduct among responsible adults. You are treating your children as young adults in the making, and you begin by respecting them as people.
-Don't neglect your wife. Wake up. Pay attention. Listen to her carefully.
-Don't undercut your husband. Do all you can to lead your children to respect their father and his authority.
-Don't underestimate your children. Have high ambitions for their swift growth into maturity.
-Don't treat teenagers like large children. Tell them that you distinguish between integrity and judgment.
-Don't ever tell your teens that the high-school years are the best part of their lives.
-Don't let your kids weasel out of commitments.
-Don't ask children if they would like to do something that you expect them to do anyway.
-When you are correcting your kids and they ask why, don't argue with them. If they are looking for an explanation, give it once only. If they persist with why? then they are looking for an argument, not an explanation.
-Don't let your kids dress in such a way as to bring shame to the family.
-Don't miss small opportunities to talk with your children.
-Don't shout at your kids all the time.
-Don't get trapped into prolonged blazing arguments. On those rare occasions where the kids do something truly outrageous, they should experience outrage. Otherwise they won't know what's outrageous.
-Don't forget to praise your children, and be specific about it.
-Come down to your children's level, but don't stay there.
-Don't worry so much about trivia.
-Confidence in their parent's control forms the basis for their own growth in self-confidence.
-In those families where parents win out as boss, by the time kids are five, they years of adolescence are relatively untroubled.
-The why of correction is more important than the how.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XI
-Discipline really means confident, effective parental leadership.
-Discipline in family life means leading the children to acquire the great virtues of sound judgment, a sense of responsibility, personal courage, self-control, and magnanimity.
-Effective parents practice what we might call affectionate assertiveness. They set out to correct the fault, not the person. They are willing to risk being unpopular.
-How do you show affectionate love to your children?
You physically touch them. You take them by the hand while walking together. When walking by them, you pat them on the head or ruffle their hair a bit.
-You should listen to your children with your eyes. In your eyes they can read your soul, your love for them, your pride in them, your hopes for their future.
-What can you do to punish misbehavior in fairly serious matters?
Time outs
Removing privileges
Putting them to work.
-Many healthy families hold to this policy: each child's bedroom is a place for study, reading, chatting, and playing with siblings, and sleep.
-Leisure is really enjoyable only when we have earned it.
-You can be tough with normal children and quite effective with them if, and only if, they perceive that you are trying to be fair.
-Establish three levels of misbehavior:
1. Misdemeanors.
2. Serious infractions.
3. Felony infractions.
-Discipline in family life means leading the children to acquire the great virtues of sound judgment, a sense of responsibility, personal courage, self-control, and magnanimity.
-Effective parents practice what we might call affectionate assertiveness. They set out to correct the fault, not the person. They are willing to risk being unpopular.
-How do you show affectionate love to your children?
You physically touch them. You take them by the hand while walking together. When walking by them, you pat them on the head or ruffle their hair a bit.
-You should listen to your children with your eyes. In your eyes they can read your soul, your love for them, your pride in them, your hopes for their future.
-What can you do to punish misbehavior in fairly serious matters?
Time outs
Removing privileges
Putting them to work.
-Many healthy families hold to this policy: each child's bedroom is a place for study, reading, chatting, and playing with siblings, and sleep.
-Leisure is really enjoyable only when we have earned it.
-You can be tough with normal children and quite effective with them if, and only if, they perceive that you are trying to be fair.
-Establish three levels of misbehavior:
1. Misdemeanors.
- Tracking mud in the house.
- Noisy rough-housing.
- Forgetting to do chores.
- Failing to put things away, etc.
Low level response, and sometimes just letting the matter go.
2. Serious infractions.
- Name-calling.
- Taking property without permission.
- Physical aggression.
- Profanity, etc.
You must correct these serious lapses of justice.
3. Felony infractions.
- Showing disrespect for you personally.
- Attempt to defy your authority.
- Deliberately lie to you.
Punishment should be swift and memorable.
Everything you have to teach your children depends on their respect for you and for your authority and for their own word of honor. If you lose this, you lose them.
Monday, March 18, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes X
-Family loyalty saves many teens and young adults from disaster. How does this loyalty come about? Through the power of WE.
-Active family rules cement the kids' rock-hard foundation in place and form the framework for their growth in character.
-Why does a healthy family have rules? For one simple reason: because it has a job to do, a service mission to carry out.
-Every serious enterprise has three basic elements:
1. A mission.
2. A responsible chain of command.
3. A set of performance standards.
-All the rules directly or implicitly, began with the word WE.
-The parents lived by the rules themselves, the same ones they imposed on their children. They practiced what they preached and led the way by their personal example.
-As the day goes, so goes one's life.
-All the rules seemed to fall into five distinct categories:
1. WE respect the rights and sensibilities of others.
2. WE all contribute to making our home a clean, orderly, civilized place to live.
3. WE give people information they need to carry out their responsibilities.
4. WE use electronic media only to promote family welfare, never to work against it.
5. We love and honor our Creator above all things; we thank Him for His blessings and ask His help for our needs and those of others.
-Active family rules cement the kids' rock-hard foundation in place and form the framework for their growth in character.
-Why does a healthy family have rules? For one simple reason: because it has a job to do, a service mission to carry out.
-Every serious enterprise has three basic elements:
1. A mission.
2. A responsible chain of command.
3. A set of performance standards.
-All the rules directly or implicitly, began with the word WE.
-The parents lived by the rules themselves, the same ones they imposed on their children. They practiced what they preached and led the way by their personal example.
-As the day goes, so goes one's life.
-All the rules seemed to fall into five distinct categories:
1. WE respect the rights and sensibilities of others.
- We say: thank you, please, excuse me, I am sorry, I give my word of honor.
- We don't gossip.
- We keep our family's affairs within the family.
2. WE all contribute to making our home a clean, orderly, civilized place to live.
- We do not make promises unless we commit ourselves to carry them out.
- We show special respect to older people.
- We celebrate each other's accomplishments.
3. WE give people information they need to carry out their responsibilities.
- If we are going to be late, we call.
4. WE use electronic media only to promote family welfare, never to work against it.
- We permit nothing in our home that offends our moral principles.
5. We love and honor our Creator above all things; we thank Him for His blessings and ask His help for our needs and those of others.
- We serve the Lord by serving others.
-A great family never attains perfection, but it will never stop trying. To keep trying, no matter what, is the essence of greatness.
-Reaching an ideal is nearly impossible, but to try is always possible.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes IX
-All leaders understand, and shun, the lamentable consequences of neglect.
-Leaders act. Real leaders never let indecision lead to inaction. When confronted with several tough choices of what to do, they do not shrink back.
-Neglect, to do nothing, is the worst mistake of all.
-Leaders are confident of their authority, which is as weighty as their responsibility.
-Authority means the right to make decisions and then impose them in order to carry out some responsibility.
-Rightful authority is both benevolent and beneficial. Leaders in any enterprise serve their people, often at great sacrifice, by constructing order out of chaos and by channeling people's best efforts toward some worthy goal. This is why service-oriented leaders are esteemed by their people, often with deep respect and even devotion.
-Authority means, among other things, the right to be obeyed.
-Leaders have joiners, not followers.
-To lead effectively means to get out in front and pull.
-All great leaders get out in front and strive forward some noble goal, and they motivate others to join them. They inspire others to reach that ideal with them, all together in a spirit of adventurous teamwork. In other words, leaders rely on the power of we. They make no demands of others that they fail to make of themselves. They lead mostly by example.
-Leaders have both the strategic vision and the tenacity to focus on the job at hand.
-The strategic thinking of effective parent leaders seems to go like this:
1. A parent, like a farmer, does the very best he or she knows how, and then leaves the rest in the hands of God.
2. Loving, self-sacrificing parents, do not fall into extremes.
3. Their number one job is to build inner strengths in their children.
4. They teach their children that responsible grown-up life is not self-centered play, but mostly service to others.
5. All respect in life, at any age, arises from some perception of strength.
6. The more highly kids admire Dad and Mom, the more deeply will they adopt their parents' attitudes, values, and character.
7. Kids do not come into the world with strong character.
8. Every decade of life passes twice as fast as the one before.
-What circumstances lead some people to be confident?
1. Surrounded by love.
2. Lifelong habit of attacking and solving problems, mostly with success.
3. Habit of turning concerns into corrective action.
4. The undertake a mission so important that brings out the best in them.
5. They know that someplace on this earth they have loved ones who are absolutely crazy about them.
-Definitions of a leader:
1. A leader is a dealer in hope.
2. A leader has the ability to asses priorities and know which problems to ignore.
3. A leader must things happen.
4. A leader is one who can get people to do what they don't want to do.
5. A leader establishes a personal identity with his cause.
6. A leader has profound respect and sympathy for those he leads.
7. A leaders knows when to listen, when to explain, and when to act.
8. A leader is willing to stand alone.
9. A leader has to have a great heart, a clear mind, and a thick skin.
-Leaders act. Real leaders never let indecision lead to inaction. When confronted with several tough choices of what to do, they do not shrink back.
-Neglect, to do nothing, is the worst mistake of all.
-Leaders are confident of their authority, which is as weighty as their responsibility.
-Authority means the right to make decisions and then impose them in order to carry out some responsibility.
-Rightful authority is both benevolent and beneficial. Leaders in any enterprise serve their people, often at great sacrifice, by constructing order out of chaos and by channeling people's best efforts toward some worthy goal. This is why service-oriented leaders are esteemed by their people, often with deep respect and even devotion.
-Authority means, among other things, the right to be obeyed.
-Leaders have joiners, not followers.
-To lead effectively means to get out in front and pull.
-All great leaders get out in front and strive forward some noble goal, and they motivate others to join them. They inspire others to reach that ideal with them, all together in a spirit of adventurous teamwork. In other words, leaders rely on the power of we. They make no demands of others that they fail to make of themselves. They lead mostly by example.
-Leaders have both the strategic vision and the tenacity to focus on the job at hand.
-The strategic thinking of effective parent leaders seems to go like this:
1. A parent, like a farmer, does the very best he or she knows how, and then leaves the rest in the hands of God.
2. Loving, self-sacrificing parents, do not fall into extremes.
3. Their number one job is to build inner strengths in their children.
4. They teach their children that responsible grown-up life is not self-centered play, but mostly service to others.
5. All respect in life, at any age, arises from some perception of strength.
6. The more highly kids admire Dad and Mom, the more deeply will they adopt their parents' attitudes, values, and character.
7. Kids do not come into the world with strong character.
8. Every decade of life passes twice as fast as the one before.
-What circumstances lead some people to be confident?
1. Surrounded by love.
2. Lifelong habit of attacking and solving problems, mostly with success.
3. Habit of turning concerns into corrective action.
4. The undertake a mission so important that brings out the best in them.
5. They know that someplace on this earth they have loved ones who are absolutely crazy about them.
-Definitions of a leader:
1. A leader is a dealer in hope.
2. A leader has the ability to asses priorities and know which problems to ignore.
3. A leader must things happen.
4. A leader is one who can get people to do what they don't want to do.
5. A leader establishes a personal identity with his cause.
6. A leader has profound respect and sympathy for those he leads.
7. A leaders knows when to listen, when to explain, and when to act.
8. A leader is willing to stand alone.
9. A leader has to have a great heart, a clear mind, and a thick skin.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes VIII
-The healthy family, the sporting adventure family, sees their children as adults in the making.
-Family rules are set in place not to control the children but rather to direct them. The rules have a purpose: to strengthen the kids' conscience and character through example and directed practice in responsible living.
-Parent either pay now, or they pay later.
-Responsible parents act as leaders in the family.
-Leaders are moved by a long-term vision, and so they win people's respect. Our most respected leaders are those who look farthest toward the future and foresee oncoming perils and opportunities.
-The farther and clearer the vision, the greater the respect.
-Parent leaders set high ideals for their children's later lives. They think of their children's future along these lines:
1. Children will have excellent judgment, especially in the choice of a spouse.
2. They will center their lives in a stable, happy marriage.
3. They will succeed in their careers, doing work they enjoy.
4. They will support their families comfortably but not luxuriously.
5. They will be generous to friends and those in need.
6. They will never live as quitters.
7. They will be nobody's fool or pushover.
8. When they've done wrong, they'll face the truth and apologize.
9. They will be esteemed for their honesty, integrity, hard work, generosity, religious commitment, and confident good humor.
10. They will remain close to family.
11. They will live by their parents' principles.
12. Their whole lives will be moved by love.
-Family rules are set in place not to control the children but rather to direct them. The rules have a purpose: to strengthen the kids' conscience and character through example and directed practice in responsible living.
-Parent either pay now, or they pay later.
-Responsible parents act as leaders in the family.
-Leaders are moved by a long-term vision, and so they win people's respect. Our most respected leaders are those who look farthest toward the future and foresee oncoming perils and opportunities.
-The farther and clearer the vision, the greater the respect.
-Parent leaders set high ideals for their children's later lives. They think of their children's future along these lines:
1. Children will have excellent judgment, especially in the choice of a spouse.
2. They will center their lives in a stable, happy marriage.
3. They will succeed in their careers, doing work they enjoy.
4. They will support their families comfortably but not luxuriously.
5. They will be generous to friends and those in need.
6. They will never live as quitters.
7. They will be nobody's fool or pushover.
8. When they've done wrong, they'll face the truth and apologize.
9. They will be esteemed for their honesty, integrity, hard work, generosity, religious commitment, and confident good humor.
