Sunday, December 28, 2014

10 Common Problems Old Souls Experience At Least Once In Their Life. By Koty Neelis

1. The inexperience of feeling truly understood.

Old souls can be seen as strange people because they often hold unconventional ideals and standards of living. They often feel a sense of separation from themselves and the “real world” because things like obtaining great wealth, owning a lot of expensive possessions, and other traits of living a materialistic lifestyle aren’t really an interest to them. In a world fueled by consumerism this can seem kind of weird to most people. Having a different set of expectations and ideas about living can make it hard to feel like anyone truly understands you and what drives you in life.

2. People don’t understand how easygoing and forgiving you can be at times.

Old souls tend to have a philosophical viewpoint about life and look at things on a larger spectrum. What does this mean? When problems arise and old souls are forced to overcome great obstacles they understand even the hardest moments in life are a chance to learn and become stronger. It’s not that the things that have happened to them haven’t affected them – they have – but they look at their struggles as just a brief moment in the overall journey of life. They can find the good in people, in life, in everyday interactions that can seem negative or monotonous to others and that’s where they focus their energy.

3. You can be inhibited by the way you view life.

As you evolve over time your self-awareness increases and you’re able to firmly identify your beliefs about life and this world. The problem with old souls is that often they can see a multitude of possibilities within the spectrum of life and instead of freeing them to create whichever destiny they believe would suit them they instead can become inhibited by the very freedom they’ve established.

4. Making decisions based off of a “feeling” can seem illogical.

Intuition is a subtle, sophisticated language and old souls actively work to become in-tune with the way their body communicates with them. The gut instinct is the most simple and basic level of physical intuition that communicates through yes/no, safe/unsafe messages. We use this the most often when trying to make decisions about people and relationships, both personal and professional. Old souls rely on their gut instinct to guide them in their decision making and other people often won’t understand the logic when you tell someone you just “have a feeling” about something or someone.

5. You can be seen as a loner.

Old souls are after long-lasting, impactful, meaningful relationships in all aspects of life. They’d rather have a few close friends than dozens of acquaintances they hardly know but this can give the impression they’re some sort of social outcast. Old souls, like introverts, would rather focus their social energy on people they can have deep conversations with and they loathe being pressured to socialize more or make more friends.

6. You’re unsure if you’ll ever find your home.

One of the most universal problems with being an old soul is the inability to ever really feel like you belong with others. Whether you travel all over or have lived in the same town your entire life it can be difficult for old souls to feel like they have a home in this world. They’re constantly seeking kindred spirits and a place where they truly belong.

7. The desire for solitude can impact your relationships.

Being an old soul can be an isolating existence at times. You need your solitude to sit and reflect on life and to recharge when you’ve completely exhausted yourself but sometimes this can be frustrating to your friends and family. They love you and they want to be around you. Unless they also draw their energy from themselves and understand the need to be alone from time to time this can create issues when they really want you to hang out with them and you’d rather be at home reading a book

8. Your idea of fun is different than others.

Old souls find simple pleasure in small moments in life, and activities that are a bit old-fashioned are what they’re naturally drawn to. Going on a weekend drive through the country, heading to the 24-hour diner at midnight on the other side of town with the best breakfast within a 50-mile radius, getting milkshakes and watching the sunset over the pier, spending the evening writing hand-written letters to your friends that live across the country – these are the kinds of things you love doing. The problem is finding other people who like to engage in the same types of old school fun.

9. You learn the brutal realities of romanticizing life and love.

Old souls have a very romantic way of seeing the world and often when the world doesn’t live up to their expectations they can be emotionally impacted by this. Although old souls are idealistic, eventually they learn to also try and see the more realistic side of things.

10. You find it hard to disengage in conversation with strangers.

Something about old souls makes other people want to come up to them and talk. It’s like you’re sitting on a train or bench somewhere, a person sits down next to you, and 20 minutes later you know their entire life story. Others are drawn to speak to you but it can be difficult to turn others away or to remove yourself from the conversation because you feel some sense of duty to be a sounding board for this stranger that felt compelled to talk to you.

Thursday, December 25, 2014

The fault in our stars quote

You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world but you do have a say in who hurts you.

