-Emotional acceptance takes time and work and pain and hurt.
-The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people just don't happen.
-What a blessing to take the time to integrate loss into our lives so that when a love is lost, our capacity to love is not lost also. From our grief can come growth.
Tuesday, December 31, 2019
Death by E. Kubler-Ross. Quotes IV
-The conquest of death is believed to be along and arduous task, involving the cultivation of a disciplined mind and body throughout many terms of existence.
-To find release to must begin regard life and death as identical.
-As a man desires, he wills. As he wills, he acts. As he acts, so does he become.
-It is no really the dying that's so hard; dying takes no skill and no understanding. It can be done by anyone. What is hard is living, living until you die.
-Learning to reinvest yourself in living when you have lost someone you love is very difficult, but only through doing so can you give some meaning to that person's death.
-Dying patients should be allowed as much control as possible over their lives and routines, and life should, as far as possible, be consistent with the life they led before their illness.
-A funeral should be a time to say your last goodbyes, to begin to work through your grief, to make death through actively participating in the preparation and final service, to begin living again and growing through your experience.
-To find release to must begin regard life and death as identical.
-As a man desires, he wills. As he wills, he acts. As he acts, so does he become.
-It is no really the dying that's so hard; dying takes no skill and no understanding. It can be done by anyone. What is hard is living, living until you die.
-Learning to reinvest yourself in living when you have lost someone you love is very difficult, but only through doing so can you give some meaning to that person's death.
-Dying patients should be allowed as much control as possible over their lives and routines, and life should, as far as possible, be consistent with the life they led before their illness.
-A funeral should be a time to say your last goodbyes, to begin to work through your grief, to make death through actively participating in the preparation and final service, to begin living again and growing through your experience.
Death by E. Kubler-Ross. Quotes III
-It is not a particular type of human action per se that determines the outcome of a course of action, whether for good or ill. Rather, it is the frame of mind and heart which is crucial.
-Death is the fate to which all living creatures come at the appointed time, and the unavoidable gate to another realm or state of being through which all creatures must pass.
-That person who faces death calmly, courageously, and confidently, desiring neither to flee it nor to rush into its grasp, will come to recognize death not as an enemy or a robber, but as an ever present companion, and eventually, as a friend.
-Neither human beings nor the universe itself, experiences either and absolute beginning or and absolute end.
-In every instant we are born; in every instant, we die. Birth and death are two almost indistinguishable and imperceptible strands of a single rope of existence.
-Death is the inescapable destiny of all creatures and, given its inevitability, she has not cause to grieve.
-Death is the fate to which all living creatures come at the appointed time, and the unavoidable gate to another realm or state of being through which all creatures must pass.
-That person who faces death calmly, courageously, and confidently, desiring neither to flee it nor to rush into its grasp, will come to recognize death not as an enemy or a robber, but as an ever present companion, and eventually, as a friend.
-Neither human beings nor the universe itself, experiences either and absolute beginning or and absolute end.
-In every instant we are born; in every instant, we die. Birth and death are two almost indistinguishable and imperceptible strands of a single rope of existence.
-Death is the inescapable destiny of all creatures and, given its inevitability, she has not cause to grieve.
Death by E. Kubler-Ross. Quotes II
-By making death and dying a taboo subject and keeping children away from people who are dying or who have died, we create fear that need not be there.
-Illness frequently is accompanied by regressive behavior.
-The first thing the toddler does with a new sitter is to test the limits.
-If only we could be honest, both admit of our fears, touch one another. If you really care, would you lose so much of your valuable professionalism if you even cried with me? Just person to person? Then, it might not be so hard to die, in a hospital, with friends close.
-Chinese believe in face-saving, in status.
-Human volition is a powerful and sometimes determinative factor in dying.
-Judaism: three days of deep grief, seven days of mourning, thirty days of gradual adjustment, and eleven months of remembrance and healing.
-Illness frequently is accompanied by regressive behavior.
-The first thing the toddler does with a new sitter is to test the limits.
-If only we could be honest, both admit of our fears, touch one another. If you really care, would you lose so much of your valuable professionalism if you even cried with me? Just person to person? Then, it might not be so hard to die, in a hospital, with friends close.
-Chinese believe in face-saving, in status.
-Human volition is a powerful and sometimes determinative factor in dying.
-Judaism: three days of deep grief, seven days of mourning, thirty days of gradual adjustment, and eleven months of remembrance and healing.
Death by E. Kubler-Ross. Quotes
-For many years I continued to ask terminal patients to be our teachers.
-The meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day, and from hour to hour. What matters therefore is not the meaning of life in general, but rather the specific meaning of a person's life at a given moment.
-I think Susan lived more in the last few months of her life than the 71 year old woman did in seven decades.
-We can only truly live, and enjoy, and appreciate life if we realize at all times that we are finite.
-In the decades to come we may see one universe, one humankind, one religion that unites us all in a peaceful world. It is up to each of you to lay the groundwork for this future generation, by making an attempt NOW to comprehend and care for your fellow humans, no matter what their creed, color, or philosophy. Through understanding that in the end we all share the same destiny, that just as surely as we are alive, so we will die, we may come also to understand that in life also we must be as one, aware of the appreciative of our differences and yet accepting in our humanness , we are all alike.
-It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar.
-The meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day, and from hour to hour. What matters therefore is not the meaning of life in general, but rather the specific meaning of a person's life at a given moment.
-I think Susan lived more in the last few months of her life than the 71 year old woman did in seven decades.
-We can only truly live, and enjoy, and appreciate life if we realize at all times that we are finite.
-In the decades to come we may see one universe, one humankind, one religion that unites us all in a peaceful world. It is up to each of you to lay the groundwork for this future generation, by making an attempt NOW to comprehend and care for your fellow humans, no matter what their creed, color, or philosophy. Through understanding that in the end we all share the same destiny, that just as surely as we are alive, so we will die, we may come also to understand that in life also we must be as one, aware of the appreciative of our differences and yet accepting in our humanness , we are all alike.
-It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar.
Wednesday, December 4, 2019
Friday, November 29, 2019
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes VII
-You seek too much that as a result of your seeking you cannot find.
-Wisdom is not communicable.
-In every truth the opposite is equally true.
-Everything that is thought and expressed in words is one-sided. The world itself, being in and around us is never one-sided.
-Time is not real.
-The potential Buddha already exists in the sinner.
-The world is not imperfect or slowly evolving along a long path to perfection. No, it is perfect at every moment.
-I learned through my body and soul that it was necessary for me to sin, that I needed lust, that I had to strive for property and experience nausea and the depths of despair in order to learn not to resist them, in order to learn to love the world, and not longer compare it with some kind of desired imaginary world, some imaginary vision of perfection, but to leave as it is, to love it and be glad to belong to it.
-What is of value and wisdom to one man seems nonsense to another.
-One cannot love words.
-Love is the most important thing in the world.
-My words about love are in apparent contradiction to the teachings of Gotama. That is just why I distrust words so much.
-We are now old men. We may never see each other again in this life. I can see my dear friend, that you have found peace.
-Govinda bowed low. Uncontrollable tears trickled down his old face. He was overwhelmed by a feeling of great love, of the most humble veneration. He bowed low, right down to the ground, in front of the man sitting there motionless, whose smile reminded him of everything that he had ever loved in his life, of everything that had ever been of value and holy in his life.
-Wisdom is not communicable.
-In every truth the opposite is equally true.
-Everything that is thought and expressed in words is one-sided. The world itself, being in and around us is never one-sided.
-Time is not real.
-The potential Buddha already exists in the sinner.
-The world is not imperfect or slowly evolving along a long path to perfection. No, it is perfect at every moment.
-I learned through my body and soul that it was necessary for me to sin, that I needed lust, that I had to strive for property and experience nausea and the depths of despair in order to learn not to resist them, in order to learn to love the world, and not longer compare it with some kind of desired imaginary world, some imaginary vision of perfection, but to leave as it is, to love it and be glad to belong to it.
-What is of value and wisdom to one man seems nonsense to another.
-One cannot love words.
-Love is the most important thing in the world.
-My words about love are in apparent contradiction to the teachings of Gotama. That is just why I distrust words so much.
-We are now old men. We may never see each other again in this life. I can see my dear friend, that you have found peace.
-Govinda bowed low. Uncontrollable tears trickled down his old face. He was overwhelmed by a feeling of great love, of the most humble veneration. He bowed low, right down to the ground, in front of the man sitting there motionless, whose smile reminded him of everything that he had ever loved in his life, of everything that had ever been of value and holy in his life.
Thursday, November 28, 2019
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes VI
-No teacher could have brought him salvation. That was why he had to go into the world, to lose himself in power, women and money; that was why he had to be a merchant, a dice player, a drinker and a man of property, until the priest and Samana in him were dead.
-The river knows everything.
-There is not such thing as time.
-Siddhartha's previous live were also not in the past, and his death and his return to Brahma are not in the future. Nothing was, nothing will be, everything has reality and presence.
-Kamala looked into his eyes. You have grown old, my dear. You have become gray.
-Looking at him she said: now I see that your eyes have also changed. They have become quite different. How do I recognize that you are still Siddhartha? You are Siddhartha and yet you are not like him. Have you find peace?
-For a long time he looked intently at the pale face, at the tired wrinkles and saw his own face like that, just as white, also dead, and at the same time he saw his face and hers, young, with red lips, with ardent eyes and he was overwhelmed with a feeling of the present and contemporary existence. In this hour he felt more acutely the indestructibleness of every life, the eternity of every moment.
-No, my dear. Why should I be sad?
-Do you not chain him with your love?
-Do you think, my dear friend that anybody is spared this path?
-The consciousness of the unity of all life. It was nothing but a preparation of the soul, a capacity, a secret art of thinking, feeling and breathing thoughts of unity at every moment of life.
-Everything that was not suffered to the end and finally concluded, recurred, and the same sorrows were undergone.
-All the voices, all the goals, all the yearnings, all the sorrows, all the pleasures, all the good and evil, all of them together was the world.
-The river knows everything.
-There is not such thing as time.
-Siddhartha's previous live were also not in the past, and his death and his return to Brahma are not in the future. Nothing was, nothing will be, everything has reality and presence.
-Kamala looked into his eyes. You have grown old, my dear. You have become gray.
-Looking at him she said: now I see that your eyes have also changed. They have become quite different. How do I recognize that you are still Siddhartha? You are Siddhartha and yet you are not like him. Have you find peace?