10. They will remain close to family.
11. They will live by their parents' principles.
12. Their whole lives will be moved by love.
Saturday, March 16, 2019
Thursday, March 14, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes VII
-Negative lessons are valuable.
-Clearly, something is wrong in today's society. We look around in our workplaces and neighborhoods and see young people who are immature and irresolute, soft and irresponsible, uneasy about themselves and their futures.
-What is striking today is the huge percentage of seriously troubled youths from normal families. Some sort of subtle dysfunction is corroding large numbers of typical, middle-class homes.
-The suicide rate among young people in the United States is directly proportional to family income.
-Normal American families seem to fall into to broad categories:
1. Self-absorbed consumerist family.
2. Other-centered sporting adventure family.
-Consumerist parents are unconcerned with growth in virtue, whether for themselves or their children whom are steadily apprenticed through childhood as consumers, not producers.
-The life of grown-up work is solely for piling up spending money. We work in order to spend, we produce in order to consume.
-Staring in their middle-school years, very many self-absorbed kids grow bored with juvenile amusements and avidly turn to novel kinds of powerfully pleasurable sensations: alcohol, drugs, the erotic and increasingly violent rock culture, vandalism, reckless driving, recreational sex. Because their life has centered on things, they are disposed to put things ahead of people, to treat people as objects.
-In consumerist families, both parents give in readily to children's wishes and feelings, even when they judge that this might be a mistake. So the children fail to distinguish between wants and needs. To the children, wants are needs. As a result, feelings not conscience become a guide for action.
-In the consumerist family, children have a low tolerance for discomfort or even inconvenience. Their outlook on life remains unchanged from infancy: me first. These children complain and whine about situations that can't be helped: bad weather, reasonable delays, physical discomfort, moderately heavy workloads, personality differences and the like.
-Materialism really means seeing and treating other people as things.
-Respect for people nearly always derives from some perception of strength.
-Many well-off middle class, even wealthy, families are not materialistic.
-Clearly, something is wrong in today's society. We look around in our workplaces and neighborhoods and see young people who are immature and irresolute, soft and irresponsible, uneasy about themselves and their futures.
-What is striking today is the huge percentage of seriously troubled youths from normal families. Some sort of subtle dysfunction is corroding large numbers of typical, middle-class homes.
-The suicide rate among young people in the United States is directly proportional to family income.
-Normal American families seem to fall into to broad categories:
1. Self-absorbed consumerist family.
2. Other-centered sporting adventure family.
-Consumerist parents are unconcerned with growth in virtue, whether for themselves or their children whom are steadily apprenticed through childhood as consumers, not producers.
-The life of grown-up work is solely for piling up spending money. We work in order to spend, we produce in order to consume.
-Staring in their middle-school years, very many self-absorbed kids grow bored with juvenile amusements and avidly turn to novel kinds of powerfully pleasurable sensations: alcohol, drugs, the erotic and increasingly violent rock culture, vandalism, reckless driving, recreational sex. Because their life has centered on things, they are disposed to put things ahead of people, to treat people as objects.
-In consumerist families, both parents give in readily to children's wishes and feelings, even when they judge that this might be a mistake. So the children fail to distinguish between wants and needs. To the children, wants are needs. As a result, feelings not conscience become a guide for action.
-In the consumerist family, children have a low tolerance for discomfort or even inconvenience. Their outlook on life remains unchanged from infancy: me first. These children complain and whine about situations that can't be helped: bad weather, reasonable delays, physical discomfort, moderately heavy workloads, personality differences and the like.
-Materialism really means seeing and treating other people as things.
-Respect for people nearly always derives from some perception of strength.
-Many well-off middle class, even wealthy, families are not materialistic.
Wednesday, March 13, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes VI
-Temperance is power to say no, at will, to our laziness, passions, and appetites. It is the power, built through practice, to wait for rewards and to earn them.
-Self-controlled people do not turn wants into needs, and they know the difference.
-Temperance means sensible enjoyment. They enjoyment comes from other people, not just things. To the extent that they take pleasure in food, drink, entertainment, and work, it's because of the company, family and friends, with whom they share these things. They are affable, fun to be with, enjoyable to work with. Their greatest delight is to delight their friends.
-Temperance means mastery of one's speech and actions. Temperance people have class.
-The greatness of heart is the all-important spiritual power that gives force to all the other virtues. The ancient Romans called it magnanimity, greatness of soul.
-Heart is the capacity and desire to surpass ourselves, to endure or overcome anything for the sake of somebody else's welfare or happiness. It's generosity, the drive to give others the best of what we have for their sake, and expect little or nothing in return.
-Where does someone put his heart? What does he love most in life? What would he be willing to suffer for, even die for? Answer these questions and you put your finger on that person's values.
-To speak of people's values, is to speak of their priorities in life: what comes first to them, then, what comes second, third, and on down the line. Where, in what order, do people put their passions? What do they love most?
-People differ in their values because they differ in what they love most and least.
-We can tell people's values by which of these loves they hold closest, and which they belittle or ignore.
-Some parents give their hearts to God, family, friends, truth, and service-directed work. Everybody who knows these parents, including their children, considers them great people. Other parents, unfortunately, put power, career, and comfort ahead of anything else, and their families suffer, both now and later.
-In adolescence, teens are strongly tempted to put conformity and pleasure ahead of their family. But if mom and dad won their hearts in childhood, that is, if teenagers' love for family comes first, they can shunt these allurements aside. They love their parents deeply, and so will never betray them.
-Do your children know your priorities, the loves you hold above all others? Tell them. Urge them to follow you, to embrace your values as their own and live by them. And warn them about one of life's greatest disasters: to marry someone with mismatched priorities, whose values conflict with their own.
-A great person is one who never loses the heart he had as a child.
-What are the great loves of childhood?
1. Love for God.
2. Love for family.
3. Love for life, friends, laughter.
4. Love for those in need.
5. Love for the truth.
-Great people are those who possess within their souls the powers of adults and the hearts of children.
-Your job as a parent, your mission in life, is to raise your children to this ideal: to form generosity and character so deeply within them as to direct the course of their lives to greatness.
-The happiest people we meet in life are those who somehow enjoy what they have to do anyway, that is their duties.
-Tell someone he's brave, and you make him brave. Courage does not mean fearlessness. Means doing what is right despite our fears. Courageous people do not lose their fears, they just overcome them.
-We can change people's character but not their temperament.
-People who are most successful in business and professional life seem to have two personal traits:
1. The know how to concentrate and work hard at will, even when they don't feel like it.
2. They have excellent social skills: they are courteous, gracious, ethical, consistently good listeners, and explainers.
-Self-controlled people do not turn wants into needs, and they know the difference.
-Temperance means sensible enjoyment. They enjoyment comes from other people, not just things. To the extent that they take pleasure in food, drink, entertainment, and work, it's because of the company, family and friends, with whom they share these things. They are affable, fun to be with, enjoyable to work with. Their greatest delight is to delight their friends.
-Temperance means mastery of one's speech and actions. Temperance people have class.
-The greatness of heart is the all-important spiritual power that gives force to all the other virtues. The ancient Romans called it magnanimity, greatness of soul.
-Heart is the capacity and desire to surpass ourselves, to endure or overcome anything for the sake of somebody else's welfare or happiness. It's generosity, the drive to give others the best of what we have for their sake, and expect little or nothing in return.
-Where does someone put his heart? What does he love most in life? What would he be willing to suffer for, even die for? Answer these questions and you put your finger on that person's values.
-To speak of people's values, is to speak of their priorities in life: what comes first to them, then, what comes second, third, and on down the line. Where, in what order, do people put their passions? What do they love most?
-People differ in their values because they differ in what they love most and least.
-We can tell people's values by which of these loves they hold closest, and which they belittle or ignore.
-Some parents give their hearts to God, family, friends, truth, and service-directed work. Everybody who knows these parents, including their children, considers them great people. Other parents, unfortunately, put power, career, and comfort ahead of anything else, and their families suffer, both now and later.
-In adolescence, teens are strongly tempted to put conformity and pleasure ahead of their family. But if mom and dad won their hearts in childhood, that is, if teenagers' love for family comes first, they can shunt these allurements aside. They love their parents deeply, and so will never betray them.
-Do your children know your priorities, the loves you hold above all others? Tell them. Urge them to follow you, to embrace your values as their own and live by them. And warn them about one of life's greatest disasters: to marry someone with mismatched priorities, whose values conflict with their own.
-A great person is one who never loses the heart he had as a child.
-What are the great loves of childhood?
1. Love for God.
2. Love for family.
3. Love for life, friends, laughter.
4. Love for those in need.
5. Love for the truth.
-Great people are those who possess within their souls the powers of adults and the hearts of children.
-Your job as a parent, your mission in life, is to raise your children to this ideal: to form generosity and character so deeply within them as to direct the course of their lives to greatness.
-The happiest people we meet in life are those who somehow enjoy what they have to do anyway, that is their duties.
-Tell someone he's brave, and you make him brave. Courage does not mean fearlessness. Means doing what is right despite our fears. Courageous people do not lose their fears, they just overcome them.
-We can change people's character but not their temperament.
-People who are most successful in business and professional life seem to have two personal traits:
1. The know how to concentrate and work hard at will, even when they don't feel like it.
2. They have excellent social skills: they are courteous, gracious, ethical, consistently good listeners, and explainers.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes V
-If you why is strong enough and clear enough, you can figure out most of the how for yourself.
-Sound judgment is the power of discernment.
-We have good judgment when we have the power to weigh people's motivations, values and priorities in life.
-Someone who is both shrewd and good-willed has the essence of wisdom.
-Sound judgement is the ability to foresee the probable consequences, both good and bad, of a projected course of action.
-The Greeks called responsibility justice, or giving others what is due to them.
-Responsibility means so as to respect the rights of others, included their right not to be offended.
-Responsibility is a habit of doing our duties whether we feel like it or not.
-Fortitude is also known by other words: courage, perseverance, toughness, guts.
-Fortitude is the acquired ability either to overcome or to endure difficulties: pain, discomfort, disappointment, setbacks, worry, tedium, looking different.
-Life brings hardships, and many of these and unavoidable, even insoluble.
-Most of the time, expectations hurts more than reality: that is, anticipated problems nearly always seem worse than they turn out to be once we tackle them.
-Fortitude is a confidence in our problem-solving abilities, built through a lifetime of practice in solving problems.
-There is such a thing as good stress: when we are under reasonable stress and adversity, we all do our best work.
-The power of fortitude is the exact opposite of getting in touch with our feelings, a woefully common outlook today in too many schools and families.
-In real life, self-centered feelings must give way to duty; if they do not, the young people have practically no capacity for sacrifice, which is the absolute essence of real love. Genuine love means ignoring our self-centered feelings for the sake of others.
-Sound judgment is the power of discernment.
-We have good judgment when we have the power to weigh people's motivations, values and priorities in life.
-Someone who is both shrewd and good-willed has the essence of wisdom.
-Sound judgement is the ability to foresee the probable consequences, both good and bad, of a projected course of action.
-The Greeks called responsibility justice, or giving others what is due to them.
-Responsibility means so as to respect the rights of others, included their right not to be offended.
-Responsibility is a habit of doing our duties whether we feel like it or not.
-Fortitude is also known by other words: courage, perseverance, toughness, guts.
-Fortitude is the acquired ability either to overcome or to endure difficulties: pain, discomfort, disappointment, setbacks, worry, tedium, looking different.
-Life brings hardships, and many of these and unavoidable, even insoluble.
-Most of the time, expectations hurts more than reality: that is, anticipated problems nearly always seem worse than they turn out to be once we tackle them.
-Fortitude is a confidence in our problem-solving abilities, built through a lifetime of practice in solving problems.
-There is such a thing as good stress: when we are under reasonable stress and adversity, we all do our best work.
-The power of fortitude is the exact opposite of getting in touch with our feelings, a woefully common outlook today in too many schools and families.
-In real life, self-centered feelings must give way to duty; if they do not, the young people have practically no capacity for sacrifice, which is the absolute essence of real love. Genuine love means ignoring our self-centered feelings for the sake of others.
Tuesday, March 12, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes IV
-As a parent you make sacrificial effort every day, for years, to turn your children's daily habits into lifelong virtues. You lead your children to become responsible, you teach them justice, fortitude, -courage is the memory of past successes-, you teach them healthy, realistic self-esteem from work well done, you teach them an all important lesson about life: comfort and convenience are only by-products of a successful life, not its purpose.
-We are here to serve others with our powers.
-As a parent you never give up until your children have acquired the powers to live rightly on their own.
-Verbal explanation works mostly to form children's judgment and conscience.
-You explain the importance of work well done and the disgrace of being a slacker or quitter.
-You rely on talk only to reinforce and explain action, to help the children grasp why you live the way you do, and why you press them the way you do.
-The two most troubled stages of children's lives: at ages two to five, and again at thirteen to seventeen.
-Practice builds habits, while explanations build judgment, conscience, attitudes, values.
-For most people, the voice of conscience is the voice of their parents, the memory of their parents' lessons about right and wrong.
-Above all you should listen to your children: their progress in judgment and conscience, their worries and self-doubts, their problems.
-Adolescents who deeply love and respect their parents remain virtually immune to perilous peer-pressures and untouched by the rock-sex-drug culture. Their parent's character is the measure by which they judge their peers.
-When you chat with your children, be sure you listen with your eyes. Children are extremely sensitive to what they see in their parent's eyes. Make eye-contact with them to show your undivided attention: that's how important they are to you. When they look into your eyes, let them see your heartfelt love for them, your hopes for their future, your pride in their growing character.
