Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Grit

Grit in psychology is a positive, non-cognitive trait based on an individual's passion for a particular long-term goal or end state, coupled with a powerful motivation to achieve their respective objective. This perseverance of effort promotes the overcoming of obstacles or challenges that lie within a gritty individual's path to accomplishment, and serves as a driving force in achievement realization. Commonly associated concepts within the field of psychology include "perseverance", "hardiness", "resilience", "ambition", "need for achievement" and "conscientiousness". These constructs can be conceptualized as individual differences related to the accomplishment of work rather than talent or ability. This distinction was brought into focus in 1907 when William James challenged the field to further investigate how certain individuals are capable of accessing richer trait reservoirs enabling them to accomplish more than the average person, but the construct dates back at least to Galton, and the ideals of persistence and tenacity have been understood as a virtue at least since Aristotle.

Green card warrior. By Nick Adams. Memorable quotes.

-Getting to America the right way is hard.
-No man in the wrong can stand up against a fellow that's in the right and keeps on a-comin.
-Why is the legal immigration process so tough , but illegal immigration so easy? Why does it take years to do it the right way but it is almost immediate to do it the wrong way?
-If you are an illegal and crossed the Rio Grande, you get free food stamps, health insurance, don't have to pay taxes and are spoiled by every benefit from state and federal government. If you are a Syrian coming to America, you're undocumented unvetted, and welcome.
-But if you obey the law, you get kicked in the teeth. Repeatedly. How is any of this fair? Or reasonable? Or in accordance with the Constitution or the American ethos?

Monday, August 14, 2017

Hillbilly Elegy by J. D. Vance. Quotes II

-Somehow my aunt and uncle's children ended up with more pedestrian gifts than I had come to expect as a child. They did not define their family Christmas holiday by the dollar value of gifts their daughter accumulated.
-I don't know what the answer is, precisely, but I know it starts when we stop blaming Obama or Bush, or faceless companies and ask ourselves what we can do to make things better.

Hillbilly Elegy by J. D. Vance. Quotes I

-There is nothing lower than the poor stealing from the poor.
-The Blanton men were full of vice.
-I was nine months old the first time Mamaw saw my mother put Pepsi in my bottle.
-The best way up for the hillbilly was out.
-Despite the setbacks, both of my grandparents had an almost religious faith in hard work and the American Dream.
-You can do anything you want to.
-Mamaw and Papaw may have failed Bev in her youth. But they spent the rest of their lives making up for it.
-When I came home and told Papaw about my heartbreak, he turned it into triumph. I learned multiplication and division before dinner.
-In other words, despite all of the environmental pressures from my neighborhood and community, I received a different message at home. And that just might have saved me.
-Mamaw had done everything in her power to be better than the circumstances of her birth.
-We learned to value loyalty, honor and toughness.
-You never start a fight; you always end the fight if someone else starts it.
-Sometimes you have to fight even when you are not defending yourself. Sometimes it's just the right thing to to.
-God helps those who help themselves.
-He never apologized with words.
-The measure of a man is how he treats the women in his family.
-Those three years with Mamaw saved me.
-We spend to pretend that we are upper-class.
-I never saw only the worst of what our community offered, and I believe that saved me.
-Having a job and learning a bit about the world helped clarify precisely what I wanted out of my own life.
-I found a couple of teachers that inspired me to love learning.
-She promised that if she saw me in the presence of any person on the banned list, she would run him over with her car.
-No pep talk or speech could show me how it felt to transition from seeking shelter to providing it.
-Leadership depended far more on earning the respect of your subordinates than on bossing them around.
-Surrounding me was another message: that I and the people like me were not good enough; that the reason Middletown produced zero Ivy League graduates was some genetic or character defect. I could not possibly see how destructive that mentality was until I escaped it.
-I loathed debt and the sense of limitation it imposed.
-The incredible optimism I felt about my own life contrasted starkly with the pessimism of so many of my neighbors.
-What separates the successful from the unsuccessful are the expectations that they had from their own lives.
-The most expensive schools are paradoxically cheaper for low-income students.
-I stopped being ashamed: my parents' mistakes were not my fault.
-The wealthy and the powerful are not just wealthy and powerful; they follow a different set of norms and mores.
-Successful people are playing and entirely different game: they network.
-Social capital: networks of people and institutions.
-The old adage says that it is better to be lucky than good. Apparently having the right network is better than both.
-Life did not wait.
-The only way to take advantage of networking is to ask.
-Social capital is all around us. Those who tap into it prosper. Those who don't are running life's race with a major handicap.
-Not knowing things that many others do often has serious economic consequences.
-I realized then that I had a problem, that I must confront whatever it was that had, for generations, caused those in my family to hurt those whom they loved.
-Her marriage got even better, only after she realized that she did not have to be on guard all the time.
-Why do you fight with me like I am your enemy?
-I used words like weapons. That's what everyone around me did. I did it to survive. Disagreements were war, and you played to win the game. I did not unlearn these lessons overnight.
-The things I wanted most, a happy partner and a happy home, required constant mental focus.
-You have to stop making excuses and take responsibility.
-Mom deserves much of the blame. No person's childhood gives him or her a perpetual moral get out of jail free card.
-Upward mobility is never a clean-cut, and the world I left always finds a way to reel me back in.
-Mom instilled in me a lifelong love of education and learning.
-I think you have to have good role models around you, so you get to know different things. That exposure gives you something to dream for.
-They had a family member they could count on.
-Our high school ranked near the bottom of Ohio's schools, but that had little to do with the staff and much to do with the students.
-The real problem for so many of these kids is what happens at home.