-For a long time he looked intently at the pale face, at the tired wrinkles and saw his own face like that, just as white, also dead, and at the same time he saw his face and hers, young, with red lips, with ardent eyes and he was overwhelmed with a feeling of the present and contemporary existence. In this hour he felt more acutely the indestructibleness of every life, the eternity of every moment.
-No, my dear. Why should I be sad?
-Do you not chain him with your love?
-Do you think, my dear friend that anybody is spared this path?
-The consciousness of the unity of all life. It was nothing but a preparation of the soul, a capacity, a secret art of thinking, feeling and breathing thoughts of unity at every moment of life.
-Everything that was not suffered to the end and finally concluded, recurred, and the same sorrows were undergone.
-All the voices, all the goals, all the yearnings, all the sorrows, all the pleasures, all the good and evil, all of them together was the world.
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes V
-Knew only one thing: that he could not go back, that the life he had lived for many years was past, tasted and drained to a degree of nausea.
-The past now seemed to him covered by a veil, extremely remote, very unimportant.
-The world of appearances is transitory, the style of our clothes and hair is extremely transitory. Our hair and our bodies are themselves transitory.
-The transitory soon changes.
-Three noble and invincible arts: fasting, waiting, and thinking. These were his possessions, his power and strength, his firm staff.
-Nothing is mine, I know nothing, I posses nothing. I have learned nothing. How strange it is. Now, when I am no longer young, when my hair is fast growing gray, when strength begins to diminish, now I am beginning again like a child.
-Is it not true that slowly and through many deviations I changed from a man into a child? From a thinker into an ordinary person? And yet this path has been good and the bird in my breast has not died.
-The bird, the clear spring and voice within him was still alive. That was why he rejoiced, that was why he laughed, that was why his face was radiant under his gray hair.
-The past now seemed to him covered by a veil, extremely remote, very unimportant.
-The world of appearances is transitory, the style of our clothes and hair is extremely transitory. Our hair and our bodies are themselves transitory.
-The transitory soon changes.
-Three noble and invincible arts: fasting, waiting, and thinking. These were his possessions, his power and strength, his firm staff.
-Nothing is mine, I know nothing, I posses nothing. I have learned nothing. How strange it is. Now, when I am no longer young, when my hair is fast growing gray, when strength begins to diminish, now I am beginning again like a child.
-Is it not true that slowly and through many deviations I changed from a man into a child? From a thinker into an ordinary person? And yet this path has been good and the bird in my breast has not died.
-The bird, the clear spring and voice within him was still alive. That was why he rejoiced, that was why he laughed, that was why his face was radiant under his gray hair.
Wednesday, November 20, 2019
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes IV
-Like one who has eaten and drunk too much and vomits painfully and then feels better. so did the restless man wish he could rid himself with one terrific heave of these pleasures, of these habits of this entirely senseless life.
-Mentally he went through the whole of his life.
-How many long years he had spent without any lofty goal, without any thirst, without any exaltation, content with small pleasures and yet never really satisfied.
-Without knowing it, he had endeavored and longed all these years to be like all these other people, like these children, and yet his life had been much more wretched and poorer than theirs, for their aims were not his, not their sorrows his.
-He sat all that day under the mango tree, thinking of his father, thinking of Govinda, thinking of Gotama. Had he left all these in order to become a Kamaswami?
-The same night, Siddhartha left his garden and the town and never returned.
-Mentally he went through the whole of his life.
-How many long years he had spent without any lofty goal, without any thirst, without any exaltation, content with small pleasures and yet never really satisfied.
-Without knowing it, he had endeavored and longed all these years to be like all these other people, like these children, and yet his life had been much more wretched and poorer than theirs, for their aims were not his, not their sorrows his.
-He sat all that day under the mango tree, thinking of his father, thinking of Govinda, thinking of Gotama. Had he left all these in order to become a Kamaswami?
-The same night, Siddhartha left his garden and the town and never returned.
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes III
-That pride of standing alone, that eager readiness to hear the divine voice within his own heart had gradually become a memory, had passed.
-Gradually, along with his growing riches, Siddhartha himself acquired some of the characteristics of the ordinary people.
-Gradually, his face assumed the expressions of discontent, of sickliness, of displeasure, of idleness, of lovelessness. Slowly the soul sickness of the rich crept over him.
-He only noticed that the bright and clear inward voice, that had once awakened in him and had always guided him in his finest hours, had become silent. The world had caught him.
-That vice that he had always despised and scorned as the most foolish, acquisitiveness: property, possessions and riches had also finally trapped him. They were no longer a game and a toy; they had become a chain and a burden.
-Whenever he awakened from this hateful spell, when he saw his face reflected in the mirror on the wall of his bedroom, grown older and uglier, whenever shame and nausea overtook him, he fled again, fled to a new game of chance, fled in confusion to passion, to wine, and from there back again to the urge for acquiring and hoarding wealth, He wore himself out in this senseless cycle, became old and sick.
-Never had it been so strangely clear to Siddhartha how closely related passion was to death.
-He had drunk much wine and late after midnight he went to bed, tired and yet agitated, nearly in tears and in despair. In vain did he tried to sleep. His heart was so full of misery, he felt he could no longer endure it.
-Gradually, along with his growing riches, Siddhartha himself acquired some of the characteristics of the ordinary people.
-Gradually, his face assumed the expressions of discontent, of sickliness, of displeasure, of idleness, of lovelessness. Slowly the soul sickness of the rich crept over him.
-He only noticed that the bright and clear inward voice, that had once awakened in him and had always guided him in his finest hours, had become silent. The world had caught him.
-That vice that he had always despised and scorned as the most foolish, acquisitiveness: property, possessions and riches had also finally trapped him. They were no longer a game and a toy; they had become a chain and a burden.
-Whenever he awakened from this hateful spell, when he saw his face reflected in the mirror on the wall of his bedroom, grown older and uglier, whenever shame and nausea overtook him, he fled again, fled to a new game of chance, fled in confusion to passion, to wine, and from there back again to the urge for acquiring and hoarding wealth, He wore himself out in this senseless cycle, became old and sick.
-Never had it been so strangely clear to Siddhartha how closely related passion was to death.
-He had drunk much wine and late after midnight he went to bed, tired and yet agitated, nearly in tears and in despair. In vain did he tried to sleep. His heart was so full of misery, he felt he could no longer endure it.
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes II
-I knew how to think, to wait, and to fast.
-I am certainly without possessions by of my own free will, so I am not in need.
-He heard much and said little.
-Although he found it so easy to speak to everyone, to live with everyone, to learn from everyone, he was very conscious of the fact that there was something which separated him from them, and this was due to the fact that he had been a Samana.
-He did not treat the rich foreign merchant differently from the servant.
-Then, he suddenly saw clearly that he was leading a strange life, that he was doing many things that were only a game, that he was quite cheerful and sometimes experienced pleasure, but that real life was flowing past him and did not touch him.
-With his heart, with his real nature, he was not there. His real self wandered elsewhere, far away, wandered on an on invisibly and had nothing to do with his life.
-Most people, Kamala, are like a falling leaft that drifts and turns in the air, flatters and falls to the ground. But a few others are like stars which travel a defined path: no wind reaches them, they have within themselves their guide and path.
-I am certainly without possessions by of my own free will, so I am not in need.
-He heard much and said little.
-Although he found it so easy to speak to everyone, to live with everyone, to learn from everyone, he was very conscious of the fact that there was something which separated him from them, and this was due to the fact that he had been a Samana.
-He did not treat the rich foreign merchant differently from the servant.
-Then, he suddenly saw clearly that he was leading a strange life, that he was doing many things that were only a game, that he was quite cheerful and sometimes experienced pleasure, but that real life was flowing past him and did not touch him.
-With his heart, with his real nature, he was not there. His real self wandered elsewhere, far away, wandered on an on invisibly and had nothing to do with his life.
-Most people, Kamala, are like a falling leaft that drifts and turns in the air, flatters and falls to the ground. But a few others are like stars which travel a defined path: no wind reaches them, they have within themselves their guide and path.
Thursday, November 14, 2019
Tuesday, November 12, 2019
Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. Quotes
-Your soul is the whole world.
-Then, the father realized that Siddhartha could no longer remain with him at home, that he had already left him.
-Everything lied, stank of lies; they were all illusions of sense, happiness and beauty. All were doomed to decay. The world tasted bitter. Life was pain.
-Siddhartha had one single goal: to become empty, to become empty of thirst, desire, dreams, pleasure and sorrow, to let the Self die.
-Are we on the right road? Are we approaching salvation? The path is a spiral.
-Opinions mean nothing.
-Nobody finds salvation through teachings.
-He recognize causes; for to recognize causes, it seemed to him, is to think, and through thought alone, feelings become knowledge and are not lost, but become real and begin to mature.
-The world was beautiful when looked at it in this way, without any seeking, so simple, so childlike.
-Everything comes back.
-One can learn much from a river.
-One can beg, buy, be presented with and find love in the streets, but it can never be stolen.
-I require clothes, money, that's all. These are easy goals which do not disturb one's sleep.
-Then, the father realized that Siddhartha could no longer remain with him at home, that he had already left him.
-Everything lied, stank of lies; they were all illusions of sense, happiness and beauty. All were doomed to decay. The world tasted bitter. Life was pain.
-Siddhartha had one single goal: to become empty, to become empty of thirst, desire, dreams, pleasure and sorrow, to let the Self die.
-Are we on the right road? Are we approaching salvation? The path is a spiral.
-Opinions mean nothing.
-Nobody finds salvation through teachings.
-He recognize causes; for to recognize causes, it seemed to him, is to think, and through thought alone, feelings become knowledge and are not lost, but become real and begin to mature.
-The world was beautiful when looked at it in this way, without any seeking, so simple, so childlike.
-Everything comes back.
-One can learn much from a river.
-One can beg, buy, be presented with and find love in the streets, but it can never be stolen.
-I require clothes, money, that's all. These are easy goals which do not disturb one's sleep.
Monday, November 11, 2019
Sunday, November 3, 2019
Life after life by R. A. Moody. Quotes
-What has amazed me since the beginning of my interest are the great similarities in the reports, despite the fact that they come from people of highly varied religious, social, and educational backgrounds.
-What have you done with your life that is sufficient?
-It was like looking through a volume of my entire life and being able to do it within seconds. It just flashed before me like a motion picture that goes tremendously fast.