-We are here to serve others with our powers.
-As a parent you never give up until your children have acquired the powers to live rightly on their own.
-Verbal explanation works mostly to form children's judgment and conscience.
-You explain the importance of work well done and the disgrace of being a slacker or quitter.
-You rely on talk only to reinforce and explain action, to help the children grasp why you live the way you do, and why you press them the way you do.
-The two most troubled stages of children's lives: at ages two to five, and again at thirteen to seventeen.
-Practice builds habits, while explanations build judgment, conscience, attitudes, values.
-For most people, the voice of conscience is the voice of their parents, the memory of their parents' lessons about right and wrong.
-Above all you should listen to your children: their progress in judgment and conscience, their worries and self-doubts, their problems.
-Adolescents who deeply love and respect their parents remain virtually immune to perilous peer-pressures and untouched by the rock-sex-drug culture. Their parent's character is the measure by which they judge their peers.
-When you chat with your children, be sure you listen with your eyes. Children are extremely sensitive to what they see in their parent's eyes. Make eye-contact with them to show your undivided attention: that's how important they are to you. When they look into your eyes, let them see your heartfelt love for them, your hopes for their future, your pride in their growing character.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes III
-Your children see everything. They miss nothing. Their eager eyes, their lithe little bodies, constantly flit around, roving and scanning, noticing every details of their parents' lives. Children, it seems, are wired this way: to watch how adults, and most of all their parents, go about the business of living.
-Children perceive confident, adult-level strength in you, and this awareness leads them to respect you. Children must, above all, respect their parents, and (we cannot stress this enough) all respect derives from perception of strength.
-You are teaching more about the virtues, indeed about yourself, when you scarcely realize it. Your snatches of conversation, your reactions to events (good and bad), your assessments of people and your dealings with them, your earnest personal prayer, your exertion in work and play, your comments on the news, your humor, whatever angers or delights you, even the look in your eyes: all these details sink into your children's minds and hearts. In fact, what your children overhear at home is at least as important as what you say to them directly, often much more so.
-Parents cannot teach character effectively unless they first set example for their children.
-Virtue is a habit of living rightly. And all habits are built by repeated practice. You, as a parent, must lead your children to act, to learn by doing.
-Every single day, the children are forming permanent habits. The question for parents is: which ones?
-Children perceive confident, adult-level strength in you, and this awareness leads them to respect you. Children must, above all, respect their parents, and (we cannot stress this enough) all respect derives from perception of strength.
-You are teaching more about the virtues, indeed about yourself, when you scarcely realize it. Your snatches of conversation, your reactions to events (good and bad), your assessments of people and your dealings with them, your earnest personal prayer, your exertion in work and play, your comments on the news, your humor, whatever angers or delights you, even the look in your eyes: all these details sink into your children's minds and hearts. In fact, what your children overhear at home is at least as important as what you say to them directly, often much more so.
-Parents cannot teach character effectively unless they first set example for their children.
-Virtue is a habit of living rightly. And all habits are built by repeated practice. You, as a parent, must lead your children to act, to learn by doing.
-Every single day, the children are forming permanent habits. The question for parents is: which ones?
Sunday, March 10, 2019
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes II
-A couple of ideas crucial to your job as a parent:
1. Children do not come into the world imbued with these virtues. They do not start out in life with sound judgment, responsibility, courageous perseverance, or self-mastery. These powers must be built from scratch as children grow up, formed as it were from the outside in, or else the children will grow up without them.
2. Your job as a parent is to make sure your children do not grow up this way: as thoughtless, self-centered, impulsive, irresponsible hedonists and manipulators. Your job is to teach your children habitual lifelong powers of sound judgment, responsibility, courageous perseverance, self-control, and heart. This is the core responsibility of parenthood.
-Your children will not grow up when the can take care of themselves. They will really and truly grow up only when they can take care of others, and want to.
-Characteristics of character: excellent judgment, wisdom, a refined sense of right and wrong, ethical uprightness, courage, thoughtful concern for others' needs and feelings, putting people ahead of things.
-Children seem to acquire character in three ways and in this order:
1. By example. What children witness, and then imitate, in the lives of their parents and other adults whom they respect (teachers, coaches)
2. By directed practice. What children are led to do, or are made to do repeatedly by parents and other respected adults.
3. By word. What children hear from parents and others as explanation of what they witness and are led to do.
1. Children do not come into the world imbued with these virtues. They do not start out in life with sound judgment, responsibility, courageous perseverance, or self-mastery. These powers must be built from scratch as children grow up, formed as it were from the outside in, or else the children will grow up without them.
2. Your job as a parent is to make sure your children do not grow up this way: as thoughtless, self-centered, impulsive, irresponsible hedonists and manipulators. Your job is to teach your children habitual lifelong powers of sound judgment, responsibility, courageous perseverance, self-control, and heart. This is the core responsibility of parenthood.
-Your children will not grow up when the can take care of themselves. They will really and truly grow up only when they can take care of others, and want to.
-Characteristics of character: excellent judgment, wisdom, a refined sense of right and wrong, ethical uprightness, courage, thoughtful concern for others' needs and feelings, putting people ahead of things.
-Children seem to acquire character in three ways and in this order:
1. By example. What children witness, and then imitate, in the lives of their parents and other adults whom they respect (teachers, coaches)
2. By directed practice. What children are led to do, or are made to do repeatedly by parents and other respected adults.
3. By word. What children hear from parents and others as explanation of what they witness and are led to do.
Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes
-Parents really win success with their children only in the long term. Parents succeed with their children when the kids grow up to become competent, responsible, considerate, and generous men and women who are committed to live by principles of integrity, adults who bring honor to their parents all their lives through their conduct, conscience, and character. Raising children like this is what parenthood is all about.
-When parent bring children into the world, they set out on the greatest, most satisfying adventure of all.
-Clear thought is necessary for any leadership.
-Knowing where you are going helps you know what you are doing, and this builds the courage you need to stick with your mission, no matter what.
-Parents must teach their children the invisible. Conscientious and savvy parents lead their children to know, and live by, those internal, invisible realities that form a great life: honor, integrity, self-mastery, courage, courtesy, dedicated service, sacrificial love, conscience, God, grace, the soul. Great men and women, it seems at moved mostly by what's invisible.
-Before we delve into details of how this is done, we must first stand back and look at the big picture, the why. So we begin by looking at character.
-Character is what each of us is, minus our money and possessions.
-Character is what people admire in us besides our talents and acquired skills.
-Character is what makes people proud and delighted to count us as friends, not just acquaintances. It is what makes friendships last a lifetime.
-Character is an integration of what the greatest minds of antiquity used to called virtues, those powers of mind and will and heart built up through repeated practice:
Prudence
Justice
Fortitude
Temperance
Character to them, is the sum total of these habitual powers joined together in one's personality.
-In more modern day, commonsensical terms:
Prudence: is sound judgment and conscience.
Justice: is a sense of responsibility and fair play.
Fortitude: is courage, persistence, guts.
Temperance: is self-mastery, self-discipline, self-control.
-To this four classical concepts of virtue, we add the other, the heart. This is generosity, magnanimity, charity, a capacity for compassionate understanding and forgiveness.
-When parent bring children into the world, they set out on the greatest, most satisfying adventure of all.
-Clear thought is necessary for any leadership.
-Knowing where you are going helps you know what you are doing, and this builds the courage you need to stick with your mission, no matter what.
-Parents must teach their children the invisible. Conscientious and savvy parents lead their children to know, and live by, those internal, invisible realities that form a great life: honor, integrity, self-mastery, courage, courtesy, dedicated service, sacrificial love, conscience, God, grace, the soul. Great men and women, it seems at moved mostly by what's invisible.
-Before we delve into details of how this is done, we must first stand back and look at the big picture, the why. So we begin by looking at character.
-Character is what each of us is, minus our money and possessions.
-Character is what people admire in us besides our talents and acquired skills.
-Character is what makes people proud and delighted to count us as friends, not just acquaintances. It is what makes friendships last a lifetime.
-Character is an integration of what the greatest minds of antiquity used to called virtues, those powers of mind and will and heart built up through repeated practice:
Prudence
Justice
Fortitude
Temperance
Character to them, is the sum total of these habitual powers joined together in one's personality.
-In more modern day, commonsensical terms:
Prudence: is sound judgment and conscience.
Justice: is a sense of responsibility and fair play.
Fortitude: is courage, persistence, guts.
Temperance: is self-mastery, self-discipline, self-control.
-To this four classical concepts of virtue, we add the other, the heart. This is generosity, magnanimity, charity, a capacity for compassionate understanding and forgiveness.
Saturday, March 9, 2019
Do as I Say not as I do by Peter Schweizer. Quotes II
-The Clintons appear to have repeatedly overstated their charitable contributions.
-The Clintons believe in using the tax code to transfer wealth from the rich to the poor; it's just that they don't have their own wealth in mind.
-In the Clintons' moral universe, their own motives and intentions are always pure. Their adversaries, on the other hand, are animated by selfishness and greed, a conservative disease to which they claim to be immune. Through all the contradictions in their lives, and despite their voluminous reflections on themselves, they seem utterly clueless about their own greed and avarice, all the while continuing to offer unsought advise about how other people can live up to their exalted moral standards.
-On a personal level, Nader may be the spartan moralist he claims to be, avoiding the lavish lifestyles of comrades in arms like Michael Moore. But in the end, he puts his faith in corporations and behaves like a traditional sweatshop boss. Co-ops and unions are great; but when you are trying to create a revolution, you are better off investing in corporations and working your employees to the bone.
-Far from acting in accordance with her professed principles, Pelosi in fact epitomizes the very attitudes and practices she claims to detest.
-Offshore businesses that avoid taxation are a Soros specialty.
-The Hollywood grapevine is filled with stories about how Barbra S. can be to those who work for her. "She was generous in terms of large amounts, he said, but absolutely mean and niggardly about the salaries of the working people she hired".
-While Steinem was writing those words, encouraging young woman to turn their backs on long-term relationships with men, she herself was engaged in a longtime relationship with television writer, producer and musician Blair Chotzinoff.
-Publicly Cornel West criticized middle class blacks for their greed and materialism. Privately, this socialist paragon revealed his true colors when he bought homes in two of Boston's best neighborhoods.
-The Clintons believe in using the tax code to transfer wealth from the rich to the poor; it's just that they don't have their own wealth in mind.
-In the Clintons' moral universe, their own motives and intentions are always pure. Their adversaries, on the other hand, are animated by selfishness and greed, a conservative disease to which they claim to be immune. Through all the contradictions in their lives, and despite their voluminous reflections on themselves, they seem utterly clueless about their own greed and avarice, all the while continuing to offer unsought advise about how other people can live up to their exalted moral standards.
-On a personal level, Nader may be the spartan moralist he claims to be, avoiding the lavish lifestyles of comrades in arms like Michael Moore. But in the end, he puts his faith in corporations and behaves like a traditional sweatshop boss. Co-ops and unions are great; but when you are trying to create a revolution, you are better off investing in corporations and working your employees to the bone.
-Far from acting in accordance with her professed principles, Pelosi in fact epitomizes the very attitudes and practices she claims to detest.
-Offshore businesses that avoid taxation are a Soros specialty.
-The Hollywood grapevine is filled with stories about how Barbra S. can be to those who work for her. "She was generous in terms of large amounts, he said, but absolutely mean and niggardly about the salaries of the working people she hired".
-While Steinem was writing those words, encouraging young woman to turn their backs on long-term relationships with men, she herself was engaged in a longtime relationship with television writer, producer and musician Blair Chotzinoff.
-Publicly Cornel West criticized middle class blacks for their greed and materialism. Privately, this socialist paragon revealed his true colors when he bought homes in two of Boston's best neighborhoods.
Monday, February 25, 2019
Do as I Say not as I do by Peter Schweizer. Quotes.
-Hypocrisy has proved to be a wonderful weapon for liberals in their war against conservatives.
-When Chomsky appears on college campuses, he usually dresses in a rumpled shirt and jacket. He is identified with dozens of left-wing causes and professes to speak for the poor, the oppressed, and the victims of capitalism. But Chomsky is himself a shrewd capitalist, worth millions, with money in the dreaded and evil stock market, and at least one tax haven to cut down on those pesky inheritance taxes that he says are so important.
-Publicly, Michael Moore is a populist crusader who stands up to profit-minded corporations on behalf of workers, women, minorities, and the environment. Privately, he is the consummate capitalist single-mindedly focused on money.
-Franken was simply doing what he had always done, putting people down and making fun of them, whether they were breast cancer survivors, drug addicts, homosexuals, or conservative talk show hosts.
-Ted Kennedy's actions match his words? A closer look at his conduct in private life reveals that this champion of liberal causes is really the king of liberal hypocrites.
-When Chomsky appears on college campuses, he usually dresses in a rumpled shirt and jacket. He is identified with dozens of left-wing causes and professes to speak for the poor, the oppressed, and the victims of capitalism. But Chomsky is himself a shrewd capitalist, worth millions, with money in the dreaded and evil stock market, and at least one tax haven to cut down on those pesky inheritance taxes that he says are so important.
-Publicly, Michael Moore is a populist crusader who stands up to profit-minded corporations on behalf of workers, women, minorities, and the environment. Privately, he is the consummate capitalist single-mindedly focused on money.