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Calendar Book 2017 August #8. Green card warrior by Nick Adams


Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes VIII

-Afterwards, you and your committee, which is comprised of the loving guides, masters, angels, and others who have helped to guide you over eons of time, plan your next life, so that you can rectify the wrongs you have done.
-To be truly happy requires an understanding of life and of death, and a loving, forgiving, spiritual nature. Introspection, meditation, loving service, kindness, and charity. These are some of the steps along the way. Practicing forgiveness of yourself and others, non-violence and good deeds, working to eliminate anger, fear, greed, self-centeredness, and false price, these are yet more steps.
-Although our lives travel along predetermined courses, fate is not responsible for our actions. And just as we must take complete responsibility for our negative and harmful behavior, so we need to take responsibility for our positive and loving behavior.
-We are not alone in the universe. Beyond our physical dimension, the unseen world appears to be populated by a myriad of spirits of varying abilities and progression.
-The more loving and wise we are, the more advanced we will be on the other side.
-What we call coincidences, are really God's fingerprints.

Friday, August 11, 2017

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes VII

-We are always loved and always protected.
-The reward is in doing, but doing without expecting anything... doing unselfishly.
-Violence is much more than just inflicting physical injury on another. It can be very subtle. Separating into "us" and "them" is an act of violence. Focusing on the differences between people rather than our commonality inevitably leads to violence, sooner or later.
-We fear "the other". We blame them for our problems rather than looking within ourselves. We attempt to solve our problems by "fixing" them, often with violence.
-We are swimming upstream against the current of love when we separate others as different. Love tells us that we are all connected, that we are all equal, that we are all the same.
-This light is not some neuro-chemical  event occurring in an injured brain, but rather a wonderful glimpse into the world beyond.

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes VI

-To be in physical state is abnormal. When you are in spiritual state, that is natural to you. When we are sent back, it's like being sent back to something we do not know. It will take us longer. In the spirit world you have to wait, and then you are renewed. There is a state of renewal. It's a dimension like the other dimensions. We are all spirits... some are in physical state and others are in a period of renewal. And others are guardians. But we all go there. We have been guardians too.
-To remember that we are souls, that we are immortal and always exist in a vast sea of energy, is the key to joy and happiness.
-What is the difference in this life if you are wealthy and I am not? Only the treasures of spirit can be retained. What is the difference if you are powerful or famous and I am not. Happiness has no roots in power or fame, only in love. What is the difference if you are more liked and respected by others than I am? Perhaps I am daring to tell and to live the truth, and the truth is rarely popular. Happiness comes from within, not from without, not from the reflection of what others think of you. Jealousy is poison to the soul.
-Never lose the courage to take risks. You are immortal You can never be hurt.
-We often come around again and again with the same people, even though our relationships may change. This is one way we learn here in the physical state.
-It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into the giving.
-Love dissolves fear.
-Live in the present, not the past or the future. The past is over; learn from it and let it go. The future is not yet here. Plan from it, but do not worry. Worry only wastes your time and energy.
-Paradise on earth is possible if we choose it.
-Our forgetfulness, our state of being unconscious is reversible.


Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes V

-You have a relationship with yourself as well as with others. And you have lived in many bodies and in many times. So ask you present self why it is so fearful. Why are you so afraid to take reasonable risks? Are you afraid of your reputation, afraid of what others think? These fears are conditioned from childhood or before. Ask yourself these questions: What's to lose? What's the worst that can happen? Am I content to live the rest of my life this way?
-Teach them to experience. Teach them to love and to help one another.
-Arrogance is merely another face of fear.
-Forgiving does not mean forgetting. It means understanding.
-You are always loved. You are always protected and you are never alone.
-Instead of worrying about specific outcomes and results, just do the right thing. Reach out unselfishly.
-Money is neutral. What we do with money is the important part.
-Love one another with all of your hearts and do not fear, do not hold back. For the more you give, the more returns to you.
-Understand and forgive. That is the task of love.
-All is love... All is love. With love comes understanding. With understanding comes patience. And then time stops. And everything is now.
-We are always reunited with our loved ones, either on this side or the other.
-It is extremely important to pay attention to the coincidences, the synchronicities, and the deja vu experiences in our lives because they often represent the convergence of our spiritual plan and the actual path we are traveling during our lifetime.
-As we let go of our fears, the obstacles to love disappear and love flows freely within and between and among us.