-I could see all of my loved ones who had died: my mother, my father, my sister, and others.
-I never wanted to leave the presence of this being.
-After this, I don't have my doubts anymore. I know there is life after death.
-The dying man may meet with other departed spirits whom he knew while in life.
-What have you done with your life that is sufficient?
-It was like looking through a volume of my entire life and being able to do it within seconds. It just flashed before me like a motion picture that goes tremendously fast.
-I could see all of my loved ones who had died: my mother, my father, my sister, and others.
-I never wanted to leave the presence of this being.
-After this, I don't have my doubts anymore. I know there is life after death.
-The dying man may meet with other departed spirits whom he knew while in life.
Saturday, October 19, 2019
Think positive thoughts every day. By Unknown. Quotes III
-Faith begins by believing in your heart that what is right has a chance. Beth Fagan Quinn.
-Love yourself everyday and remember how many people love you.
Release the child within you. Jacqueline Schiff.
-If you only could love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world. Emmet Fox.
-Hope is a trust that if I fail now I shall not fail forever; and if I am hurt, I shall be healed. Anonymous.
-Love yourself everyday and remember how many people love you.
Release the child within you. Jacqueline Schiff.
-If you only could love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world. Emmet Fox.
-Hope is a trust that if I fail now I shall not fail forever; and if I am hurt, I shall be healed. Anonymous.
Monday, October 7, 2019
Monday, September 23, 2019
Think positive thoughts every day by Unknown. Quotes IV
-Whether it's a family member, somebody at work, or your best friend who's hurt you badly, put yourself in their shoes and treat them the way you would want to be treated, even if they don't deserve it.
-Prove to yourself that you can practice what you believe. Try to be as understanding of others ad you would want them to be of you.
-What other people do is their responsibility. They are not responsible for your actions, no matter what they do . You are.
-If someone has said something untrue about you or done something intentionally to hurt you, wish good things for that person, even if you don't feel like it.
-If you have made a mistake or disappointed yourself or others, apologize quickly and earnestly; that's all you can do. Let your remorse teach you how to have compassion for others when they make mistakes.
-If you fell like yelling, go outside and throw rocks on the cement instead. Take a walk or, better yet, sing... it will put a melody back in your life.
-If you think someone is making fun of you or someone you love, disarm them, not with your fist, but with your best smile.
-Get in touch with the person you want to be and become that. Listen to your heart... you can find the answer there to every question you have.
-Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and accepting what has happened, because it will not change.
-When times become difficult, remember a moment in your life that was filled with joy and happiness.
-When life throws you one more obstacle that you think you can handle, remember something you achieved through perseverance and by struggling to the end. In doing so, you will find you have the ability to overcome each obstacle brought your way.
-When you find yourself drained and depleted of energy, remember to find a place of sanctuary and rest.
-When you are faced with so many negative and draining situations, realize how minuscule problems will seem when you view your life as a whole, and remember the positive things.
-Patience with the loved ones in your life. Courage to go on when you are afraid.
-Never let anyone or anything make you feel less than you are, because who you are is someone special. Never feel that the next step is a step too far. If you are stumbling as you walk, hod your head high and know that no other person's words or actions can ever hurt you, because who you are is someone special.
-Never lose faith in yourself. Just look around you, at the friends who surround you, because they love and care for you, support you, and believe in you. Because you are someone special.
-Imagine yourself to be the type of person you want to be, and then be it.
-It is only in trying and persisting that dreams come true.
-Your thoughts and actions, the way you spend your time, your choices and decisions determine who you are and whom you will become.
-You are capable and worthy of being and doing anything. Never give up. Life is an ever-changing process, and nothing is final. Therefore, each moment and every new day is a chance to begin anew.
-We control our own destiny because we can decide how people and events affect us. So much of our happiness lies within the choices that we make.
-We can live in the past or dream about the future, or we can life for today.
-Always hold honor as a high virtue.
-Despite how the world may be, rise above.
-Believe in hard work, and always believe in yourself.
-Always see the goodness in this world, do your part in helping those less fortunate, walk hand in hand with those of less talent.
-Set yourself apart from those who are the same.
-Have the self-confidence to say no when it's necessary and the strength to stand alone.
-Walk with pride down the road of life, be humble in your successes, and share in the praises and joy of others.
-Prove to yourself that you can practice what you believe. Try to be as understanding of others ad you would want them to be of you.
-What other people do is their responsibility. They are not responsible for your actions, no matter what they do . You are.
-If someone has said something untrue about you or done something intentionally to hurt you, wish good things for that person, even if you don't feel like it.
-If you have made a mistake or disappointed yourself or others, apologize quickly and earnestly; that's all you can do. Let your remorse teach you how to have compassion for others when they make mistakes.
-If you fell like yelling, go outside and throw rocks on the cement instead. Take a walk or, better yet, sing... it will put a melody back in your life.
-If you think someone is making fun of you or someone you love, disarm them, not with your fist, but with your best smile.
-Get in touch with the person you want to be and become that. Listen to your heart... you can find the answer there to every question you have.
-Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and accepting what has happened, because it will not change.
-When times become difficult, remember a moment in your life that was filled with joy and happiness.
-When life throws you one more obstacle that you think you can handle, remember something you achieved through perseverance and by struggling to the end. In doing so, you will find you have the ability to overcome each obstacle brought your way.
-When you find yourself drained and depleted of energy, remember to find a place of sanctuary and rest.
-When you are faced with so many negative and draining situations, realize how minuscule problems will seem when you view your life as a whole, and remember the positive things.
-Patience with the loved ones in your life. Courage to go on when you are afraid.
-Never let anyone or anything make you feel less than you are, because who you are is someone special. Never feel that the next step is a step too far. If you are stumbling as you walk, hod your head high and know that no other person's words or actions can ever hurt you, because who you are is someone special.
-Never lose faith in yourself. Just look around you, at the friends who surround you, because they love and care for you, support you, and believe in you. Because you are someone special.
-Imagine yourself to be the type of person you want to be, and then be it.
-It is only in trying and persisting that dreams come true.
-Your thoughts and actions, the way you spend your time, your choices and decisions determine who you are and whom you will become.
-You are capable and worthy of being and doing anything. Never give up. Life is an ever-changing process, and nothing is final. Therefore, each moment and every new day is a chance to begin anew.
-We control our own destiny because we can decide how people and events affect us. So much of our happiness lies within the choices that we make.
-We can live in the past or dream about the future, or we can life for today.
-Always hold honor as a high virtue.
-Despite how the world may be, rise above.
-Believe in hard work, and always believe in yourself.
-Always see the goodness in this world, do your part in helping those less fortunate, walk hand in hand with those of less talent.
-Set yourself apart from those who are the same.
-Have the self-confidence to say no when it's necessary and the strength to stand alone.
-Walk with pride down the road of life, be humble in your successes, and share in the praises and joy of others.
Friday, September 13, 2019
Think positive thoughts every day. By Unknown. Quotes II
-Try to keep a positive attitude by looking for the little blessings that happen every day.
Human can rescue from being overwhelmed. Barbara Cage.
-Promise yourself to dream more and hesitate less. To believe in yourself more and judge yourself less by the accomplishments of others.
Promise yourself to accept life as it comes and truly make each day special.
Deanna Beisser.
-By training your thoughts to concentrate on the bright side of things, you are more likely to have the incentive to follow through on your goals.
Don't leave your future to chance, or wait for things to get better mysteriously on their own. You must go in the direction of your hopes and aspirations.
Work through your problems rather than avoid them.
Mistakes can be lessons that lead to discoveries.
You will find happiness when you adopt positive thinking into your daily routine and make it an important part of your world.
Kelly D. Caron
-Find that dreams do come true.
Remember that you have a guardian angel watching over you.
Linda Ann McConnell.
-Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. H. Keller.
-Keep believing that you have what it takes to make your dream into a reality.
Know that you have the ability to do anything.
Regina Hill.
-Look for the beauty around you. Barbara Cage.
-Now is when you flourish and grow. Michele Rossi
Human can rescue from being overwhelmed. Barbara Cage.
-Promise yourself to dream more and hesitate less. To believe in yourself more and judge yourself less by the accomplishments of others.
Promise yourself to accept life as it comes and truly make each day special.
Deanna Beisser.
-By training your thoughts to concentrate on the bright side of things, you are more likely to have the incentive to follow through on your goals.
Don't leave your future to chance, or wait for things to get better mysteriously on their own. You must go in the direction of your hopes and aspirations.
Work through your problems rather than avoid them.
Mistakes can be lessons that lead to discoveries.
You will find happiness when you adopt positive thinking into your daily routine and make it an important part of your world.
Kelly D. Caron
-Find that dreams do come true.
Remember that you have a guardian angel watching over you.
Linda Ann McConnell.
-Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. H. Keller.
-Keep believing that you have what it takes to make your dream into a reality.
Know that you have the ability to do anything.
Regina Hill.
-Look for the beauty around you. Barbara Cage.
-Now is when you flourish and grow. Michele Rossi
Think positive thoughts every day. By Unknown. Quotes
-Most of the shadows of this life are cause by standing in one's own sunshine. Ralph Waldo Emerson.
-Hope gives all of us our reason for trying. Regina Hill.
-May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there. Regina Hill.
-May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been. Regina Hill.
-May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best. Regina Hill.
-May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest. Regina Hill.
-With understanding and love, you will find the good in every heart. Regina Hill.
-May you have faith in others and the ability to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy. Regina Hill.
-Refuse to be unhappy, to let your troubles multiply; organize your time; refuse to dwell on the mistakes and disappointments; be optimistic, be energetic and positive; always hope for the best, believe in yourself at all times and in all aspects of your life. Ben Daniels.
-Trust that whatever happens, there is someone who will understand.
Honesty, the feeling that you never need to hold back.
Peace, in being accepted for who you really are.
Beauty in outlook more than appearance.
Freedom... to be yourself, to change, and to grow..
Joy, in every day, in every memory, and in your hopes for the future.
Love to last a lifetime, and perhaps beyond. D.L. Riepl
-Realize that life isn't always fair.
Think before you act.
Look for the beauty in life, in people, in nature, and in yourself.
Appreciate what you have.
Make the effort to have fun.
Accept others without judgment.
Forgive.
Learn.
Dream.
Barbara Cage.
-Difficulties arise in the lives of us all. What is most important is dealing with the hard times, coping with the changes, and getting through to the other side where the sun is still shining just for you. Douglas Pagels.