-Franken was simply doing what he had always done, putting people down and making fun of them, whether they were breast cancer survivors, drug addicts, homosexuals, or conservative talk show hosts.
-Ted Kennedy's actions match his words? A closer look at his conduct in private life reveals that this champion of liberal causes is really the king of liberal hypocrites.
Saturday, February 23, 2019
Simon Sinek. How to make your life a success. On humility and working as a team
"The biggest lesson I learned, -because I was the boss- is I thought I had to know all the answers and if I didn't I thought I had to pretend I did. And that's stupid.
And what I learned is that just because I may have the top position in the hierarchy, I am not expected to know everything and if I pretend to know everything it diminishes the value of all the great ideas and the great intelligence around me.
And when things got difficult I would never admit it. I would just put on a brave face and show up.
And the biggest lesson I learned was to say I don't know, I don't understand or I need help at any level, about any subject and... amazingly I was always surrounded by people who wanted to help and who knew answers but they never offered to help or offered the answers because they didn't think I needed it because I kept pretending that I knew it all, right? Not to mention the fact that nobody likes a know-it-all...
So that was huge for me and when I was willing to ask for help and accept it when it was offered and sort of accept the humility of the fact that other people know a lot of more about a lot of things than I know... I know one thing... and they know lots of things... that's when things really started to move because we were now a team, that we were actually working together".
And what I learned is that just because I may have the top position in the hierarchy, I am not expected to know everything and if I pretend to know everything it diminishes the value of all the great ideas and the great intelligence around me.
And when things got difficult I would never admit it. I would just put on a brave face and show up.
And the biggest lesson I learned was to say I don't know, I don't understand or I need help at any level, about any subject and... amazingly I was always surrounded by people who wanted to help and who knew answers but they never offered to help or offered the answers because they didn't think I needed it because I kept pretending that I knew it all, right? Not to mention the fact that nobody likes a know-it-all...
So that was huge for me and when I was willing to ask for help and accept it when it was offered and sort of accept the humility of the fact that other people know a lot of more about a lot of things than I know... I know one thing... and they know lots of things... that's when things really started to move because we were now a team, that we were actually working together".
Tuesday, February 5, 2019
Thursday, January 31, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes XVI
-Our soul energy was created by a higher authority than we can know in our present state of development.
-Essentially, we are alone with our soul, yet people who feel lonely haven't quite found themselves.
-Based on my practice, I am convinced that everyone on this planet has a personal spiritual guide.
-There are not accidents in life.
-Spiritual insight comes to us in quiet, introspective, subtle moments which are manifested by the power of a single thought.
-'Coming to Earth is about traveling away from our home to a foreign land. Some things seem familiar but most are strange until we get used to them, especially conditions which are unforgiving. Our real home is a place of absolute peace, total acceptance and complete love. As souls separated from our home we can no longer assume these beautiful features will be present around us. On Earth we must learn to cope with intolerance, anger and sadness while searching for joy and love. We must not lose our integrity along the way, sacrificing goodness for survival and acquiring attitudes either superior or inferior to those around us. We know that living in an imperfect world will help us to appreciate the true meaning of perfection. We ask for courage and humility before our journey into another life. As we grow in awareness so will the quality of our existence. This is how we are tested. Passing this test is our destiny.
-Essentially, we are alone with our soul, yet people who feel lonely haven't quite found themselves.
-Based on my practice, I am convinced that everyone on this planet has a personal spiritual guide.
-There are not accidents in life.
-Spiritual insight comes to us in quiet, introspective, subtle moments which are manifested by the power of a single thought.
-'Coming to Earth is about traveling away from our home to a foreign land. Some things seem familiar but most are strange until we get used to them, especially conditions which are unforgiving. Our real home is a place of absolute peace, total acceptance and complete love. As souls separated from our home we can no longer assume these beautiful features will be present around us. On Earth we must learn to cope with intolerance, anger and sadness while searching for joy and love. We must not lose our integrity along the way, sacrificing goodness for survival and acquiring attitudes either superior or inferior to those around us. We know that living in an imperfect world will help us to appreciate the true meaning of perfection. We ask for courage and humility before our journey into another life. As we grow in awareness so will the quality of our existence. This is how we are tested. Passing this test is our destiny.
Wednesday, January 30, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes XV
-The Ring displays futuristic scenes of events and people the soul will encounter in the life to come.
-The whole spiritual structure of the screening room is designed to give the viewer an ability either to observe or participate in the action, just in libraries.
-'It is made clear to me that the body choice is mine alone because I am going to have to live with it'
-Karma does not only pertain to our deeds, it is internal as well, reflecting our thoughts, feelings and impulses, all relating to cause and effect. Karma is more than taking proper actions toward others, it is also having the intention to do so.
-Fate does not decree that a certain situation has to come out a particular way. We are not puppets on a string. In our universe, when the past is over, these events and the people involved with them become eternal and are forever preserved in spiritual libraries.
-I do not believe future alternatives are unlimited in number.
-'There have been many people in my life who have treated me with disgust and even loathing. I needed to experience this discrimination, to feel unsafe and vulnerable.
-Destiny represents the sum of our deeds over thousands of years in a multitude of incarnations. In all these lives we had freedom of choice. Our current life represents all past experiences both pleasant and unpleasant, and so we are the product of all our former choices.
-We occupy a particular body for many reasons.
-Earth is considered by souls to be a very difficult school. The great lesson of Earth is to overcome both planetary and private destructive forces in life, grow strong from the effort, and move on.
-Fear arises when we separate ourselves from our spiritual power.
-We knew many of the challenges in advance of our life and chose them for good reasons. Accidents involving our bodies are not considered to be accidental by the soul. The sheer will of our true Self has the power to rise in opposition to our weakness in character, especially during adversity.
-More important than the events that test us in life is our reaction to these events and how we handle the consequences.
-Uncertainty in life is frequently an outgrowth of former life patterns and obsessions.
-Change is a hallmark of karma through the use of free will in making course corrections into unfamiliar waters. Searching for who you really are is getting in touch with your inner Self and bringing passion and meaning into what you do in life.
-I have never had a single case where a soul joined the fetus in the first trimester. The reason why is quite simple because there is not enough brain tissue for them to work with at this stage.
-Various scenarios of significant events in our life are known in advance when we choose certain bodies in the Ring. All have karmic implications and purpose for us.
-Although the physical organism of the body will die, the soul who occupy that body never forgets the host which allowed them to experience Earth in a particular time and place.
-Physiologists do not know why intense emotion may cause irrational behavior in one person and logical coping actions in another. For me, the answer lies in the soul.
-In general, how do you feel about coming back to Earth in life after life?
-As a gift. This is such a multifaceted planet. Sure, this place brings heartache, but it is delightful toot and incredibly beautiful. The human body is a marvel of form and structure. I never cease to be awed by each new body, the many different ways I can express myself in them, especially in the most important way, love.
-Righteousness, honesty, humor and love are the primary foundations of our life after life.
-The sacred truths of our etheric history can be recovered today because we are able to circumvent the conscious mind and reach the unconscious, which was not immersed in the River of Forgetfulness.
-What we face in the twenty-fist century is the eroding of individualism and human dignity in an overcrowded society dominated by materialism.
-Amnesiac blocks were set in place with human beings to prevent preconditioned responses to certain karmic events. However, the benefits of amnesia may not longer outweigh the drawbacks of lives existing within a vacuum of chemically-induced apathy. There are too many people trying to escape from reality because they do not see their identity as having purpose or meaning. Drugs and alcohol aside, in overcrowded, high tech societies around the world, people have an emptiness of spirit because they are ruled by their body ego senses. They have little or no connection to their real Self.
-When we totally align ourselves to belief systems based upon the experience of other people, I feel we lose something of our individuality in the process. The road to self-discovery and shaping a personal philosophy not designed by the doctrines of organizations takes efforts but the rewards are great.
-In the search for our own path of spirituality it is wise to ask: What sort of behavioral code do I believe in?
-You were not given your body by a chance of nature. It was selected for you by spiritual advisors and after previewing their offerings of other host bodies, you agreed to accept the body you now have. Thus, you are not a victim of circumstance. You are entrusted with your body to be an active participant in life, not a bystander. We must not lose sight of the idea that we accepted this sacred contract of life and this means the roles we play on Earth are actually greater than ourselves.
-The whole spiritual structure of the screening room is designed to give the viewer an ability either to observe or participate in the action, just in libraries.
-'It is made clear to me that the body choice is mine alone because I am going to have to live with it'
-Karma does not only pertain to our deeds, it is internal as well, reflecting our thoughts, feelings and impulses, all relating to cause and effect. Karma is more than taking proper actions toward others, it is also having the intention to do so.
-Fate does not decree that a certain situation has to come out a particular way. We are not puppets on a string. In our universe, when the past is over, these events and the people involved with them become eternal and are forever preserved in spiritual libraries.
-I do not believe future alternatives are unlimited in number.
-'There have been many people in my life who have treated me with disgust and even loathing. I needed to experience this discrimination, to feel unsafe and vulnerable.
-Destiny represents the sum of our deeds over thousands of years in a multitude of incarnations. In all these lives we had freedom of choice. Our current life represents all past experiences both pleasant and unpleasant, and so we are the product of all our former choices.
-We occupy a particular body for many reasons.
-Earth is considered by souls to be a very difficult school. The great lesson of Earth is to overcome both planetary and private destructive forces in life, grow strong from the effort, and move on.
-Fear arises when we separate ourselves from our spiritual power.
-We knew many of the challenges in advance of our life and chose them for good reasons. Accidents involving our bodies are not considered to be accidental by the soul. The sheer will of our true Self has the power to rise in opposition to our weakness in character, especially during adversity.
-More important than the events that test us in life is our reaction to these events and how we handle the consequences.
-Uncertainty in life is frequently an outgrowth of former life patterns and obsessions.
-Change is a hallmark of karma through the use of free will in making course corrections into unfamiliar waters. Searching for who you really are is getting in touch with your inner Self and bringing passion and meaning into what you do in life.
-I have never had a single case where a soul joined the fetus in the first trimester. The reason why is quite simple because there is not enough brain tissue for them to work with at this stage.
-Various scenarios of significant events in our life are known in advance when we choose certain bodies in the Ring. All have karmic implications and purpose for us.
-Although the physical organism of the body will die, the soul who occupy that body never forgets the host which allowed them to experience Earth in a particular time and place.
-Physiologists do not know why intense emotion may cause irrational behavior in one person and logical coping actions in another. For me, the answer lies in the soul.
-In general, how do you feel about coming back to Earth in life after life?
-As a gift. This is such a multifaceted planet. Sure, this place brings heartache, but it is delightful toot and incredibly beautiful. The human body is a marvel of form and structure. I never cease to be awed by each new body, the many different ways I can express myself in them, especially in the most important way, love.
-Righteousness, honesty, humor and love are the primary foundations of our life after life.
-The sacred truths of our etheric history can be recovered today because we are able to circumvent the conscious mind and reach the unconscious, which was not immersed in the River of Forgetfulness.
-What we face in the twenty-fist century is the eroding of individualism and human dignity in an overcrowded society dominated by materialism.
-Amnesiac blocks were set in place with human beings to prevent preconditioned responses to certain karmic events. However, the benefits of amnesia may not longer outweigh the drawbacks of lives existing within a vacuum of chemically-induced apathy. There are too many people trying to escape from reality because they do not see their identity as having purpose or meaning. Drugs and alcohol aside, in overcrowded, high tech societies around the world, people have an emptiness of spirit because they are ruled by their body ego senses. They have little or no connection to their real Self.
-When we totally align ourselves to belief systems based upon the experience of other people, I feel we lose something of our individuality in the process. The road to self-discovery and shaping a personal philosophy not designed by the doctrines of organizations takes efforts but the rewards are great.
-In the search for our own path of spirituality it is wise to ask: What sort of behavioral code do I believe in?
-You were not given your body by a chance of nature. It was selected for you by spiritual advisors and after previewing their offerings of other host bodies, you agreed to accept the body you now have. Thus, you are not a victim of circumstance. You are entrusted with your body to be an active participant in life, not a bystander. We must not lose sight of the idea that we accepted this sacred contract of life and this means the roles we play on Earth are actually greater than ourselves.
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes XIV
-'Teachers can learn from students'
-'This is my passion, working with the moral codes of intelligent beings'
-Most of us start off making a lot of dumb mistakes and by the end of our life we become smarter. The idea of coming back in repeated incarnations is that eventually we will get it right early on and lead productive lives from the beginning.
-We are given many host bodies and all of them are imperfect. Rather than being obsessive about a body which will only last one lifetime, concentrate on the evolution of your soul Self and rely on your spiritual power.
-Why don't the powers that exist in the spirit world just prevent these natural disasters from happening in the first place and save people a lot of grief?
-Then, they would not be natural catastrophes, which are intended to be part of the conditions of life on Earth.
-'The mind of the psychopath is closed to reason. I am in training to maintain positive energy around calmer heads who can make a difference in world events.
-Those spiritual masters who designed the laboratory of chaos we call Earth did not set things in motion and then walk away. There are superior beings who care enough about our survival to watch over us.
-Within a geophysical environment, there are purely structural specialists, and those who create living things within these settings.
-These designer souls are the biologists and botanists of the spirit world and they say that extraterrestrial life exists on billions of planets. I have an extensive file on souls who have incarnated on other worlds and souls who have traveled to a variety of strange worlds for both study and recreation between their lives on Earth.