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

The four agreements. Selected quotes

-Taking action is being alive. It's taking the risks to go out and express your dream. Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way we deny life.
- I make everything a ritual.
-There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right not is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self-pity, suffering and tears.
- Your opinion is nothing but your point of view. It is not necessarily true.
- Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.
- When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do

Friday, December 19, 2014

Coconut choco balls

Chocolate Coconut Balls



TOTAL TIME: Prep: 30 min. + chilling


Ingredients

  •  1-3/4 cups flaked coconut
  •  2 tablespoons shortening
  •  Optional ingredients: flaked coconut, chopped almonds, sliced almonds and sprinkles
  • Directions

    1. In a large bowl, combine the confectioners' sugar, coconut, almonds and milk. 
    2. Shape into 1-in. balls. Refrigerate until firm, about 20 minutes.
    3. In a microwave, melt semisweet chips and shortening on high for about 1 minute; stir. 
    4. Microwave at additional 10- to 20-second intervals, stirring until smooth.
    5. Dip balls in chocolate; allow excess to drip off. Coat or garnish with ingredients of your choice. 
    6. Place on waxed paper; let stand until set. Store in an airtight container. Yield: 2-1/2 dozen.





Receta de mantecados caseros

Quedan 6 días para Noche Buena y como cada temporada, en Gaceta.es te proponemos unas sencillas recetas para adornar la mesa en esa noche especial. La receta de hoy: Mantecados tradicionales.

Se acerca la Navidad, las calles ya están iluminadas, las casas adornadas, en prácticamente todos los hogares coronan estrellas los árboles y el Belén preside la mesa. Quedan 15 días escasos para la cena de Noche Buena y como cada temporada, en Gaceta.es te proponemos unas sencillas recetas navideñas para adornar la mesa en esa noche especial con un toque dulce y casero. La receta de hoy: Mantecados tradicionales.

Ingredientes

1 Kg de harina
1/2 Kg de Manteca de Cerdo (que no sea Ibérica)
2 Cucharadas de azúcar
1 copa de Anís Seco
Un poco de canela molida
3 clavos indios molidos
Azúcar glas para rebozar

Preparación Paso a Paso

1. Preparar todos los ingredientes.
2. Formar un volcán con la harina y la manteca, echarle la canela, el azúcar, el clavo y el anís. Amasar todo bien hasta que quede todo unido.
3. Estirar la masa, dejándola al grosor deseado (recomendación un centímetro de grosor).
4.Cortamos la masa en pequeñas piezas con un cortador o un molde para conseguir que el mantecado tenga la forma deseada (los tradicionales son redondos o cuadrados pero hoy en día hay una gran variedad de moldes en el mercado que nos permitirán jugar con la masa y hacer formas variadas, incluso con motivos navideños). Un consejo, para evitar que la masa se pegue
5. Colocamos los mantecados en una bandeja y los metemos al horno a unos 180º, durante 15 ó 20 minutos. No se tienen que dorar demasiado. Para evitar que los mantecados se queden pegados a la bandeja ponemos sobre esta mantequilla y harina o bien papel de hornear.
6. Una vez fuera del horno los dejamos enfriar (mínimo un par de horas) y los espolvoreamos con azúcar glas para decorar.

Recetas del turron de Jijona y de Alicante

Turrón duro o de Alicante

Ingredientes (para 2 tabletas)

250gr de almendra cruda tipo Marcona
250gr de azúcar
2 claras ó 50gr de claras

Preparación

1. Tostar las almendras en el horno o en una sartén sin engrasar, moviéndolas siempre que puedas para que se doren homogéneamente y retíralas cuando estén tostadas (al gusto).
2. En una olla de fondo grueso mezclar el azúcar con la miel y calentar la mezcla a fuego lento, removiendo el azúcar con la miel.
3. Montar la clara con las varillas eléctricas pero sin que llegue a cuajar.
4. Cuando la mezcla empiece a burbujear, dejaremos que cueza unos minutos más y a continuación la retiraremos del fuego.
5. Incorporar la clara montada lentamente y moviendo de forma ligera para que no cuaje.
6. Volver a incorporar la olla al calor del fogón y prosequir la cocción sin dejar de remover. (Si utilizamos vitrocerámica usaremos la temperatura mínima, entre el 1 y el 2).
7. Continuar removiendo con una cuchara de madera hasta que la mezcla adquiera la textura del caramelo, lo que se conoce como "punto de bola dura" o "hasta que el caramelo rompa". A continuación incorporaremos las almendras y mezclaremos todo bien.
8. Dejar entibiar unos minutos y verter la masa del turrón en un molde forrado con papel de horno (el molde será rectangular y bajo, preferiblemente.)
9. Alisar la superficie y dejar enfriar durante al menos un día.
Turrón blando o de Jijona
Esta variedad, con denominación de origen de Jijona o Xixona, también se conoce como turrón blando y consiste en una masa molida de miel, azúcar y almendras.