-Hope gives all of us our reason for trying. Regina Hill.
-May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there. Regina Hill.
-May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been. Regina Hill.
-May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best. Regina Hill.
-May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest. Regina Hill.
-With understanding and love, you will find the good in every heart. Regina Hill.
-May you have faith in others and the ability to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy. Regina Hill.
-Refuse to be unhappy, to let your troubles multiply; organize your time; refuse to dwell on the mistakes and disappointments; be optimistic, be energetic and positive; always hope for the best, believe in yourself at all times and in all aspects of your life. Ben Daniels.
-Trust that whatever happens, there is someone who will understand.
Honesty, the feeling that you never need to hold back.
Peace, in being accepted for who you really are.
Beauty in outlook more than appearance.
Freedom... to be yourself, to change, and to grow..
Joy, in every day, in every memory, and in your hopes for the future.
Love to last a lifetime, and perhaps beyond. D.L. Riepl
-Realize that life isn't always fair.
Think before you act.
Look for the beauty in life, in people, in nature, and in yourself.
Appreciate what you have.
Make the effort to have fun.
Accept others without judgment.
Forgive.
Learn.
Dream.
Barbara Cage.
-Difficulties arise in the lives of us all. What is most important is dealing with the hard times, coping with the changes, and getting through to the other side where the sun is still shining just for you. Douglas Pagels.
Sunday, September 8, 2019
The spiritual child. Quotes XIV
-Breathe and trust. It's not that we said the perfect thing in a grand moment that changed our child's life. We just need to open our hearts and try. Parenting and spirituality is not a scoreboard. Think of it as a tidal wave of love that we are learning to surf. What works is when day after day we show up ready to try to feel and move with an open heart.
-Treat challenges and setbacks as a spiritual opportunity.
-Transparency is an intentional willingness to show our children how we resolve daily frustration, painful events, ethical problems, and difficult decisions through our own spiritual relationship.
-We can express gratitude for being alive.
-If we are not perfect, but are works in progress who live our lives to learn, then our children tackle life as a process of learning, spiritual awakening, and discovery.
-The child knows the answer to big questions right from the source.
-Spirituality is a way of living, an experiential space. It is a lived reality so it is as a way of being with hardship.
-I will seek to know the person first.
-I strongly believe in following Jesus, not just knowing about Him.
-When you just don't know the answer, appreciate the moment.
-Help the child learn to engage life on spiritual terms, to lean into a spiritual understanding of the world.
-Whom she saw directly as a soul.
-Who we are: part of the universal oneness is having respectful and loving relationships with nature and animals.
-All living things are our teachers.
-How can we bring our love to the world?
-Children want to understand their place in the family, both physically and spiritually. Family history in general is very important to explain to children what came before.
-Family is part of something larger, something the beyond purely physical.
-Sanctification of the family also happens when we acknowledge with gratitude each person in the family and the specialness of being a whole.
-We make mistakes. When we do, forget trying to hide it from your child. Any change or disruption in the family is an opportunity to reconnect and communicate.
-Our family comes first.
-Love grows everywhere with one more!
-Spiritual values say there is a much higher bar ethically than that which is demonstrated in the everyday bare minimum standard.
-How high we can go? I call this approach the spirituality of inspired living, which is the ethic through which we connect in the universe to one another and to a higher presence.
-The inspired life honors our inner deep compass: knowing the true standard is so much higher than just what's allowed and living that truth. It's not just making do with the customary rules of the school or the workplace: it is imagining how life could really be instead.
-There is another form of right action and that is to repair the world, fix things: If I lose my temper, it means apologizing. Go back and awkward as it may feel say I am sorry. Apologize. Fix things. The more we do it, the easier it becomes, and it starts to feel good.
-Our opportunity for the inspired life is always right here, right now.
-Every moment of daily life is a spiritual opportunity to encourage, uplift, or turn anger into a moment of humor and connection. The moments begin at home.
-To decide what kind of soul on earth they want to be, help them to reach out to someone at school who is having a hard time, to look past unfashionable clothes or a bad attitude, and look into another's eyes and ask: how are you doing? While you are at it, do the same for that crabby colleague at your office. Ask what he is thinking or curious about; ask how he is. The culture of love spreads very quickly.
-Treat challenges and setbacks as a spiritual opportunity.
-Transparency is an intentional willingness to show our children how we resolve daily frustration, painful events, ethical problems, and difficult decisions through our own spiritual relationship.
-We can express gratitude for being alive.
-If we are not perfect, but are works in progress who live our lives to learn, then our children tackle life as a process of learning, spiritual awakening, and discovery.
-The child knows the answer to big questions right from the source.
-Spirituality is a way of living, an experiential space. It is a lived reality so it is as a way of being with hardship.
-I will seek to know the person first.
-I strongly believe in following Jesus, not just knowing about Him.
-When you just don't know the answer, appreciate the moment.
-Help the child learn to engage life on spiritual terms, to lean into a spiritual understanding of the world.
-Whom she saw directly as a soul.
-Who we are: part of the universal oneness is having respectful and loving relationships with nature and animals.
-All living things are our teachers.
-How can we bring our love to the world?
-Children want to understand their place in the family, both physically and spiritually. Family history in general is very important to explain to children what came before.
-Family is part of something larger, something the beyond purely physical.
-Sanctification of the family also happens when we acknowledge with gratitude each person in the family and the specialness of being a whole.
-We make mistakes. When we do, forget trying to hide it from your child. Any change or disruption in the family is an opportunity to reconnect and communicate.
-Our family comes first.
-Love grows everywhere with one more!
-Spiritual values say there is a much higher bar ethically than that which is demonstrated in the everyday bare minimum standard.
-How high we can go? I call this approach the spirituality of inspired living, which is the ethic through which we connect in the universe to one another and to a higher presence.
-The inspired life honors our inner deep compass: knowing the true standard is so much higher than just what's allowed and living that truth. It's not just making do with the customary rules of the school or the workplace: it is imagining how life could really be instead.
-There is another form of right action and that is to repair the world, fix things: If I lose my temper, it means apologizing. Go back and awkward as it may feel say I am sorry. Apologize. Fix things. The more we do it, the easier it becomes, and it starts to feel good.
-Our opportunity for the inspired life is always right here, right now.
-Every moment of daily life is a spiritual opportunity to encourage, uplift, or turn anger into a moment of humor and connection. The moments begin at home.
-To decide what kind of soul on earth they want to be, help them to reach out to someone at school who is having a hard time, to look past unfashionable clothes or a bad attitude, and look into another's eyes and ask: how are you doing? While you are at it, do the same for that crabby colleague at your office. Ask what he is thinking or curious about; ask how he is. The culture of love spreads very quickly.
The spiritual child by Lisa Miller. Quotes XIII
-Sometimes it's ok not to have a plan.
-Parenthood is the very definition of ego death, a surrender of control and vanity that actually makes us more.
-The field of love expands exponentially with children.
-Children with their open hearts and frank questions can tear down walls and let the adults in.
-How can I help them be who they are, to be the most complete?
-Of the hundreds of things that I might have brought up in a week, not everything got this kind of interest. Start talking about what's the point of life, and he was riveted.
-For me, I need work that gives me meaning, makes me tick, and relationships that are built on love and trust.
-I had a dream this week and Gradma Ellie was in it.
-I felt as if in sharing this dream, he'd given me the most important thing in his life. That experience became a template for me, now with my own kids and in my own work: next to listening, our journey as the parent is the greatest thing we have to share. My father's telling of his dream was a lovely shared moment, both of us at the cusp of grief and trying to figure it out together. He didn't have an answer and I didn't have an answer but we knew it was important and we were leaning in. He let me into the relationship, embrace and sustenance of inner spiritual life, into the reality of spiritual life. It was a sacred moment. It was as intimate and real and just as important as life gets.
-Parenthood is the very definition of ego death, a surrender of control and vanity that actually makes us more.
-The field of love expands exponentially with children.
-Children with their open hearts and frank questions can tear down walls and let the adults in.
-How can I help them be who they are, to be the most complete?
-Of the hundreds of things that I might have brought up in a week, not everything got this kind of interest. Start talking about what's the point of life, and he was riveted.
-For me, I need work that gives me meaning, makes me tick, and relationships that are built on love and trust.
-I had a dream this week and Gradma Ellie was in it.
-I felt as if in sharing this dream, he'd given me the most important thing in his life. That experience became a template for me, now with my own kids and in my own work: next to listening, our journey as the parent is the greatest thing we have to share. My father's telling of his dream was a lovely shared moment, both of us at the cusp of grief and trying to figure it out together. He didn't have an answer and I didn't have an answer but we knew it was important and we were leaning in. He let me into the relationship, embrace and sustenance of inner spiritual life, into the reality of spiritual life. It was a sacred moment. It was as intimate and real and just as important as life gets.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes XII
-The spirit can heal once the adolescent is made whole.
-Grief and destruction as necessary for my rebirth.
-Help came from an unanticipated place.
-Rediscovering heart knowing through contemplation, yoga, and meditation.
-Her depression was, at the heart of it, a spiritual quest.
-When parents are unavailable for whatever reason to provide the loving connection to the field of love, some children are able to access it as Marin eventually did: through a direct, felt, transcendent relationship with their higher power, or through their spiritual guidance in nature, or with others who offer a heartfelt, supportive presence that honors what is good in life.
-All parts of us are valuable and good: our minds, our bodies, our sexuality, our urges and desires.
-In wholeness, lies healing.
-When you arrive into parenthood, you know you have arrived into something much bigger. Planned or unplanned, joyful or heavy with uncertainty, it is a threshold passage in the deepest sense.
-Once we become parents, we are forever changed, your love for a child opens the field of love.
-Parenthood is a spiritual pilgrimage: the hard work and austerity, the steep climb with its trials and setbacks, uncertainty in place of control, the disorientation as the self or ego dissolves into a spirit that is no longer self-centered but now exists for something larger and more precious than the self, your child.
-The exhaustion, trials and wear of parenting do not make us less, they make us more. Parenting is an erosion of vanity and of the illusion of control. Through struggles and trials and soul searching, we become clear about what matters and what really doesn't.
-Becoming a parent is when a gift of live has been offered and received, when love quietly moves into our lives and takes over.
-Grief and destruction as necessary for my rebirth.
-Help came from an unanticipated place.
-Rediscovering heart knowing through contemplation, yoga, and meditation.
-Her depression was, at the heart of it, a spiritual quest.