-I picture a full-fledged Explorer Soul as a highly specialized, non-incarnating being who seeks out suitable training sites for the less-experienced souls and then eventually leads them to these regions.
-I don't see nearly as many clients with memories of going to mental worlds. This is natural. We are beings used to bright light and physical dimensions.
-If we have dreams of being tall giants, very short elfin-appearing beings, or having the bodies of water and air creatures, this could mean these dreams reflect unconscious memories of a prior incarnation on another world.
-Everything on Earth and in the Universe is apparently connected by thought waves to and from the spirit world.
-Hybrid soul clients. These people are negatively influenced by too-little experience with the human body and too many alien imprints carried over from their former existences.
-'This is my passion, working with the moral codes of intelligent beings'
-Most of us start off making a lot of dumb mistakes and by the end of our life we become smarter. The idea of coming back in repeated incarnations is that eventually we will get it right early on and lead productive lives from the beginning.
-We are given many host bodies and all of them are imperfect. Rather than being obsessive about a body which will only last one lifetime, concentrate on the evolution of your soul Self and rely on your spiritual power.
-Why don't the powers that exist in the spirit world just prevent these natural disasters from happening in the first place and save people a lot of grief?
-Then, they would not be natural catastrophes, which are intended to be part of the conditions of life on Earth.
-'The mind of the psychopath is closed to reason. I am in training to maintain positive energy around calmer heads who can make a difference in world events.
-Those spiritual masters who designed the laboratory of chaos we call Earth did not set things in motion and then walk away. There are superior beings who care enough about our survival to watch over us.
-Within a geophysical environment, there are purely structural specialists, and those who create living things within these settings.
-These designer souls are the biologists and botanists of the spirit world and they say that extraterrestrial life exists on billions of planets. I have an extensive file on souls who have incarnated on other worlds and souls who have traveled to a variety of strange worlds for both study and recreation between their lives on Earth.
-I picture a full-fledged Explorer Soul as a highly specialized, non-incarnating being who seeks out suitable training sites for the less-experienced souls and then eventually leads them to these regions.
-I don't see nearly as many clients with memories of going to mental worlds. This is natural. We are beings used to bright light and physical dimensions.
-If we have dreams of being tall giants, very short elfin-appearing beings, or having the bodies of water and air creatures, this could mean these dreams reflect unconscious memories of a prior incarnation on another world.
-Everything on Earth and in the Universe is apparently connected by thought waves to and from the spirit world.
-Hybrid soul clients. These people are negatively influenced by too-little experience with the human body and too many alien imprints carried over from their former existences.
Destiny of souls by M. Newton. Quotes XIII
-As a rule, members of the same soul group do not return in their next incarnations as members of the same genetic human family.
-In unusual cases, our guides may be indulgent with souls who have strong feelings about unfinished karmic business withing a particular family and wish to return to the same family. '
-I often find that a favorite grandparent in this life was a sibling or best friend in a former life.
-The first person to come forward and greet us after a life is always soul of significance.
-Role assignments in life all have purpose. If you grew up with a particularly difficult parent, ask yourself this question: what did I learn at hands of this person that has given me wisdom I would not posses if he or she had been in my life?
-'It helps my game of life to be around better players'
-Soul types in the spirit world:
1. Souls who are either unable or unwilling to function individually.
2. Souls who do not wish to incarnate in physical form.
3. Souls who incarnate only on physical worlds.
4. Souls who have both the ability and desire to function in all types of physical and mental environments.
-The desire for time alone in the spirit world comes from an intense need to dwell within the sacred confines of pure thought to try and touch the Source from which they sprang.
-'It took me centuries to learn to trust and be open with people'
-Primary cluster groups began their existence together and remain closely associated through hundreds of incarnations.
-The three principal elements I am most aware of for soul specialty selection are talent, past performance and personal desire.
-Once a new soul is created they are not immediately thrown into a physical incarnation. Earth is such a difficult school for training it is best that many new souls are allowed time in adjusting to planetary life as discarnates.
-In unusual cases, our guides may be indulgent with souls who have strong feelings about unfinished karmic business withing a particular family and wish to return to the same family. '
-I often find that a favorite grandparent in this life was a sibling or best friend in a former life.
-The first person to come forward and greet us after a life is always soul of significance.
-Role assignments in life all have purpose. If you grew up with a particularly difficult parent, ask yourself this question: what did I learn at hands of this person that has given me wisdom I would not posses if he or she had been in my life?
-'It helps my game of life to be around better players'
-Soul types in the spirit world:
1. Souls who are either unable or unwilling to function individually.
2. Souls who do not wish to incarnate in physical form.
3. Souls who incarnate only on physical worlds.
4. Souls who have both the ability and desire to function in all types of physical and mental environments.
-The desire for time alone in the spirit world comes from an intense need to dwell within the sacred confines of pure thought to try and touch the Source from which they sprang.
-'It took me centuries to learn to trust and be open with people'
-Primary cluster groups began their existence together and remain closely associated through hundreds of incarnations.
-The three principal elements I am most aware of for soul specialty selection are talent, past performance and personal desire.
-Once a new soul is created they are not immediately thrown into a physical incarnation. Earth is such a difficult school for training it is best that many new souls are allowed time in adjusting to planetary life as discarnates.
Friday, January 25, 2019
Wednesday, January 16, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes XII
-We mistakenly assume people who choose to live alone are lonely when actually they have rich lives that are calm, reflective and productive. Connecting with someone for whom you have no feelings just for the sake of not being alone is more lonely than being by yourself.
-If you soulmate is supposed to appear they will come into your life, often when you least expect it.
-One of the greatest motivations for souls to incarnate is the opportunity for expression in physical form.
-"Now I see he was an acquaintance in the spirit world from another group. It was no accident we bumped into each other that day. He was sent to me."
-It is my custom to take subjects into the spirit world after death from their last life so they will not miss the natural wonders of normal spirit world entry.
-Souls are met by their guides and and friends from the spirit world at the appropriate time and place. Each soul requires their own rate of ascension, which includes orientation stops and energy rejuvenation, even if they are returning to the same soul group.
-You would think that the time we spend in the spirit world should eliminate all residual effects of our past life experiences. In most cases it does but, as I have said, some people do carry physical and emotional body imprints from one life to the next. This is especially true if that imprint bears upon a particular karmic lesson in the life to come.
-Many soulmates have a preparation class just before their next incarnation.
-One aspect of this prep class might also include two soulmates going off alone and sending visual image to each other of what they will look like in their new human bodies and under what circumstances they are going to meet.
-"I was permitted to see my wife in the screening room for the next life. She was an attractive aerobics instructor who I would meet in a gym. I studied her body and facial features carefully because I didn't want to mess up our meeting, as I had done in my prior life. The scent of her body bathed in sweat was embedded in my mind... her gestures... her smile... and most of all her eyes. The moment I saw her in this life it was like tow magnets pulling together."
-If you soulmate is supposed to appear they will come into your life, often when you least expect it.
-One of the greatest motivations for souls to incarnate is the opportunity for expression in physical form.
-"Now I see he was an acquaintance in the spirit world from another group. It was no accident we bumped into each other that day. He was sent to me."
-It is my custom to take subjects into the spirit world after death from their last life so they will not miss the natural wonders of normal spirit world entry.
-Souls are met by their guides and and friends from the spirit world at the appropriate time and place. Each soul requires their own rate of ascension, which includes orientation stops and energy rejuvenation, even if they are returning to the same soul group.
-You would think that the time we spend in the spirit world should eliminate all residual effects of our past life experiences. In most cases it does but, as I have said, some people do carry physical and emotional body imprints from one life to the next. This is especially true if that imprint bears upon a particular karmic lesson in the life to come.
-Many soulmates have a preparation class just before their next incarnation.
-One aspect of this prep class might also include two soulmates going off alone and sending visual image to each other of what they will look like in their new human bodies and under what circumstances they are going to meet.
-"I was permitted to see my wife in the screening room for the next life. She was an attractive aerobics instructor who I would meet in a gym. I studied her body and facial features carefully because I didn't want to mess up our meeting, as I had done in my prior life. The scent of her body bathed in sweat was embedded in my mind... her gestures... her smile... and most of all her eyes. The moment I saw her in this life it was like tow magnets pulling together."
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes XI
-People ask me if souls feel remorse both during and after the council meeting if they were involved in acts of cruel wrongdoing. Of course they do, but often I must remind those who ask this question that accountability for wrongdoing frequently comes with the selection of the next body for the payment of karmic debts.
-Although karma is associated with justice, its essence is not punitive but one of bringing balance to the sum of our deeds in all past lives.
-Many of our attitudes and ego hang-ups come from other lifetimes and seeing this in a different context gives the client a new perspective in current time.
-People need to see that the twists and turns in their lives all have meaning and purpose.
-As ethereal beings, our growth actually began in the mental realm of the spirit world with other souls before any of us incarnated.
-During reincarnation, the closeness souls feel for each other in a mental setting is severely tested by karmic challenges in our host bodies.
-"He was so ungainly and rough-looking I was embarrassed to be seen with him because of what others might think. Out of pride, spite and feelings that I was being taken for granted, I married a handsome man who catered to my whims. I lost the happiness that could have been mine."
-Being with the 'wrong' person for a period in your life does not mean that time was wasted. The relationship was probably intended in advance. In fact, you might see this soul again in the spirit world in a different light.
-I will ask about prior and current relationships that have had significance in their life.
-Without trust, intimacy suffers and love cannot grow. Love is the acceptance of all the imperfections of our partners. True love makes you better than you would be without that person in your life.
-People often equate love with happiness. Yet happiness is a state of mind that must develop within you and not be dependent upon someone else. The most healthy kind of love is one where you already feel good about yourself and so extending your love to someone else is totally unselfish. Love takes hard work and continual maintenance. I have had numerous divorced subjects who learn that their first loves were primary soulmates. Things might have worked out if they both had tried harder.
-Soulmates will from time to time separate for a life or two and not appear at all.
-Every era on Earth is different as to the sort of attachment and experience we will have with a soulmate. However, each life with them builds upon former lives.
-Although karma is associated with justice, its essence is not punitive but one of bringing balance to the sum of our deeds in all past lives.
-Many of our attitudes and ego hang-ups come from other lifetimes and seeing this in a different context gives the client a new perspective in current time.
-People need to see that the twists and turns in their lives all have meaning and purpose.
-As ethereal beings, our growth actually began in the mental realm of the spirit world with other souls before any of us incarnated.
-During reincarnation, the closeness souls feel for each other in a mental setting is severely tested by karmic challenges in our host bodies.
-"He was so ungainly and rough-looking I was embarrassed to be seen with him because of what others might think. Out of pride, spite and feelings that I was being taken for granted, I married a handsome man who catered to my whims. I lost the happiness that could have been mine."
-Being with the 'wrong' person for a period in your life does not mean that time was wasted. The relationship was probably intended in advance. In fact, you might see this soul again in the spirit world in a different light.
-I will ask about prior and current relationships that have had significance in their life.
-Without trust, intimacy suffers and love cannot grow. Love is the acceptance of all the imperfections of our partners. True love makes you better than you would be without that person in your life.
-People often equate love with happiness. Yet happiness is a state of mind that must develop within you and not be dependent upon someone else. The most healthy kind of love is one where you already feel good about yourself and so extending your love to someone else is totally unselfish. Love takes hard work and continual maintenance. I have had numerous divorced subjects who learn that their first loves were primary soulmates. Things might have worked out if they both had tried harder.
-Soulmates will from time to time separate for a life or two and not appear at all.
-Every era on Earth is different as to the sort of attachment and experience we will have with a soulmate. However, each life with them builds upon former lives.
Tuesday, January 15, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes X
-The very young soul who has been to Earth less than five times.
-As souls develop and become more complex they appear to require more specialists on their panels.
-Our chairperson, and perhaps one or two other Elders, are normally present over great spans of time between many lives.
-Members of the same soul group usually go before different councils.
-Apparently, specialists come into our panels at certain times to lend their expertise if we continue to fall into the same ruts.
-"I am afraid of confrontation and lives of adversity. He says: we never give you more than you can handle, keep extending yourself, you have much to offer"
-This subject chose to be a woman of small stature and ordinary features in her current life, rather than accepting a tempting offer of another body choice as a dazzling beauty.
-"That which you gain from each difficult life, you gain for all eternity"
-The council just doesn't inquire into our most immediate past life. Lines of questioning follow across the sum of all our lives and cover the larger picture of our progress toward self-fulfillment.
-"Emmanual, we are not here to judge you, punish you, or to override your thoughts. We want you to look at yourself through our eyes, if you can. That means to forgive yourself. This is the most challenging aspect of your time with us because it is our desire that you accept yourself for who you are with the same unconditional love we have for you. We are here to support you in your work on Earth."
-"It's so crazy! An entire lifetime of giving money to charity and they are interested in this! I gave this woman no money, we only talked..."
-"I probably could have participated more... to engage others... and fought for my convictions..."
-I have had cases where a spouse will intentionally choose a body that has a high probability of dying young from a variety of natural causes to allow the surviving spouse to again work through grief in a more healthy fashion.
-"Each life we live fits together with all our other lives in a continuum toward fulfilling our primary purpose".
-"I specifically asked for a body in this life which would be subjected to incurable pain".
-Case 43 is what I would call an accelerated soul. Unz has only been incarnating on Earth for some five thousand years, a very short time considering her advancement. This is because she never skates in any of her lives.
-Is Earth a laboratory created by higher forms of energy for the lower to advance through many states of development?