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes IV

-The relationship is more important than that television, magazine or newspaper. Turn off the television. Respect the other person.
-Renew the relationship through loving actions.
-Soulful relationships bring true joy into our lives.
-Reach out with love and compassion to help others without concern for what you may gain.
-It is a sin to take away another's joy.
-Give positive verbal messages. Compliment from the heart. Do no communicate to harm or to win.
-Never act or speak from anger. Words have a lasting effect and power, and they are not easily forgotten.
-The only test in this great school we call humanity is whether we are learning to discharge anger and embrace love. Holding onto anger poisons our relationships. Continue to love, even if the other is angry, hurt, and fearful. Love is a constant; anger is transient.
-Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing.
-Anger is rooted in judgment. We hold others to some standard that we have somehow fantasized, chosen, and applied to them. The may not even know about these standards but that doesn't matter to us. So often people are angry at us because we have not met their expectations.

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes III

-We choose when we will come into our physical state and when we will leave. We know when we have accomplished what we were sent down here to accomplish... When you have had the time to rest and re-energize your soul, you are allowed to choose your re-entry back into the physical state.
-Not accidentally or coincidentally are we born into our families. We choose our circumstances and establish a plan for our lives before we are even conceived.
-There are reasons for everything. No coincidences exist on the path of destiny.
-Destiny and free will co-exist and interact all the time. They are complementary, not contradictory.
-The soul appears to make a reservation for a particular physical body around the time of conception. No other soul can occupy that body. The union of soul and body is not completed, however until the moment of birth. Before this time, the soul of the unborn child can be both in and out of the body.
-There are seven planes... seven through which we must pass before we are returned. One of them is the plane of transition. There you wait. In that plane it is determined what you will take back with you into the next life.
-Sometimes a soul learns to love by becoming what it most despised.
-A hard life is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity.
-We change races, religions, sex, and economic advantage because we must learn from all sides.
-Relationships are a living laboratory.
-You may have chosen the more difficult life so that you could accelerate your spiritual progress.
-Happiness comes from within. Never give your power to anyone else.
-It is the job of those ahead to reach back, with compassion and with love, to help those behind.
-Love yourself.
-Learn to see with your heart, not your eyes.
-When you look into the eyes of another, any other, and you see you own soul looking back at you, then you will know you have reached another level of consciousness.

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes II

-Our lives are not the result of random actions and events. Lifetimes are wisely and carefully scripted to enhance our learning and evolution.
-We choose our parents, who usually are souls with whom we have interacted in prior lifetimes.
-We review the lives we have just left, learn our lessons, and plan for our next life. Learning doesn't end with the death of the body.
-One important level is the learning stage, where we review our lives. We re-experience every encounter, every relationship. We feel the emotions of the people whom we have helped or hurt, loved and hated, or affected positively or negatively. We feel their emotions very deeply.
-Usually we reincarnate in different relationships. We come around again and again with our loved ones.
-We are always being reunited. We always come back together, again and again.
-When you look at another person, in relationship, in therapy, in life, see their soul through lifetimes and eons of time. Not just the transitory physical being across from you. You too are such a soul.
-We are eternal souls. We never really die.
-A loved relative or friend or a spiritual being is often waiting at the light to greet the out of body traveler and to impart important information or messages.
-Through understanding your past lessons and debts, you will remember your goals for the current life.
-We are beyond life and death, beyond space and beyond time. We are all immortal, and we exist throughout eternity.

Messages from the masters. By Brian Weiss. Quotes I

-Our task is to learn, to become God-like through knowledge. We know so little... By knowledge we approach God, and then we can rest. Then we come back to teach and help others.
-I believe we do reincarnate until we learn our lessons and graduate.
-The ultimate key is understanding.
-Masters, highly evolved souls not in physical form.
-The energy of love is potentially more powerful than any bomb and more subtle than any herb.
-One person or one experience might be disappointing, but the next might be truly extraordinary and should not be discounted because of previous events.
-We are all going to the same place.
-You can begin to understand something when you experience its essence. Your belief becomes a knowing.
-We need to love and respect one another, to see and appreciate the innate beauty and dignity of everyone, because we are all souls, all of the same substance.
-We go through so many stages when we're here. We shed a baby body, go into a child's, from child to and adult, an adult into old age. Why shouldn't we go one step beyond and shed the adult body and go onto a spiritual plane? That is what we do. We don't just stop growing; we continue to grow. When we get to the spiritual plane we keep growing there too. We go through different stages of development. When we arrive, we're burn out. We have to go through a renewal stage, a learning stage, and a stage of decision. We decide when we want to return, where and for what reasons. Some choose not to come back. They choose to go on to another stage of development. And they stay in spirit form... some for longer than others before they return. It is all growth and learning... continuous growth. Our body is just a vehicle for us while we're here. It is our soul and our spirit that last forever.