-When parents are unavailable for whatever reason to provide the loving connection to the field of love, some children are able to access it as Marin eventually did: through a direct, felt, transcendent relationship with their higher power, or through their spiritual guidance in nature, or with others who offer a heartfelt, supportive presence that honors what is good in life.
-All parts of us are valuable and good: our minds, our bodies, our sexuality, our urges and desires.
-In wholeness, lies healing.
-When you arrive into parenthood, you know you have arrived into something much bigger. Planned or unplanned, joyful or heavy with uncertainty, it is a threshold passage in the deepest sense.
-Once we become parents, we are forever changed, your love for a child opens the field of love.
-Parenthood is a spiritual pilgrimage: the hard work and austerity, the steep climb with its trials and setbacks, uncertainty in place of control, the disorientation as the self or ego dissolves into a spirit that is no longer self-centered but now exists for something larger and more precious than the self, your child.
-The exhaustion, trials and wear of parenting do not make us less, they make us more. Parenting is an erosion of vanity and of the illusion of control. Through struggles and trials and soul searching, we become clear about what matters and what really doesn't.
-Becoming a parent is when a gift of live has been offered and received, when love quietly moves into our lives and takes over.
Sunday, September 1, 2019
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes XI
-The value of a human life. Not just anyone's: your human life. The purpose of your whole being. Your value. And the point of the entire world around you. This is the core work of spiritual individuation, the quest.
-Depression opens a path for spiritual growth that, if taken, can lead to a deeply cultivated, lasting personal spirituality.
-Through spiritual engagement they actively shaped their sensitive brains in a way that was neuro-protective against recurrence of major depression.
-Neurologically, psychologically, and spiritually, spirituality and depression appear as two sides of the same coin.
-The more the teen has set up the personal transcendent relationship, the more resilient, emotionally and physically, they are likely to be when they confront illness, loss, and bereavement, all the things that eventually come our way in life.
-A preoccupation with personal control in the face of unwanted life events that are not controllable leads to recurrence of depression, anxiety, stress disorders, and addictive consumption of food, alcohol, and tobacco.
-Strong personal spirituality builds greater grit and optimism in the face of adversity.
-How can you be depressed when you got everything you wanted? If spiritual individuation and the normal quest for meaning, purpose, and transcendent connection is unmet, the core is not built.
-The spiritual connection through his family, the field of love, is what lifted his depression.
-Religious practice and nonreligious mindfulness practice both contributed equally in different ways to teens' spiritual development.
-Religious practice plus mindfulness add up to more spiritual awareness and engagement. Mindful teens and religiously observant teens both were equally spiritual, equally connected with the transcendent relationship, felt a sense of spiritual discovery, and felt daily spiritual experience.
-"My dad died years ago, but I still talk to him sometimes when I'm feeling down or I don't know what to do".
-The teen must connect head and heart knowing in order for their spiritual and analytical faculties to inform one another.
-Depression opens a path for spiritual growth that, if taken, can lead to a deeply cultivated, lasting personal spirituality.
-Through spiritual engagement they actively shaped their sensitive brains in a way that was neuro-protective against recurrence of major depression.
-Neurologically, psychologically, and spiritually, spirituality and depression appear as two sides of the same coin.
-The more the teen has set up the personal transcendent relationship, the more resilient, emotionally and physically, they are likely to be when they confront illness, loss, and bereavement, all the things that eventually come our way in life.
-A preoccupation with personal control in the face of unwanted life events that are not controllable leads to recurrence of depression, anxiety, stress disorders, and addictive consumption of food, alcohol, and tobacco.
-Strong personal spirituality builds greater grit and optimism in the face of adversity.
-How can you be depressed when you got everything you wanted? If spiritual individuation and the normal quest for meaning, purpose, and transcendent connection is unmet, the core is not built.
-The spiritual connection through his family, the field of love, is what lifted his depression.
-Religious practice and nonreligious mindfulness practice both contributed equally in different ways to teens' spiritual development.
-Religious practice plus mindfulness add up to more spiritual awareness and engagement. Mindful teens and religiously observant teens both were equally spiritual, equally connected with the transcendent relationship, felt a sense of spiritual discovery, and felt daily spiritual experience.
-"My dad died years ago, but I still talk to him sometimes when I'm feeling down or I don't know what to do".
-The teen must connect head and heart knowing in order for their spiritual and analytical faculties to inform one another.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes X
-Individuation can progress without spiritual individuation, but it is a weakened version based too often solely on performance, accomplishment, and material success.
-The most helpful way to support an adolescent is to frame the quest as spiritual, and as an essential, core part of their emergence to adulthood.
-The adolescent brain is built for the tasks of individuation and spiritual individuation in the second decade, even more so than in adulthood, when neural networks and patterns of thought have become more deeply entrenched.
-Spiritual development is the most important work we do in the second decade.
-A spiritual core changes all else into an inspired life.
-What we see as a surly, unsettled teen is more accurately a teen on a quest to bring mind, body, and spirit into alignment, to integrate those parts of the self into a coherent whole.
-By doing good actions, they are de facto making themselves into a person who operates with spiritual values and can discover the feelings of the heart, and transcendent relationships, that come through service.
-How can there not be something else?
-The essential self-knowledge is gained through the developmental challenges and tasks of the second decade.
-The most helpful way to support an adolescent is to frame the quest as spiritual, and as an essential, core part of their emergence to adulthood.
-The adolescent brain is built for the tasks of individuation and spiritual individuation in the second decade, even more so than in adulthood, when neural networks and patterns of thought have become more deeply entrenched.
-Spiritual development is the most important work we do in the second decade.
-A spiritual core changes all else into an inspired life.
-What we see as a surly, unsettled teen is more accurately a teen on a quest to bring mind, body, and spirit into alignment, to integrate those parts of the self into a coherent whole.
-By doing good actions, they are de facto making themselves into a person who operates with spiritual values and can discover the feelings of the heart, and transcendent relationships, that come through service.
-How can there not be something else?
-The essential self-knowledge is gained through the developmental challenges and tasks of the second decade.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes IX
-For an adolescent, when transcendence is not guided to connect with the rest of lived experience, the teen loses hold of the innate capacity for spiritual awareness.
-The world is different without the knowing of the heart, without the sense of being part of something greater and good, without the added glow of family or the field of love, or without the intuitive awareness of the wisdom in nature and all living beings.
-What can we do? We can parent our adolescents for spiritual individuation, with a strength and presence that ultimately outweighs the surrounding culture.
-The mark of outward success: very little concern with goodness or morality in family goals and time together, inner life or reflection, morality or spiritual values.
-The cost of severed spirits: physical appearance was the most powerful factor for predicting a girl's popularity, with a girl's hostility or mean girl factor being the second greatest predictor of popularity. For teen boys, substance use was the greatest predictor of popularity, followed by their exploitive attitude or behavior toward women.
-Feeding a child on raw outward ambition, without unconditional love, does not make for success in any way.
-Spiritual individuation will set up the teen for a much healthier, more meaningful, purposeful, and thriving adult life. Lacking spiritual resources, teens search for the transcendent experience wherever they can find it: risky behaviors, including reckless driving or casual or unprotected sex, and substance use.
-The stronger the teen's transcendent relationship, the less likely she was to use drugs.
-Adolescence brings with it and erupting hunger for transcendence.
-Positive psychology grow out of transcendent values, a spiritual worldview and sense that our direction and relationships have ultimate value.
-Choice by choice, big and little, the new map takes shape and with it comes an emerging concept of identity based upon a deeper spiritual worldview. Who am I? What do I want my life to be? What is my purpose?
-The world is different without the knowing of the heart, without the sense of being part of something greater and good, without the added glow of family or the field of love, or without the intuitive awareness of the wisdom in nature and all living beings.
-What can we do? We can parent our adolescents for spiritual individuation, with a strength and presence that ultimately outweighs the surrounding culture.
-The mark of outward success: very little concern with goodness or morality in family goals and time together, inner life or reflection, morality or spiritual values.
-The cost of severed spirits: physical appearance was the most powerful factor for predicting a girl's popularity, with a girl's hostility or mean girl factor being the second greatest predictor of popularity. For teen boys, substance use was the greatest predictor of popularity, followed by their exploitive attitude or behavior toward women.
-Feeding a child on raw outward ambition, without unconditional love, does not make for success in any way.
-Spiritual individuation will set up the teen for a much healthier, more meaningful, purposeful, and thriving adult life. Lacking spiritual resources, teens search for the transcendent experience wherever they can find it: risky behaviors, including reckless driving or casual or unprotected sex, and substance use.
-The stronger the teen's transcendent relationship, the less likely she was to use drugs.
-Adolescence brings with it and erupting hunger for transcendence.
-Positive psychology grow out of transcendent values, a spiritual worldview and sense that our direction and relationships have ultimate value.
-Choice by choice, big and little, the new map takes shape and with it comes an emerging concept of identity based upon a deeper spiritual worldview. Who am I? What do I want my life to be? What is my purpose?
Saturday, August 24, 2019
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes VIII
-The tumultuous period of adolescence is when values and priorities are forged, meaning and purpose are discovered, and an inner compass is honed. this critical work of crafting the self helps the teen determine how to engage with the world.
-Spirituality si the most robust protective factor against the big three dangers of adolescence: depression, substance abuse, and risk taking.
-Spiritual individuation is the adolescent's drive to find deeper personal meaning and purpose, in himself and in life.
-The process of spiritual awakening is triggered by puberty, literally ignited in the brain by the same rush of hormones that trigger sexual growth.
-Family, school, community, and personal choices of the adolescent create the environment that shapes the adolescent brain.
-When head and heart are connected, there is a resource, a guiding inner voice, that helps answer the questions and can actively respond to help the teen resist temptation.
-The emerging picture from research is clear: the brain's front-back connectivity is critical in helping adolescents process their experiences and feelings, modulate impulses, and make good decisions that are informed by head and heart.
-Severed spirituality occurs when transcendence is not infused into the developmental process of adolescence. The foundation is built withouth the strength, connection and direction of spirituality. If we have severed the spirit during groundlaying work, the house is colder, darker, and less sure. The structural integrity is compromised.
-Spirituality si the most robust protective factor against the big three dangers of adolescence: depression, substance abuse, and risk taking.
-Spiritual individuation is the adolescent's drive to find deeper personal meaning and purpose, in himself and in life.