-Our transformation from total ignorance to perfected knowledge involves a continual process of enlightenment by having faith that we can be better than we are.
-As souls develop and become more complex they appear to require more specialists on their panels.
-Our chairperson, and perhaps one or two other Elders, are normally present over great spans of time between many lives.
-Members of the same soul group usually go before different councils.
-Apparently, specialists come into our panels at certain times to lend their expertise if we continue to fall into the same ruts.
-"I am afraid of confrontation and lives of adversity. He says: we never give you more than you can handle, keep extending yourself, you have much to offer"
-This subject chose to be a woman of small stature and ordinary features in her current life, rather than accepting a tempting offer of another body choice as a dazzling beauty.
-"That which you gain from each difficult life, you gain for all eternity"
-The council just doesn't inquire into our most immediate past life. Lines of questioning follow across the sum of all our lives and cover the larger picture of our progress toward self-fulfillment.
-"Emmanual, we are not here to judge you, punish you, or to override your thoughts. We want you to look at yourself through our eyes, if you can. That means to forgive yourself. This is the most challenging aspect of your time with us because it is our desire that you accept yourself for who you are with the same unconditional love we have for you. We are here to support you in your work on Earth."
-"It's so crazy! An entire lifetime of giving money to charity and they are interested in this! I gave this woman no money, we only talked..."
-"I probably could have participated more... to engage others... and fought for my convictions..."
-I have had cases where a spouse will intentionally choose a body that has a high probability of dying young from a variety of natural causes to allow the surviving spouse to again work through grief in a more healthy fashion.
-"Each life we live fits together with all our other lives in a continuum toward fulfilling our primary purpose".
-"I specifically asked for a body in this life which would be subjected to incurable pain".
-Case 43 is what I would call an accelerated soul. Unz has only been incarnating on Earth for some five thousand years, a very short time considering her advancement. This is because she never skates in any of her lives.
-Is Earth a laboratory created by higher forms of energy for the lower to advance through many states of development?
-Our transformation from total ignorance to perfected knowledge involves a continual process of enlightenment by having faith that we can be better than we are.
Wednesday, January 9, 2019
Destinty of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes IX
-"By studying my book I am able to recognize mistakes and experience alternatives. Being in this quiet study are, watching all the other souls at the tables doing the same thing, well, it gives me a feeling of camaraderie with them and all we are going through together."
-A divine intelligence placed us in this environment to learn and grow for a greater good. None of us are here by accident and neither are those events which affect us in our own reality at this moment in time.
-I hear about a visitation by an interdimensional traveler whose experience far exceeds that of the group.
-Certainly, there are correlations between the soul mind and our bodies, buy physical and mental health are the prime determinants in human auras.
-Just as we may bring imprints from a former life into our current life, we can also take body imprints into the spirit world as silhouetted energy reminders of our physical incarnations.
-Meditation as a daily discipline is hard work which pays big dividends.
-When the mind is in a pure, centered state we can find who we really are, the essence we may have lost somewhere along the road of life.
-During my prehypnosis intake interview with a new client, I inquire about the cast of characters in their current life.
-Color, form, movement and sound are individual markers of souls in their groups.
-My clients tell me about the overwhelming kindness, benevolence and infinite patience of everyone in ethereal study areas. Even the analysis of each soul´s performance by fellow students is conducted with total love, respect and a mutual commitment to make things better in the next incarnation.
-We are assigned to certain soul groups for our differences as well as similarities.
-At the top of the discarded list of negative emotions are anger and fear. Souls volunteer both to teach and learn certain lessons and karmic plans may not always work out in the way they were intended, given the variables of earthly environments.
-Unlike human beings, all spiritual beings are bonded together. At the same time, souls strictly observe the sanctity of other groups.
-An axiom of the spirit world is that souls are always hardest on themselves in terms of performance.
-When we incarnate into a new body, the soul´s character is united with the temperament of its host to form one persona. The boy is the outward manifestation of the soul but it is not the total embodiment of our soul Self. Souls who come to Earth think of themselves as becoming masked actors on a world stage.
-Our guides become stage directors who go over past life scenes with us, frame by frame, of both good and bad times. Errors in judgment are presented in small bites. All possible outcomes are studied and compared by designing new scripts for these scenes with different sets of choices that could have been made in each circumstance.
-Recreations of past life alternatives offer the soul an objective means of comprehension and foster a desire to improve. The system is ingenious. Souls never seem to get bored in these educational exercises which invite creativity, originality and a desire to triumph over adversity by acquiring wisdom from human relationships.
-Not long after souls return to their spirit groups they are called before a gathering of wise beings.
-I have found the souls of humans on other worlds in prior incarnations to be in host bodies slightly more or less intelligent than our own species. I have never had a client assigned to another world where they were not the most dominant intelligence on that particular planet. This is by design.
-The spirit world is a place of order and the Council of Elders exemplifies justice. They are not the ultimate source of divine authority, but they appear to represent that last station of beings responsible for souls still incarnating.
-They won´t be lives of easy karmic choices, otherwise we would learn nothing by coming to Earth. However, the risks of life and sanity on this planet are not designed to cause us any further pain after death.
-My subjects state they appear before their council right after an incarnation and many report they will visit them a second time just before rebirth.
-"It takes a while for us to get rid of the density of the physical body... the constrictions of it... before we are completely free. This is one reason why I don't need my guide so much at the second meeting."
-The purpose of the Elders is to question the soul in order to help them achieve their goals in the next lifetime.
-Elders want to make sure that we totally understand the consequences of our actions, particularly toward others.
-Souls have the right of refusal to return to Earth.
-The Council is already considering our next potential body and future environment.
-Our intent in life is of utmost importance at council meetings. The Elders know all about us before we appear, but during the deliberations how our soul mind interfaced with a human brain is carefully analyzed.
-The council is looking to see if the inner immortal character of our soul maintained its integrity in terms of values, ideals and action during incarnation. They want to know if we were submerged by our host body, or did we shine through? Did our soul effectively merge as a partner to the human brain as one harmonious outward human personality? Council members question souls about the use of power. . Was our influence positive, or corrupted by the need to dominate others? Were we led by the convictions of others, demonstrating no personal power, or did we make original contributions? The council is not so concerned about how many times we fell down in our progress through life, but whether we had the courage to pick ourselves up and finish strong.
-A divine intelligence placed us in this environment to learn and grow for a greater good. None of us are here by accident and neither are those events which affect us in our own reality at this moment in time.
-I hear about a visitation by an interdimensional traveler whose experience far exceeds that of the group.
-Certainly, there are correlations between the soul mind and our bodies, buy physical and mental health are the prime determinants in human auras.
-Just as we may bring imprints from a former life into our current life, we can also take body imprints into the spirit world as silhouetted energy reminders of our physical incarnations.
-Meditation as a daily discipline is hard work which pays big dividends.
-When the mind is in a pure, centered state we can find who we really are, the essence we may have lost somewhere along the road of life.
-During my prehypnosis intake interview with a new client, I inquire about the cast of characters in their current life.
-Color, form, movement and sound are individual markers of souls in their groups.
-My clients tell me about the overwhelming kindness, benevolence and infinite patience of everyone in ethereal study areas. Even the analysis of each soul´s performance by fellow students is conducted with total love, respect and a mutual commitment to make things better in the next incarnation.
-We are assigned to certain soul groups for our differences as well as similarities.
-At the top of the discarded list of negative emotions are anger and fear. Souls volunteer both to teach and learn certain lessons and karmic plans may not always work out in the way they were intended, given the variables of earthly environments.
-Unlike human beings, all spiritual beings are bonded together. At the same time, souls strictly observe the sanctity of other groups.
-An axiom of the spirit world is that souls are always hardest on themselves in terms of performance.
-When we incarnate into a new body, the soul´s character is united with the temperament of its host to form one persona. The boy is the outward manifestation of the soul but it is not the total embodiment of our soul Self. Souls who come to Earth think of themselves as becoming masked actors on a world stage.
-Our guides become stage directors who go over past life scenes with us, frame by frame, of both good and bad times. Errors in judgment are presented in small bites. All possible outcomes are studied and compared by designing new scripts for these scenes with different sets of choices that could have been made in each circumstance.
-Recreations of past life alternatives offer the soul an objective means of comprehension and foster a desire to improve. The system is ingenious. Souls never seem to get bored in these educational exercises which invite creativity, originality and a desire to triumph over adversity by acquiring wisdom from human relationships.
-Not long after souls return to their spirit groups they are called before a gathering of wise beings.
-I have found the souls of humans on other worlds in prior incarnations to be in host bodies slightly more or less intelligent than our own species. I have never had a client assigned to another world where they were not the most dominant intelligence on that particular planet. This is by design.
-The spirit world is a place of order and the Council of Elders exemplifies justice. They are not the ultimate source of divine authority, but they appear to represent that last station of beings responsible for souls still incarnating.
-They won´t be lives of easy karmic choices, otherwise we would learn nothing by coming to Earth. However, the risks of life and sanity on this planet are not designed to cause us any further pain after death.
-My subjects state they appear before their council right after an incarnation and many report they will visit them a second time just before rebirth.
-"It takes a while for us to get rid of the density of the physical body... the constrictions of it... before we are completely free. This is one reason why I don't need my guide so much at the second meeting."
-The purpose of the Elders is to question the soul in order to help them achieve their goals in the next lifetime.
-Elders want to make sure that we totally understand the consequences of our actions, particularly toward others.
-Souls have the right of refusal to return to Earth.
-The Council is already considering our next potential body and future environment.
-Our intent in life is of utmost importance at council meetings. The Elders know all about us before we appear, but during the deliberations how our soul mind interfaced with a human brain is carefully analyzed.
-The council is looking to see if the inner immortal character of our soul maintained its integrity in terms of values, ideals and action during incarnation. They want to know if we were submerged by our host body, or did we shine through? Did our soul effectively merge as a partner to the human brain as one harmonious outward human personality? Council members question souls about the use of power. . Was our influence positive, or corrupted by the need to dominate others? Were we led by the convictions of others, demonstrating no personal power, or did we make original contributions? The council is not so concerned about how many times we fell down in our progress through life, but whether we had the courage to pick ourselves up and finish strong.
Destinty of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes VIII
-"Through us, not from us, comes a life force of all knowing love and knowledge."
-"There are many physical worlds similar to Earth. We call them pleasure worlds and suffering worlds."
-Original scenes from all our lives never leave our memory as souls.
-For the spiritual hypnotherapist there are two forces operating in regression. On the one hand, we have the soul mind at work with its great storehouse of past life and spiritual life memories. On the other side, we also have the conscious memories of a current body engaged in descriptive imagery while the subject is in hypnosis.
-Attitudes and beliefs from the soul mind do affect the biological mind.
-There are countless other elements involving thought sequencing which we bring into our host body from hundreds of former lives.
-The average subject has led past lives as Caucasians, Orientals and Africans with no heredity connections.
-"I see my parents. They stop what they are doing and drift over the short space between our two clusters to embrace me and whisper encouragement. Finally, I reach my own group and everyone es welcoming me back."
-"The whole time I have been gone seems like a brief trip down to the corner grocery store to buy a carton of milk."
-"Teachers have infinite patience because time is meaningless."
-It is a standard learning imperative that we begin to study our past lives in depth right away.
-People who tell me they don't belong on Earth need to be taken seriously.
-"The thick line is like the trunk of a tree and the smaller ones are the branches. I know the thick one was my main path. The old man is pointing at that line and scolding me a bit about taking a dead end branch."
-"He shows me the first page with a universe of millions of galaxies."
-In our session together my subject learned her soul has a tendency to prejudge serious events in her life in a negative manner. In many past lives there was always a nagging thought that whatever decision she made in a crisis would be the wrong one.
-The function of the smaller library screens is for monitoring past and current time on Earth on a continuing basis.
-"There are many physical worlds similar to Earth. We call them pleasure worlds and suffering worlds."
-Original scenes from all our lives never leave our memory as souls.
-For the spiritual hypnotherapist there are two forces operating in regression. On the one hand, we have the soul mind at work with its great storehouse of past life and spiritual life memories. On the other side, we also have the conscious memories of a current body engaged in descriptive imagery while the subject is in hypnosis.
-Attitudes and beliefs from the soul mind do affect the biological mind.
-There are countless other elements involving thought sequencing which we bring into our host body from hundreds of former lives.
-The average subject has led past lives as Caucasians, Orientals and Africans with no heredity connections.
-"I see my parents. They stop what they are doing and drift over the short space between our two clusters to embrace me and whisper encouragement. Finally, I reach my own group and everyone es welcoming me back."
-"The whole time I have been gone seems like a brief trip down to the corner grocery store to buy a carton of milk."
-"Teachers have infinite patience because time is meaningless."
-It is a standard learning imperative that we begin to study our past lives in depth right away.
-People who tell me they don't belong on Earth need to be taken seriously.
-"The thick line is like the trunk of a tree and the smaller ones are the branches. I know the thick one was my main path. The old man is pointing at that line and scolding me a bit about taking a dead end branch."
-"He shows me the first page with a universe of millions of galaxies."
-In our session together my subject learned her soul has a tendency to prejudge serious events in her life in a negative manner. In many past lives there was always a nagging thought that whatever decision she made in a crisis would be the wrong one.
-The function of the smaller library screens is for monitoring past and current time on Earth on a continuing basis.
Sunday, January 6, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes VII
-Guides use the sense memory we had in our physical bodies to assist in our recovery.