Ingredientes

300 gr de almendras tostadas (la variedad más utilizada para el turrón es la almendra Marcona)
200 gr de miel
200 gr de azúcar
50 gr de avellanas tostadas
50 gr de piñones
1 cuchara de canela (la cantidad, al gusto)

Preparación

1. Pelar los frutos secos y triturarlos hasta conseguir un polvo muy fino.
2. Poner en un cazo la miel y el azúcar. Calentarlos y dejarlos cocer a fuego medio unos minutos removiendo continuamente. Cuando el azúcar se haya disuelto por completo, añadir los los frutos secos y mezclarlo todo bien.
3. Rellenar con esta preparación un molde de madera o de aluminio, de forma rectangular y sin mucha altura. Colocar un peso encima y dejarlo reposar unos cuatro o cinco días en un lugar fresco y seco para que la mezcla se adapte a la forma y se solidifique la pasta.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Stay on the brink by Pema Chodron

When things fall apart and we’re on the verge of we know not what, the test for each of us is to stay on that brink and not concretize. The spiritual journey is not about heaven and finally getting to a place that’s really swell. In fact, that way of looking at things is what keeps us miserable. Thinking that we can find some lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what in Buddhism is called samsara, a hopeless cycle that goes round and round endlessly and causes us to suffer greatly. 

The very first noble truth of the Buddha points out that suffering is inevitable for human beings as long as we believe that things last—that they don’t disintegrate, that they can be counted on to satisfy our hunger for security. From this point of view, the only time we ever know what’s really going on is when the rug’s been pulled out and we can’t find anywhere to land. We use these situations either to wake ourselves up or to put ourselves to sleep. Right now—in the very instant of groundlessness—is the seed of taking care of those who need our care and of discovering our goodness.

Monday, December 1, 2014

The puzzle of motivation. Intrinsic motivacion versus extrinsic motivacion

http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_pink_on_motivation?language=en


Video about intrinsic motivation versus extrinsic motivacion.


The Choice Theory. William Glasser.

The term choice theory is the work of William GlasserMD, author of the book so named, and is the culmination of some 50 years of theory and practice in psychology andcounseling. Choice Theory posits that behavior is central to our existence and is driven by five genetically driven needs.
  • Survival (food, clothing, shelter, breathing, personal safety, and security)
and four fundamental psychological needs:
  • Belonging/connecting/love
  • Power/significance/competence
  • Freedom/autonomy, and
  • Fun/learning
Choice Theory posits the existence of a "Quality World." The phrase "Quality World" represents a person's "perfect" world, as it relates to people, possessions, beliefs, etc. Starting from birth and continuing throughout our lives, we place the people who are important to us, things we prize, and systems of belief (religion, cultural values, and icons, etc.) within the framework of our "Quality World." Glasser also posits a "Comparing Place" in which we compare and contrast our perceptions against our Quality World perspective. We behave to achieve as best we can a real world experience consistent with our Quality World.
Behavior ("Total Behavior" in Glasser's terms) is made up of these four components: actingthinkingfeeling, and physiology. Glasser suggests that we have considerable control or choice over the first two of these, and little ability to directly choose the latter two. As these four components are closely intertwined, the choices we make in our thinking and acting greatly affect our feeling and physiology.
The source of much unhappiness is the failing or failed relationships with those who are important to us: spouses, parents, children, friends and colleagues. The symptoms of unhappiness are widely variable and are often seen as mental illness. Glasser believed that "pleasure" and "happiness" are related but are far from synonymous. Sex, for example, is a "pleasure" but may well be divorced from a "satisfactory relationship" which is a precondition for lasting "happiness" in life. Hence the intense focus on the improvement of relationships in counseling with Choice Theory—the "new Reality Therapy".
Choice Theory posits that most mental illness is, in fact, an expression of unhappiness and that we are able to learn how to choose alternate behaviors that will result in greater satisfaction. Reality Therapy is the Choice Theory-based counseling process focused on helping clients to learn to make those self-optimizing choices.
The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory[1]


1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
2. All we can give another person is information.
3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
6. We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
7. All we do is behave.
8. All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology
9. All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
10. All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.