-The process of spiritual awakening is triggered by puberty, literally ignited in the brain by the same rush of hormones that trigger sexual growth.
-Family, school, community, and personal choices of the adolescent create the environment that shapes the adolescent brain.
-When head and heart are connected, there is a resource, a guiding inner voice, that helps answer the questions and can actively respond to help the teen resist temptation.
-The emerging picture from research is clear: the brain's front-back connectivity is critical in helping adolescents process their experiences and feelings, modulate impulses, and make good decisions that are informed by head and heart.
-Severed spirituality occurs when transcendence is not infused into the developmental process of adolescence. The foundation is built withouth the strength, connection and direction of spirituality. If we have severed the spirit during groundlaying work, the house is colder, darker, and less sure. The structural integrity is compromised.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes VII
-What comes around, goes around karma.
-Dreams, mystical experiences, and more common spiritual experiences are sources of direct knowing, direct, authentic, and uncommanded experience, that invite connection between a child's head and heart knowing.
-How can we keep those neural connections of unitive empathy strong? Language, our own actions, and love are our most powerful tools.
-The child of four through six or seven years old still feels others' suffering directly, not as if they know what it's like, but as their own.
-The conversation about spiritual values isn't a conversation that should be segregated from the rest of a child's learning experience.
-If you encourage your child's natural spiritual assets, trusting heart kwowing and validating direct transcendent experience; encouraging natural love of nature, of spiritual ritual and prayer and right action, and the sense of family as special, these assets will develop into spiritual strengths with lfelong benefits.
-Simple parental attention is more than simply supportive.
-A child's inner life is an instrument of spiritual knowing, a trustworthy inner compass that aligns itself for health, and orients toward the truth and spiritual values.
-Young children experience parents as omniscient beings, loving and protective.
-Sports teams tap into kids' hardwired spiritual values: for selfless commitment, collective practice, ritual, play, and higher purpose.
-All people of genuine, loving spiritual nature share a fundamental sense of goodness in how they view others and the world we share.
-If you can stand up for yourself and others on the playground, you are solid.
-Our values dictate how we play.
-Dreams offer a deeper developmental narrative of the transition, helping the child take just one step beyond. This is what a dream does: it illuminates our path.
-Dreams, mystical experiences, and more common spiritual experiences are sources of direct knowing, direct, authentic, and uncommanded experience, that invite connection between a child's head and heart knowing.
-How can we keep those neural connections of unitive empathy strong? Language, our own actions, and love are our most powerful tools.
-The child of four through six or seven years old still feels others' suffering directly, not as if they know what it's like, but as their own.
-The conversation about spiritual values isn't a conversation that should be segregated from the rest of a child's learning experience.
-If you encourage your child's natural spiritual assets, trusting heart kwowing and validating direct transcendent experience; encouraging natural love of nature, of spiritual ritual and prayer and right action, and the sense of family as special, these assets will develop into spiritual strengths with lfelong benefits.
-Simple parental attention is more than simply supportive.
-A child's inner life is an instrument of spiritual knowing, a trustworthy inner compass that aligns itself for health, and orients toward the truth and spiritual values.
-Young children experience parents as omniscient beings, loving and protective.
-Sports teams tap into kids' hardwired spiritual values: for selfless commitment, collective practice, ritual, play, and higher purpose.
-All people of genuine, loving spiritual nature share a fundamental sense of goodness in how they view others and the world we share.
-If you can stand up for yourself and others on the playground, you are solid.
-Our values dictate how we play.
-Dreams offer a deeper developmental narrative of the transition, helping the child take just one step beyond. This is what a dream does: it illuminates our path.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes VI
-When we live authentically in an affirmative space of inspiration, events unfold in the realm of miracles.
-Love grows exponentially. You put a little bit of love and you get twice as much back.
-Suffering is lighter when we are bonded together.
-Don't stop with people: include pets or wildlife, and all aspects of nature. This can make a lovely bedtime ritual, a nightly remembering of all the love and support that exists for your child, from Mom and Dad and siblings to family far and near, naming each one and, especially for those who live far away, naming where they live to help your child feel their presence. For those who have passed on, you can say loved you even before you were born and still do.
-Family is sacred.
-Many religious traditions hold that family members are purposefully brought together to share life lessons and help each other grow.
-We can notice one another first and foremost as souls on earth rather than the label we might assign in a judging way: the smart one, etc.
-Family models our core humanity.
-When we como from a place of love and acceptance, then suddenly other people are worthy, not weird.
-Express thanks for the gift of the day and the many ways those gifts present themselves.
-There was not disadvantage in mental health between those children who had been left behind and those who lived with both parents. The love and support that the children needed to flourish was sufficient from any committed loving source.
-Cynical people have a higher likelihood of developing dementia: cynicism appears to be neuro-degenerative for the long term.
-We don't make our child spiritual at all. We cultivate their spirituality when we recognize the field of love as ground and guide for spiritual parenting. We set our intention to make our home environment and communities, our actions and expectations, and our ways of interacting with one another to be consistent with spiritual values.
-Love grows exponentially. You put a little bit of love and you get twice as much back.
-Suffering is lighter when we are bonded together.
-Don't stop with people: include pets or wildlife, and all aspects of nature. This can make a lovely bedtime ritual, a nightly remembering of all the love and support that exists for your child, from Mom and Dad and siblings to family far and near, naming each one and, especially for those who live far away, naming where they live to help your child feel their presence. For those who have passed on, you can say loved you even before you were born and still do.
-Family is sacred.
-Many religious traditions hold that family members are purposefully brought together to share life lessons and help each other grow.
-We can notice one another first and foremost as souls on earth rather than the label we might assign in a judging way: the smart one, etc.
-Family models our core humanity.
-When we como from a place of love and acceptance, then suddenly other people are worthy, not weird.
-Express thanks for the gift of the day and the many ways those gifts present themselves.
-There was not disadvantage in mental health between those children who had been left behind and those who lived with both parents. The love and support that the children needed to flourish was sufficient from any committed loving source.
-Cynical people have a higher likelihood of developing dementia: cynicism appears to be neuro-degenerative for the long term.
-We don't make our child spiritual at all. We cultivate their spirituality when we recognize the field of love as ground and guide for spiritual parenting. We set our intention to make our home environment and communities, our actions and expectations, and our ways of interacting with one another to be consistent with spiritual values.
The Spiritual Child. Quotes V
-Practices to improve mindfulness are effective in calming emotions, focusing attention and relieving anxiety.
-Focus and attention in children are cultivated in long silences and introspective moments.
-Children and teens need time to watch the bee and sit with the tree, let their minds wander and wonder.
-By allowing and cultivating peaceful moments, we encourage mindfulness.
-If we build our positive assets, we have a far-enhanced inner landscape through which to relate and ultimately thrive in the world.
-Child and parent are attuned to one another, both as senders and receivers, well beyond physical sight, sound, or touch. This phenomenon is the unitive state, a shared experience between child and parent.
-The child's pure happiness for the assembled relatives may reawaken us to the joyousness of having a family beyond the petty concerns or unfortunate wrinkles of the past. Like a family assembled, together we are more than the sum of our parts.
-The child is born whole. This new soul arrives with spirituality intact. The developmental work of childhood and then adolescence is to integrate this natural spirituality into the changing capacities of cognitive, social, emotional, moral, and physical growth.
-We can raise strong souls.
-Long, loving silences let the connection flow.
-In a world of sometimes shocking mixed messages, parents intuitively try to create a home in which values cultivate a deeper and more resonant life, one with higher meaning and purpose.
-Spiritual presence, guidance, and values can come from extended family, close friends, psychologists, youth workers and clergy, coaches, and educators. Each of these important adults has a personal choice to decide to be a spiritual presence and model of love.
-Trascendence is prominent in the positive experiences of compassion, forgiveness, hope, and joy that we share with one another.
-We do not need to be perfectly on the mark each day, but the field can become and ever present statement of how we aim to live as family and who we are as family.
-When we lean into the goal of being a collective field of love, things change.
-The field of love is in us, and in the space between us, made up of love so strong that it feels almost physical to the touch.
-Focus and attention in children are cultivated in long silences and introspective moments.
-Children and teens need time to watch the bee and sit with the tree, let their minds wander and wonder.
-By allowing and cultivating peaceful moments, we encourage mindfulness.
-If we build our positive assets, we have a far-enhanced inner landscape through which to relate and ultimately thrive in the world.
-Child and parent are attuned to one another, both as senders and receivers, well beyond physical sight, sound, or touch. This phenomenon is the unitive state, a shared experience between child and parent.
-The child's pure happiness for the assembled relatives may reawaken us to the joyousness of having a family beyond the petty concerns or unfortunate wrinkles of the past. Like a family assembled, together we are more than the sum of our parts.
-The child is born whole. This new soul arrives with spirituality intact. The developmental work of childhood and then adolescence is to integrate this natural spirituality into the changing capacities of cognitive, social, emotional, moral, and physical growth.
-We can raise strong souls.
-Long, loving silences let the connection flow.
-In a world of sometimes shocking mixed messages, parents intuitively try to create a home in which values cultivate a deeper and more resonant life, one with higher meaning and purpose.
-Spiritual presence, guidance, and values can come from extended family, close friends, psychologists, youth workers and clergy, coaches, and educators. Each of these important adults has a personal choice to decide to be a spiritual presence and model of love.
-Trascendence is prominent in the positive experiences of compassion, forgiveness, hope, and joy that we share with one another.
-We do not need to be perfectly on the mark each day, but the field can become and ever present statement of how we aim to live as family and who we are as family.
-When we lean into the goal of being a collective field of love, things change.
-The field of love is in us, and in the space between us, made up of love so strong that it feels almost physical to the touch.
The Spiritual Child. Quotes IV
-Spirituality in adulthood was linked to less suffering in life, less depression and substance abuse, higher rates of recovery from physical illness, and even a longer life span.
-A key factor in thriving has to do with the habits of living, particularly around relationships, that we establish in childhood.
-These daily ways of living are so much a part of our family culture and conversation that we absorb them like a sponge.
-Regardless of race, ethnicity, or apparent material wealth, some people shone with a brightness of warmth and kindness, with radiant eyes and expressions, while others were visibly downcast and burdened. I came to think of this brightness as a sign that, spiritually, the light is on.
-Spirituality is not found in the mother or the youth alone but in the nod: the passage from parent to child or grandparent to grandchild.
-The parent is an ambassador of transcendence, the guide on the ground who introduces a child to the spiritually attuned life.