-I have my own theory of madness. When this soul can no longer control the aberrant behavior of its body, the two personas begin to separate into dissociated personality.
-The resurrection of the soul in the spirit world is merciful.
-There are souls whose acts in host bodies were so heinous they are not permitted to return to Earth.
-The fine art of energy reconstruction is handled by nonreincarnating masters.
-I believe the source of many earthly myths come from our soul memories of former existences on other worlds.
-When we see people who are victims of great adversity in life, this does not necessarily mean they were perpetrators of evil or wrongdoing of any kind in a former life. A soul with no such past associations might choose to suffer through a particular aspect of emotional pain to learn greater compassion and empathy for others by volunteering in advance for a life of travail.
-Energy adjustments are necessary for incarnates as well as discarnates.
-The Earth itself has its own vibrational rate and there are people capable of tuning into this ecological energy.
-Sedona, Arizona; Machu Pichu, Peru; Ayers Rock, Australia; places with these magnetic gridlines converge are said to enhance unconscious thought and make it easier to open our mental passages into spirituals realms.
-All souls who come to Earth leave a part of their energy behind in the spirit world.
-If someone you loved died thirty years ahead of you and has since reincarnated, you can still see them again upon your own return to the spirit world.
-Amnesia forces us to go into the testing area of the laboratory of Earth without the answers for the tasks we were sent here to accomplish. Amnesia also relieves us of the baggage for past failures so we may use new approaches with more confidence.
-Typically, a highly advanced soul will bring no more than 25 percent of its total capacity to Earth where the average, less confident soul has 50-70 percent.
-When we review our future life from the spirit world we are given advice about the energy requirements of the body we will occupy. The decision of how much energy we should take is ours. Many souls want to leave as much behind as possible because they love their home and the activities going on there.
-The souls who choose to split into two or more bodies within the same general time frame on Earth, want to accelerate their learning.
-"Physical worlds like Earth, with the type of body we have, it's a stage of mental development."
-I have my own theory of madness. When this soul can no longer control the aberrant behavior of its body, the two personas begin to separate into dissociated personality.
-The resurrection of the soul in the spirit world is merciful.
-There are souls whose acts in host bodies were so heinous they are not permitted to return to Earth.
-The fine art of energy reconstruction is handled by nonreincarnating masters.
-I believe the source of many earthly myths come from our soul memories of former existences on other worlds.
-When we see people who are victims of great adversity in life, this does not necessarily mean they were perpetrators of evil or wrongdoing of any kind in a former life. A soul with no such past associations might choose to suffer through a particular aspect of emotional pain to learn greater compassion and empathy for others by volunteering in advance for a life of travail.
-Energy adjustments are necessary for incarnates as well as discarnates.
-The Earth itself has its own vibrational rate and there are people capable of tuning into this ecological energy.
-Sedona, Arizona; Machu Pichu, Peru; Ayers Rock, Australia; places with these magnetic gridlines converge are said to enhance unconscious thought and make it easier to open our mental passages into spirituals realms.
-All souls who come to Earth leave a part of their energy behind in the spirit world.
-If someone you loved died thirty years ahead of you and has since reincarnated, you can still see them again upon your own return to the spirit world.
-Amnesia forces us to go into the testing area of the laboratory of Earth without the answers for the tasks we were sent here to accomplish. Amnesia also relieves us of the baggage for past failures so we may use new approaches with more confidence.
-Typically, a highly advanced soul will bring no more than 25 percent of its total capacity to Earth where the average, less confident soul has 50-70 percent.
-When we review our future life from the spirit world we are given advice about the energy requirements of the body we will occupy. The decision of how much energy we should take is ours. Many souls want to leave as much behind as possible because they love their home and the activities going on there.
-The souls who choose to split into two or more bodies within the same general time frame on Earth, want to accelerate their learning.
-"Physical worlds like Earth, with the type of body we have, it's a stage of mental development."
Thursday, January 3, 2019
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes VI
-The integrity of souls involves an all-consuming desire that those they love have the free choice to finish their lives in any way they want.
-"Death is like a waking up after a long sleep where you had just a muddled awareness. The release you receive is one that comes after crying , only here you are not crying."
-Death only exchanges one reality for another in the continuum of existence.
-Upon death we go directly from one astral plane around Earth through the gateway into the Spirit world.
-Within the astral plane surrounding Earth, alternate or coexisting realities are part of our physical world.
-Higher beings are instantly aware of our death. Yet the wishes of the deceased are respected.
-"Placing a disturbed soul into a new body would be totally unfair to a baby just staring life."
-Souls have the ownership of their energy and most ask their guides to be taken to the centers of healing and rejuvenation in the spirit world.
-Our physical world may have unhappy or mischievous spirits floating around, but the do not lock in and inhabit the minds of people.
-Souls come to Earth to work on their own shortcomings.
-Soul's life contract.
-Like a fingerprint, each soul has a unique identity in its formation, composition and vibrational distribution.
-To begin to understand the soul, one must listen to the heart.
-Souls often leave their bodies seconds before a violent death.
-All but the most advanced souls crossing back the spirit world are met by benevolent spirits who make contact with their positive energy and escort needy souls to quiet recovery areas.
-"Death is like a waking up after a long sleep where you had just a muddled awareness. The release you receive is one that comes after crying , only here you are not crying."
-Death only exchanges one reality for another in the continuum of existence.
-Upon death we go directly from one astral plane around Earth through the gateway into the Spirit world.
-Within the astral plane surrounding Earth, alternate or coexisting realities are part of our physical world.
-Higher beings are instantly aware of our death. Yet the wishes of the deceased are respected.
-"Placing a disturbed soul into a new body would be totally unfair to a baby just staring life."
-Souls have the ownership of their energy and most ask their guides to be taken to the centers of healing and rejuvenation in the spirit world.
-Our physical world may have unhappy or mischievous spirits floating around, but the do not lock in and inhabit the minds of people.
-Souls come to Earth to work on their own shortcomings.
-Soul's life contract.
-Like a fingerprint, each soul has a unique identity in its formation, composition and vibrational distribution.
-To begin to understand the soul, one must listen to the heart.
-Souls often leave their bodies seconds before a violent death.
-All but the most advanced souls crossing back the spirit world are met by benevolent spirits who make contact with their positive energy and escort needy souls to quiet recovery areas.
Wednesday, January 2, 2019
Destiny of souls by M. Newton. Quotes V
-When a soul once again returns to a pure energy state in the spirit world, it no longer feels hate, anger, envy, jealousy and the like. It has come to Earth to experience these sorts of emotions and learn from them. But after departing from Earth, do souls feel any sadness for what they have left behind? Certainly, souls carry nostalgia for the good times in all their past physical lives. This is tempered by a state of blissful omniscience and such a heightened sense of well being that souls feel more alive than when they were on Earth.
-Two sorts of negative emotions of souls:
1. Karmic guilt for making very poor choices.
2. A longing to reunite with the Source of their existence.
-It's a soul's destiny to search for truth in their experiences in order to gain wisdom.
-Since the immortal character of the soul is no longer encumbered by individual temperament and the chemistry of its last body, it is at peace.
-Two sorts of negative emotions of souls:
1. Karmic guilt for making very poor choices.
2. A longing to reunite with the Source of their existence.
-It's a soul's destiny to search for truth in their experiences in order to gain wisdom.
-Since the immortal character of the soul is no longer encumbered by individual temperament and the chemistry of its last body, it is at peace.
Monday, December 31, 2018
Calendar Book 2018
1. January: Journey of souls by M. Newton
2. February: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
3. March: The vision of a champion by A. Dorrance
4. April: Extreme ownership by Willink & Babin
5. May: Start with why by S. Sinek
6. June: Being mortal by A. Gawande
7. July: Pastores del Pirineo de Severino Pallaruelo.
8. August: Notas de la vida de un pastor de Jorge Puyó Navarro
9. September: Ansó. Sus montes y su ganadería de Jorge Puyó Navarro
10. October: Handbook for teacher in Human Values Education by R & S. Farmer
11. November: The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by B. Franklin.
12. December: Destiny of souls by M. Newton
2. February: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
3. March: The vision of a champion by A. Dorrance
4. April: Extreme ownership by Willink & Babin
5. May: Start with why by S. Sinek
6. June: Being mortal by A. Gawande
7. July: Pastores del Pirineo de Severino Pallaruelo.
8. August: Notas de la vida de un pastor de Jorge Puyó Navarro
9. September: Ansó. Sus montes y su ganadería de Jorge Puyó Navarro
10. October: Handbook for teacher in Human Values Education by R & S. Farmer
11. November: The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by B. Franklin.
12. December: Destiny of souls by M. Newton
Calendar Book 2017.
1. January: Your erroneous zones by Wayne Dyer.
2. February: Angels in my hair by Lorne Byrne.
3. March: The champions mind by Jim Afremow.
4. April: The diary of Anne Frank by Anne Frank.
5. May: Mental training for peak performance by Steve Ungerleider.
6. June: Messages from the masters by Bryan Weiss.
7. July: Hillbilly elegy by J.D. Vance.
8. August: Green card warrior by Nick Adams.
9. September: Grit by Angela Duckworth.
10. October: Wooden by John Wooden.
11. November: Knight. My story by Bobby Knight.
12. December: Love from Heaven by Lorna Byrne.
2. February: Angels in my hair by Lorne Byrne.
3. March: The champions mind by Jim Afremow.
4. April: The diary of Anne Frank by Anne Frank.
5. May: Mental training for peak performance by Steve Ungerleider.
6. June: Messages from the masters by Bryan Weiss.
7. July: Hillbilly elegy by J.D. Vance.
8. August: Green card warrior by Nick Adams.
9. September: Grit by Angela Duckworth.
10. October: Wooden by John Wooden.
11. November: Knight. My story by Bobby Knight.
12. December: Love from Heaven by Lorna Byrne.
Friday, December 28, 2018
Thursday, December 27, 2018
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes IV
-"I can come back whenever he really gets down in the dumps and yearns for me."
-Spirits are very selective in their use of our dreams sequences.
-Spiritual dreams involve our guides, teaching souls and our soulmates who come as messengers to assist us with solutions.
-Some of our greatest revelations come from the episodic dreams of events, places and behavior patterns emanating from experiences before we acquired our present body.
-Ways spirits connect with the living:
1. Somatic touch.
2. Personification with objects.
3. Dream recognition.
4. Transference through children.
5. Contact in familiar settings.
-Souls don't give up easily on us.
-We will see each other again some day, I know.
-Personal guides and soulmates, however they are represented, contact us from the other side if we require consolation.
-Angel-like spirits who regularly come to Earth between lives simply to help people they don't know.
-Having other relationships neither lessens nor dishonors our first love, it only validates that love, providing a state of healthy acceptance has been reached in between.
-Souls lose most of their negative emotional baggage when they shed their bodies.
-Spirits are very selective in their use of our dreams sequences.
-Spiritual dreams involve our guides, teaching souls and our soulmates who come as messengers to assist us with solutions.
-Some of our greatest revelations come from the episodic dreams of events, places and behavior patterns emanating from experiences before we acquired our present body.
-Ways spirits connect with the living:
1. Somatic touch.
2. Personification with objects.
3. Dream recognition.
4. Transference through children.
5. Contact in familiar settings.
-Souls don't give up easily on us.
-We will see each other again some day, I know.
-Personal guides and soulmates, however they are represented, contact us from the other side if we require consolation.
-Angel-like spirits who regularly come to Earth between lives simply to help people they don't know.
-Having other relationships neither lessens nor dishonors our first love, it only validates that love, providing a state of healthy acceptance has been reached in between.
-Souls lose most of their negative emotional baggage when they shed their bodies.
Wednesday, December 26, 2018
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes III
-All roles are temporary.
-The person you love is not really gone.
-Part of your energy was left behind in the spirit world at the time of incarnation. When your love arrives back home again, you will already be there waiting with that portion of your energy which was left behind. This same energy is held in reserve for unification with the returning soul.
-In death, suddenly the soul is released and given freedom. Yet, if we have the need, souls are able to contact us on a regular basis from the spirit world.
-"I'll watch over her, but I know she is going to make it through this."
-Souls who are reaching back to comfort the living look for areas that are most receptive to their energy.
-Absence is only a change of reality and not final.
-The person you love is not really gone.
-Part of your energy was left behind in the spirit world at the time of incarnation. When your love arrives back home again, you will already be there waiting with that portion of your energy which was left behind. This same energy is held in reserve for unification with the returning soul.
-In death, suddenly the soul is released and given freedom. Yet, if we have the need, souls are able to contact us on a regular basis from the spirit world.
-"I'll watch over her, but I know she is going to make it through this."
-Souls who are reaching back to comfort the living look for areas that are most receptive to their energy.
-Absence is only a change of reality and not final.
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes II
-Once or twice between lives we visit this group of higher beings who are a step or two above our teacher-guides.
-These masters are as close as I can come to the Creator.
-Going in front of the council is like being sent to the principal's office in school.
-Souls voluntarily select less than perfect bodies and difficult lives to address karmic debts or to work on different aspects of a lesson they have had trouble with in the past.
-Most souls accept the bodies offered to them in the selection room but a soul can reject what is offered and even delay reincarnating. Then, too a soul might ask to go to a physical planet other than Earth for a while.
-If we accept the new assignment, we are often sent to a preparation class to remind us of certain signposts and clues in the life to come, especially at those moments when primary soulmates come into our lives.