-Everyone is born with an inherent spirituality, a natural sense of trascendence.
-The power of the nod was illuminated for me by the compassionate grandmother and granddaughter royal couple on the subway that Sunday twenty years ago.
-I am very spiritual. Why? Because my father just really, really loved me. I mean he absolutely adored me. The way that his love felt, I now feel a similar feeling, it's that feeling, from God.
-The way a baby looks at you, and especially your own baby... they look at you with this sense of you are my everything, and that is amazing.
-Babies bring out the best in us.
-Parents are perceived as generally carrying divine qualities.
-The natural long term developmental trajectory of the brain is toward enligthment. This path is only disturbed by our contemporary culture putting spirituality on the back shelf.
-The deeply soulful presence of a newborn or youngster grabs our attention, shows us the realm of human possibility, and perhaps jolts us into remembering a bigger reality from our own childhood. They show us our true spiritual nature.
-A key factor in thriving has to do with the habits of living, particularly around relationships, that we establish in childhood.
-These daily ways of living are so much a part of our family culture and conversation that we absorb them like a sponge.
-Regardless of race, ethnicity, or apparent material wealth, some people shone with a brightness of warmth and kindness, with radiant eyes and expressions, while others were visibly downcast and burdened. I came to think of this brightness as a sign that, spiritually, the light is on.
-Spirituality is not found in the mother or the youth alone but in the nod: the passage from parent to child or grandparent to grandchild.
-The parent is an ambassador of transcendence, the guide on the ground who introduces a child to the spiritually attuned life.
-Everyone is born with an inherent spirituality, a natural sense of trascendence.
-The power of the nod was illuminated for me by the compassionate grandmother and granddaughter royal couple on the subway that Sunday twenty years ago.
-I am very spiritual. Why? Because my father just really, really loved me. I mean he absolutely adored me. The way that his love felt, I now feel a similar feeling, it's that feeling, from God.
-The way a baby looks at you, and especially your own baby... they look at you with this sense of you are my everything, and that is amazing.
-Babies bring out the best in us.
-Parents are perceived as generally carrying divine qualities.
-The natural long term developmental trajectory of the brain is toward enligthment. This path is only disturbed by our contemporary culture putting spirituality on the back shelf.
-The deeply soulful presence of a newborn or youngster grabs our attention, shows us the realm of human possibility, and perhaps jolts us into remembering a bigger reality from our own childhood. They show us our true spiritual nature.
Sunday, August 18, 2019
Saturday, August 17, 2019
Wednesday, August 14, 2019
Solomon Grey - Home (official audio)
Follow you home
How could I ever live without you
Follow you home
Until the witch grey I could never let you go
And you're free
And you're free
Just follow you home
I'll take you back to where we used to live
Thankfully now
These times will never go away again
And you're free
And you're free
Just watch you go out
Only…
Monday, August 12, 2019
Geoffroy - Raised By Wolves (Official Video)
I was lost now I'm found,
I'm sustained by the sound,
Of the angels singing me to sleep,
While my feet are leaving the ground,
Am I dead? Or am I dreaming instead?
A cornucopia of opiates have flooded my head
I'm sustained by the sound,
Of the angels singing me to sleep,
While my feet are leaving the ground,
Am I dead? Or am I dreaming instead?
A cornucopia of opiates have flooded my head
I'm insane, I am smart,
All it takes, is a spark, to ignite my bad intentions,
And do what I do best to your heart,
Don't be fooled I was raised by the wolves,
Now the moon hangs in full, so you know I won't play by the rules
All it takes, is a spark, to ignite my bad intentions,
And do what I do best to your heart,
Don't be fooled I was raised by the wolves,
Now the moon hangs in full, so you know I won't play by the rules
I will never spill
(spill my blood for you)
You have let me down
(one too many times)
Someway somehow, we've fallen out,
Caught in between my enemies,
No way not now, I won't back down,
I draw the line at you and me,
Your what I started, now disregarded,
One day they'll see, it was always me
(spill my blood for you)
You have let me down
(one too many times)
Someway somehow, we've fallen out,
Caught in between my enemies,
No way not now, I won't back down,
I draw the line at you and me,
Your what I started, now disregarded,
One day they'll see, it was always me
Due to mistakes, I have made to the state,
I…
I…
Friday, August 9, 2019
The Spiritual Child. Quotes III
-What makes us spiritual is our awareness that our lives, our relationships, and the natural world both seen and unseen are filled with an ultimate presence.
-Is it the case that good guys tend to be spiritual? Yes.
-People with greater hunger and pursuit of spiritual transcendence were viewed by other people as more self-actualized, emotionally balanced, and delighted in living.
-From early adolescence to emerging adulthood, we live through the most intense surge into spiritual arrival.
-How can we help support and encourage natural spirituality?
-Spiritual development foundational to adolescent development, and if it is not supported, we often see other failed attempts to achieve direction, connection, and a sense of transcendence and inner peace, through substance abuse, risk taking, and casual sex.
-With spiritual growth also come the positive psychology assets shown to accompany spirituality: thriving, optimism, grit, and the relational assets of forgiveness, intimacy, and commitment.
-Another way to conceptualize this idea is to imagine a view high above ourselves and our situation, looking down and through and in; this view from the mountaintop is the view by the higher self, or observing eye.
-When we meditate, we feel less revved up for fight or flight.
-We can see the broad and pervasive positive effects of seeing life from the seat of the higher self, which is filled with the clarity, perspective, and wisdom of the knower.
-A state of craving in our inner life means we never feel satisfied.
-When participants shift their mind to the transcendent relationship, there is a cessation of blood flow in the region of the brain associated with craving.
-Is it the case that good guys tend to be spiritual? Yes.
-People with greater hunger and pursuit of spiritual transcendence were viewed by other people as more self-actualized, emotionally balanced, and delighted in living.
-From early adolescence to emerging adulthood, we live through the most intense surge into spiritual arrival.
-How can we help support and encourage natural spirituality?
-Spiritual development foundational to adolescent development, and if it is not supported, we often see other failed attempts to achieve direction, connection, and a sense of transcendence and inner peace, through substance abuse, risk taking, and casual sex.
-With spiritual growth also come the positive psychology assets shown to accompany spirituality: thriving, optimism, grit, and the relational assets of forgiveness, intimacy, and commitment.
-Another way to conceptualize this idea is to imagine a view high above ourselves and our situation, looking down and through and in; this view from the mountaintop is the view by the higher self, or observing eye.
-When we meditate, we feel less revved up for fight or flight.
-We can see the broad and pervasive positive effects of seeing life from the seat of the higher self, which is filled with the clarity, perspective, and wisdom of the knower.
-A state of craving in our inner life means we never feel satisfied.
-When participants shift their mind to the transcendent relationship, there is a cessation of blood flow in the region of the brain associated with craving.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Miller. Quotes II
-We are so very much more, from our chidren's wondrous arrival into our lives to their rounds of questioning and development, when we pay attention and we reflect, we can see great things through their spiritual lens.
-What is this parenting journey is actually the ultimate spiritual journey.
-We are also aware of the psychological toll on kids who are over-scheduled and under chronic pressure to perform, and we want to preserve childhood as a joyful, explorative and carefree time.
-Spirituality is an inner sense of relationship to a higher power that is loving and guiding.
-Spiritual development is the growth and progression of our inborn spirituality.
-The way in which a parent supports a child's spiritual development has a great deal to do with how a child grows into that rich spiritual potential.
-People with a developed spirituality gets sick less, are happier, and feel more connected and less isolated.
-The brains of spiritually engaged people when simply resting with closed eyes is the same wavelength as that of a monk during mediation.
-Spiritual individuation has a paradox. It is grueling, yet eminently satisfying, uplifting, and mind-opening.
-An adolescent with a strong personal with the higher power.
-Authentic spirituality requires reflection and the development of a road back to transcendence through the cultivation of our inner life, through prayer, meditation or perhaps good works, intertwined with our general capacities of cognition, morality, and emotion.
-You are never mistaken for supporting a child's spiritual self.
-The difficult lies not in solving problems but in expressing them.
-All she had to do to support his daughter was to pay attention.
-The precious opportunity before you is that you child is giving you an opening and saying: Hey, come with me. You don't need to know where you are going, or how you are going to get there, you are simply asked to go with her. Our children look to us, but not really for the answers. We're being asked to show up. We need to show up, but we don't need to have all the answers.
-What is this parenting journey is actually the ultimate spiritual journey.
-We are also aware of the psychological toll on kids who are over-scheduled and under chronic pressure to perform, and we want to preserve childhood as a joyful, explorative and carefree time.
-Spirituality is an inner sense of relationship to a higher power that is loving and guiding.
-Spiritual development is the growth and progression of our inborn spirituality.
-The way in which a parent supports a child's spiritual development has a great deal to do with how a child grows into that rich spiritual potential.
-People with a developed spirituality gets sick less, are happier, and feel more connected and less isolated.
-The brains of spiritually engaged people when simply resting with closed eyes is the same wavelength as that of a monk during mediation.
-Spiritual individuation has a paradox. It is grueling, yet eminently satisfying, uplifting, and mind-opening.
-An adolescent with a strong personal with the higher power.
-Authentic spirituality requires reflection and the development of a road back to transcendence through the cultivation of our inner life, through prayer, meditation or perhaps good works, intertwined with our general capacities of cognition, morality, and emotion.
-You are never mistaken for supporting a child's spiritual self.
-The difficult lies not in solving problems but in expressing them.
-All she had to do to support his daughter was to pay attention.
-The precious opportunity before you is that you child is giving you an opening and saying: Hey, come with me. You don't need to know where you are going, or how you are going to get there, you are simply asked to go with her. Our children look to us, but not really for the answers. We're being asked to show up. We need to show up, but we don't need to have all the answers.
The Spiritual Child by Lisa Millar. Quotes.
-Sometimes in difficult family moments or a crisis, children display wisdom and understanding far more on point than the surrounding aggravated or bereaved adults.
-Spirituality is the central organizing principle of inner life in the second decade, boosting teens into an adulthood of meaning and purpose, thriving and awareness.
-The universal developmental surge in adolescence, previously viewed as a fraught passage toward physical and emotional maturity, is now understood more fully to also be a journey of essential spiritual search and growth.
-Now more than ever, in a culture where often enormous amounts of money, empty fame, and cynicism have become toxic dominant values, our children need us to their quest for a spiritually grounded life at every age, and to discover or strengthen our own.