-Souls join their assigned hosts on the womb of the baby's mother sometime after the third month of pregnancy so they will have a sufficiently evolved brain to work with before term.
-"The only thing of true importance in this material life is the way we live and how we treat other people."
-These masters are as close as I can come to the Creator.
-Going in front of the council is like being sent to the principal's office in school.
-Souls voluntarily select less than perfect bodies and difficult lives to address karmic debts or to work on different aspects of a lesson they have had trouble with in the past.
-Most souls accept the bodies offered to them in the selection room but a soul can reject what is offered and even delay reincarnating. Then, too a soul might ask to go to a physical planet other than Earth for a while.
-If we accept the new assignment, we are often sent to a preparation class to remind us of certain signposts and clues in the life to come, especially at those moments when primary soulmates come into our lives.
-Souls join their assigned hosts on the womb of the baby's mother sometime after the third month of pregnancy so they will have a sufficiently evolved brain to work with before term.
-"The only thing of true importance in this material life is the way we live and how we treat other people."
Destiny of souls by Michael Newton. Quotes.
-At the moment of death, our soul rises out of its host body.
-A guiding principle in the spirit world is that wrongdoing, intentional or untintentional, on the part of all souls will need to be readdressed in some form in a future life.
-There is no hell for souls, except perhaps on Earth.
-Some lives are so difficult that the soul arrives home very tired.
-Our soul groups are respectful of what we have gone through during an incarnation.
-Homecoming is a joyous interlude.
-Age is not a guarantee of high attainment.
-Every aspect of a life is dissected, even to the extent of reverse role playing in the group, to bring greater awareness.
-There certainly is structure in the spirit world, but it exists within a sublime matrix of compassion, harmony, ethics, and morality, far beyond what we practice on Earth.
-In the spirit world, we are not forced to reincarnate or participate in group projects.
-"I have skated through many easy lives and I like it that way because I haven't really wanted to work hard. Now, that's going to change. My guide says: we are ready when you are."
-Souls have feelings of humility at having been given the opportunity to incarnate in physical form.
-A guiding principle in the spirit world is that wrongdoing, intentional or untintentional, on the part of all souls will need to be readdressed in some form in a future life.
-There is no hell for souls, except perhaps on Earth.
-Some lives are so difficult that the soul arrives home very tired.
-Our soul groups are respectful of what we have gone through during an incarnation.
-Homecoming is a joyous interlude.
-Age is not a guarantee of high attainment.
-Every aspect of a life is dissected, even to the extent of reverse role playing in the group, to bring greater awareness.
-There certainly is structure in the spirit world, but it exists within a sublime matrix of compassion, harmony, ethics, and morality, far beyond what we practice on Earth.
-In the spirit world, we are not forced to reincarnate or participate in group projects.
-"I have skated through many easy lives and I like it that way because I haven't really wanted to work hard. Now, that's going to change. My guide says: we are ready when you are."
-Souls have feelings of humility at having been given the opportunity to incarnate in physical form.
Tuesday, December 25, 2018
The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. Quotes IX
-These things I mention as a caution to young printers, and that they may be encouraged not to pollute their presses and disgrace their profession by such infamous practices, but refuse steadily, as they may see by my example that such a course of conduct will not on the whole, be injurious to their interests.
-I did not, however, aim at gaining his favor by paying any servile respect to him.
-He that has once done you a kindness, will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.
-After getting the first hundred pound, it is more easy to get the second.
-Never to ask for an office, and never to refuse one when offered to him.
-Human felicity is produced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom happen, as by little advantages that occur everyday.
-When men are employed they are best contented.
-I did not, however, aim at gaining his favor by paying any servile respect to him.
-He that has once done you a kindness, will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.
-After getting the first hundred pound, it is more easy to get the second.
-Never to ask for an office, and never to refuse one when offered to him.
-Human felicity is produced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom happen, as by little advantages that occur everyday.
-When men are employed they are best contented.
Sunday, December 23, 2018
The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. Quotes VIII
-Fewer still, in public affairs, act with a view to the good of mankind.
-There seems to me at present to be great occasion for raising a United Party for Virtue, by forming the virtuous and good men of all nations into a regular body, to be governed by suitable good and wise rules, which good and wise men may probably be more unanimous in their obedience to than common people are to common laws.
-The substance of an intended creed:
That there is one God, who made all things.
That he governs the world by his providence.
That he ought to be worshiped by adoration, prayer, and thanksgiving.
But the most acceptable service of God is doing good to man.
That the soul is immortal.
And that God will certainly reward virtue and punish vice, either here or hereafter.
-The Society of the Free and Easy: free, as being, by the general practice and habit of the virtues, free from the dominion of vice; and particularly by the practice of industry and frugality; free from debt, which exposes a man to confinement, and a species of slavery to this creditors.
-One man of tolerable abilities may work great changes, and accomplish great affairs among mankind, if he first forms a good plan, and, cutting off all amusements or other employments that would divert his attention, makes the execution of that same plan his sole study and business.
-Poor Richard's Almanac.
-It is hard for an empty sack to stand upright.
-These proverbs, which contained the wisdom of many ages and nations, I assembled and formed into a connected discourse prefixed to the Almanac of 1757, as the harangue of a wise old man to the people attending an auction.
-A vicious man could not be properly called a man of sense.
-There seems to me at present to be great occasion for raising a United Party for Virtue, by forming the virtuous and good men of all nations into a regular body, to be governed by suitable good and wise rules, which good and wise men may probably be more unanimous in their obedience to than common people are to common laws.
-The substance of an intended creed:
That there is one God, who made all things.
That he governs the world by his providence.
That he ought to be worshiped by adoration, prayer, and thanksgiving.
But the most acceptable service of God is doing good to man.
That the soul is immortal.
And that God will certainly reward virtue and punish vice, either here or hereafter.
-The Society of the Free and Easy: free, as being, by the general practice and habit of the virtues, free from the dominion of vice; and particularly by the practice of industry and frugality; free from debt, which exposes a man to confinement, and a species of slavery to this creditors.
-One man of tolerable abilities may work great changes, and accomplish great affairs among mankind, if he first forms a good plan, and, cutting off all amusements or other employments that would divert his attention, makes the execution of that same plan his sole study and business.
-Poor Richard's Almanac.
-It is hard for an empty sack to stand upright.
-These proverbs, which contained the wisdom of many ages and nations, I assembled and formed into a connected discourse prefixed to the Almanac of 1757, as the harangue of a wise old man to the people attending an auction.
-A vicious man could not be properly called a man of sense.
The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. Quotes VII
-I contrived the following method for conducting that examination. I made a little book, in which I allotted a page for each of the virtues. I ruled each page with red ink, so as to have seven columns, one for each day of the week, marking each column with a letter for the day. I crossed these columns with thirteen red lines, marking the beginning of each line with the first letter of one of the virtues, on which line, and in its proper column, I might mark, by a little black spot, every fault I found upon examination to have been committed respecting that virtue upon that day.
-I determined to give a week's strict attention to each of the virtues successively.
-Every part of my business should have its allotted time, one page in my little book contained the following scheme of employment for the twenty-four hours of a natural day.
-My scheme of order gave me the most trouble.
-On the whole, although I never arrived at the perfection, I had been so ambitious of obtaining, but fell far short of it, yet I was, by the endeavor, a better and a happier man than I otherwise should have been if I had not attempted it.
-No qualities were so likely to make a poor's man fortune as those of probity and integrity.
-When another asserted something that I thought an error, I denied myself the pleasure of contradicting him abruptly, and on showing him immediately some absurdity in his proposition; and in answering I began by observing that in certain cases and circumstances his opinion would be right, but in the present case there appeared or seemed to be some difference.
-The modest way in which I proposed my opinions procured them a readier reception and less contradiction.
-I was but a bad speaker, never eloquent, subject to much hesitation in my choice of words, hardly correct in language, and yet I generally carried my points.
-In reality, there is, perhaps no one of our natural passions so hard to subdue as pride.
-I determined to give a week's strict attention to each of the virtues successively.
-Every part of my business should have its allotted time, one page in my little book contained the following scheme of employment for the twenty-four hours of a natural day.
-My scheme of order gave me the most trouble.
-On the whole, although I never arrived at the perfection, I had been so ambitious of obtaining, but fell far short of it, yet I was, by the endeavor, a better and a happier man than I otherwise should have been if I had not attempted it.
-No qualities were so likely to make a poor's man fortune as those of probity and integrity.
-When another asserted something that I thought an error, I denied myself the pleasure of contradicting him abruptly, and on showing him immediately some absurdity in his proposition; and in answering I began by observing that in certain cases and circumstances his opinion would be right, but in the present case there appeared or seemed to be some difference.
-The modest way in which I proposed my opinions procured them a readier reception and less contradiction.
-I was but a bad speaker, never eloquent, subject to much hesitation in my choice of words, hardly correct in language, and yet I generally carried my points.
-In reality, there is, perhaps no one of our natural passions so hard to subdue as pride.
The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. Quotes VI
-This library afforded me the means of improvement by constant study, for which I set apart an hour or two each day.
-Reading was the only amusement I allowed myself. I spent no time in taverns, games, or frolicks of any kind; and my industry in my business continued as indefatigable as it was necessary.
-My original habits of frugality continuing.
-I never was without some religious principles; and being to be found in all the religions we had in our country, I respected them all, though with different degrees of respect, as I found them more or less mixed with other articles, which, without any tendency to inspire, promote, or confirm morality, served principallly to divide us, and make us unfriendly to one another.
-It was about this time I conceived the bold and arduous project of arriving at moral perfection. I wished to live without committing any fault at any time.
-I concluded at length, that the mere speculative conviction that it was our interest to be completely virtuous, was not sufficient to prevent our slipping; and that the contrary habits must be broken, and good ones acquired and established, before we can have any dependence on a steady, uniform rectitude of conduct.
-The 13 virtues:
1. Temperance.
2. Silence.
3. Order.
4. Resolution.
5. Frugality.
6. Industry.
7. Sincerity.
8. Justice.
9. Moderation.
10. Cleanliness.
11.Tranquility.
12. Chastity.
13. Humility.
-Reading was the only amusement I allowed myself. I spent no time in taverns, games, or frolicks of any kind; and my industry in my business continued as indefatigable as it was necessary.
-My original habits of frugality continuing.
-I never was without some religious principles; and being to be found in all the religions we had in our country, I respected them all, though with different degrees of respect, as I found them more or less mixed with other articles, which, without any tendency to inspire, promote, or confirm morality, served principallly to divide us, and make us unfriendly to one another.
-It was about this time I conceived the bold and arduous project of arriving at moral perfection. I wished to live without committing any fault at any time.
-I concluded at length, that the mere speculative conviction that it was our interest to be completely virtuous, was not sufficient to prevent our slipping; and that the contrary habits must be broken, and good ones acquired and established, before we can have any dependence on a steady, uniform rectitude of conduct.
-The 13 virtues:
1. Temperance.
2. Silence.
3. Order.
4. Resolution.
5. Frugality.
6. Industry.
7. Sincerity.
8. Justice.
9. Moderation.
10. Cleanliness.
11.Tranquility.
12. Chastity.
13. Humility.
Thursday, December 20, 2018
The autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. Quotes V
-Life is uncertain.
-I do not think that the writings of Caesar and Tacitus can be more interesting to a true judge of human nature and society.
-School and other education constantly proceed upon false principles, and show a clumsy apparatus pointed at a false mark.
-It is at youth that we plant our chief habits and prejudices.
-Why are weaker men to be deprived of such helps, when we see our race has been blundering on in the dark, almost without a guide in this particular, from the farthest trace of time?
-What more worthy of experiments and system that human life?
-Another thing demonstrated will be the propriety of every man's waiting for his time for appearing upon the stage of the world. Our sensations being very much fixed to the moment, we are apt to forget that more moments are to follow the first, and consequently that man should arrange his conduct so as to suit the whole of a life.
-Your attribution appears to have been applied to your life, and the passing moments of it have been enlivened with content and enjoyment, instead of being tormented with foolish impatience or regrets.
-Dr. Franklin praised your frugality, diligence and temperance, which he considered as a pattern for all youth; but it is singular that he should have forgotten your modesty and your disinterestedness, without which you never could have waited for your advancement, or found your situation in the mean time comfortable; which is a strong lesson to show the poverty of glory and the importance of regulating our minds.
-I do not think that the writings of Caesar and Tacitus can be more interesting to a true judge of human nature and society.
-School and other education constantly proceed upon false principles, and show a clumsy apparatus pointed at a false mark.
-It is at youth that we plant our chief habits and prejudices.
-Why are weaker men to be deprived of such helps, when we see our race has been blundering on in the dark, almost without a guide in this particular, from the farthest trace of time?
-What more worthy of experiments and system that human life?
-Another thing demonstrated will be the propriety of every man's waiting for his time for appearing upon the stage of the world. Our sensations being very much fixed to the moment, we are apt to forget that more moments are to follow the first, and consequently that man should arrange his conduct so as to suit the whole of a life.
-Your attribution appears to have been applied to your life, and the passing moments of it have been enlivened with content and enjoyment, instead of being tormented with foolish impatience or regrets.
-Dr. Franklin praised your frugality, diligence and temperance, which he considered as a pattern for all youth; but it is singular that he should have forgotten your modesty and your disinterestedness, without which you never could have waited for your advancement, or found your situation in the mean time comfortable; which is a strong lesson to show the poverty of glory and the importance of regulating our minds.
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