-Optimism was shown to be teachable, not just inborn.
-Our children have an inborn spirituality that is the greatest source of resilience they have as human beings.
-Fulfillment in life is found in meaning and purpose, in spiritual bearings, and not in a better computer, a nicer car, the latest cell phone, or more money.
-Scientists can make the numbers say anything they want.
-The important question for a parent to consider is: Might I offer my child something relevant and beneficial, even if it is not something familiar to me?
-Spirituality is the central organizing principle of inner life in the second decade, boosting teens into an adulthood of meaning and purpose, thriving and awareness.
-The universal developmental surge in adolescence, previously viewed as a fraught passage toward physical and emotional maturity, is now understood more fully to also be a journey of essential spiritual search and growth.
-Now more than ever, in a culture where often enormous amounts of money, empty fame, and cynicism have become toxic dominant values, our children need us to their quest for a spiritually grounded life at every age, and to discover or strengthen our own.
-Optimism was shown to be teachable, not just inborn.
-Our children have an inborn spirituality that is the greatest source of resilience they have as human beings.
-Fulfillment in life is found in meaning and purpose, in spiritual bearings, and not in a better computer, a nicer car, the latest cell phone, or more money.
-Scientists can make the numbers say anything they want.
-The important question for a parent to consider is: Might I offer my child something relevant and beneficial, even if it is not something familiar to me?
Wednesday, August 7, 2019
Simon Sinek. Things I wish I knew when I was younger
1. Focus on the bagel.
2. This is exciting. I am not nervous, I am excited. Nervousness vs. excitement.
3. The highest performing teams are those who give to each other selflessly.
4. Practice to speak the last in your team. Make people feel heard.
5. Fulfillment is the opportunity to serve those who serve others.
6. The ceramic cup was never meant for me. It was meant for the position that I held. We all always deserve the Styrofoam cup.
2. This is exciting. I am not nervous, I am excited. Nervousness vs. excitement.
3. The highest performing teams are those who give to each other selflessly.
4. Practice to speak the last in your team. Make people feel heard.
5. Fulfillment is the opportunity to serve those who serve others.
6. The ceramic cup was never meant for me. It was meant for the position that I held. We all always deserve the Styrofoam cup.
Tuesday, August 6, 2019
Saturday, July 20, 2019
Wednesday, July 10, 2019
Your words hold a miracle by John Osteen. Quotes III
-Because You are my shepherd, Lord Jesus, I boldly say, I do not want! I do not lack. I do not have a care or any anxiety.
-I am not afraid because everything that comes to me must pass You first. You know everything because You are in front of me, leading me all the way.
-Wherever I go I can sense your divine presence, the divine influence of your spirit upon my life.
-In the midst of all the storms of life, all the confusion of life, all the turbulence of life, and all the troubles of life, I am abiding under the shadow of the Almighty.
-I will not have a negative confession and talk about my trouble, my sorrow, and all the things I do not understand. I will say what God's words say, I boldly confess that the Lord is my refuge and my fortress. The Lord is my God; in Him, will I trust.
-I am not afraid! I boldly declare it. I believe it in my heart and speak it with my mouth. All fear has to leave me.
-Now, the enemy is going to tell me that I am going to fall, my family is going to be destroyed, and tragedy is going to come.
-Father, your angels accompany me, defend me, and preserve me.
-Start stepping up to the dinner table and enjoying his blessings. You don't have to live in guilt and condemnation any longer; you don't have to go through life full of fear and worry.
-You are my light and my salvation. Who shall I fear?
-I am not dismayed because the Lord my God is with me wherever I go.
-To live your best life now requires that you believe you are a victor and not a victim.
-Many of us have already received the good things that god has given.
-Did you know that you can lose your blessings by ignorance as well as sin? My people are destroyed by a lack of knowledge.
-You are not going to keep your blessings, and you are not going to keep all the good things of God if you get passive.
-Don't give the enemy one thing God has given you.
-If you begin to change what you say, you will lose it.
-Say what God says about you.
-When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
-I am not afraid because everything that comes to me must pass You first. You know everything because You are in front of me, leading me all the way.
-Wherever I go I can sense your divine presence, the divine influence of your spirit upon my life.
-In the midst of all the storms of life, all the confusion of life, all the turbulence of life, and all the troubles of life, I am abiding under the shadow of the Almighty.
-I will not have a negative confession and talk about my trouble, my sorrow, and all the things I do not understand. I will say what God's words say, I boldly confess that the Lord is my refuge and my fortress. The Lord is my God; in Him, will I trust.
-I am not afraid! I boldly declare it. I believe it in my heart and speak it with my mouth. All fear has to leave me.
-Now, the enemy is going to tell me that I am going to fall, my family is going to be destroyed, and tragedy is going to come.
-Father, your angels accompany me, defend me, and preserve me.
-Start stepping up to the dinner table and enjoying his blessings. You don't have to live in guilt and condemnation any longer; you don't have to go through life full of fear and worry.
-You are my light and my salvation. Who shall I fear?
-I am not dismayed because the Lord my God is with me wherever I go.
-To live your best life now requires that you believe you are a victor and not a victim.
-Many of us have already received the good things that god has given.
-Did you know that you can lose your blessings by ignorance as well as sin? My people are destroyed by a lack of knowledge.
-You are not going to keep your blessings, and you are not going to keep all the good things of God if you get passive.
-Don't give the enemy one thing God has given you.
-If you begin to change what you say, you will lose it.
-Say what God says about you.
-When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
Your words hold a miracle by John Osteen. Quotes II
-David chose to focus on the greatness of God.
-His spirit will take us beyond believing into knowing.
-Why are we sitting here until we die? Rise up!
-When they acted, God did something for them.
-You are born of God.
-Christ died four our sins.
-I am the light of the world. He put a light on the inside of us.
-God is not interested in what church we attend. He simply requires that we accept His Son as Savior.
-Because God is in you, you have overcome.
-You are not in the battle alone.
-God loves us with an everlasting love.
-What you continue to believe in your heart and say with your mouth will come to pass in your life.
-Stop talking to God about how big your mountains are, and starting talking to your mountains how big your God is.
-God encourages us in his Word to be strong and very courageous.
-When you say something often enough, with enthusiasm and passion, before long your subconscious mind begins to act on what you are saying, doing whatever is necessary to bring those thoughts and words to pass.
-I will not live a withered life. My life is filled with life and strength and the power of the Holy Spirit.
-His spirit will take us beyond believing into knowing.
-Why are we sitting here until we die? Rise up!
-When they acted, God did something for them.
-You are born of God.
-Christ died four our sins.
-I am the light of the world. He put a light on the inside of us.
-God is not interested in what church we attend. He simply requires that we accept His Son as Savior.
-Because God is in you, you have overcome.
-You are not in the battle alone.
-God loves us with an everlasting love.
-What you continue to believe in your heart and say with your mouth will come to pass in your life.
-Stop talking to God about how big your mountains are, and starting talking to your mountains how big your God is.
-God encourages us in his Word to be strong and very courageous.
-When you say something often enough, with enthusiasm and passion, before long your subconscious mind begins to act on what you are saying, doing whatever is necessary to bring those thoughts and words to pass.
-I will not live a withered life. My life is filled with life and strength and the power of the Holy Spirit.
Tuesday, July 9, 2019
Your words hold a miracle by John Osteen. Quotes
-You can change your world by changing your words.
-God has left to us the responsibility of enforcing the victory that Jesus won on the cross.
-If you want to change, you must first change your thoughts.
-You've got to quit dwelling on the negative. Don't magnify your problems. Magnify your God.
-God will not do the work for us. He wants us to develop ourselves spiritually.
-When we take the time to hear the word of God, that word will produce in us a steady growth of faith.
-Stop speaking the sound of fear. Stop speaking the sound of depression. Stop speaking the sound of depression. Stop speaking the sound of sickness and defeat. Stop speaking of lack of uncertainty.
-Your words are important. You can create hell on earth or heaven on earth with your words.
-Whether we speak positive or negative words, we will reap exactly what we sow.
-Use your words to change your negative situations and fill them with life.
-The things which are seen were not made of things which are visible.
-There are a lot of things you are not going to understand with your mind. It is through faith you understand.
-Faith is a way of life.
-The only Word that will do you any good is that Word you act upon.
-The Word of God that is written in the Bible is just as powerful and true as if Jesus stood before you and spoke you the Word.
-Why don't you go ahead and pour that foundation? Every journey begins with one step.
-Start doing a little bit of what you cannot do.
-We should say about ourselves what God says.
-Confess the Word of God instead of negative things.
-God has left to us the responsibility of enforcing the victory that Jesus won on the cross.
-If you want to change, you must first change your thoughts.
-You've got to quit dwelling on the negative. Don't magnify your problems. Magnify your God.
-God will not do the work for us. He wants us to develop ourselves spiritually.
-When we take the time to hear the word of God, that word will produce in us a steady growth of faith.
-Stop speaking the sound of fear. Stop speaking the sound of depression. Stop speaking the sound of depression. Stop speaking the sound of sickness and defeat. Stop speaking of lack of uncertainty.
-Your words are important. You can create hell on earth or heaven on earth with your words.
-Whether we speak positive or negative words, we will reap exactly what we sow.
-Use your words to change your negative situations and fill them with life.
-The things which are seen were not made of things which are visible.
-There are a lot of things you are not going to understand with your mind. It is through faith you understand.
-Faith is a way of life.
-The only Word that will do you any good is that Word you act upon.
-The Word of God that is written in the Bible is just as powerful and true as if Jesus stood before you and spoke you the Word.
-Why don't you go ahead and pour that foundation? Every journey begins with one step.
-Start doing a little bit of what you cannot do.
-We should say about ourselves what God says.
-Confess the Word of God instead of negative things.
Tuesday, June 25, 2019
Friday, June 21, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes X
-If the only effects of our actions were the ones we could observe in this life, common sense would dictate that we get as much pleasure and material advantage as we can, even if we must ruthless in the process.
-Each one of us is responsible for one particular point in space and time in which our body and mind forms a link within the total network of existence.
-We can focus consciousness on the tasks of everyday life in the knowledge that when we act in the fullness of the flow experience, we are also building a bridge to the future of our universe.
-Each one of us is responsible for one particular point in space and time in which our body and mind forms a link within the total network of existence.
-We can focus consciousness on the tasks of everyday life in the knowledge that when we act in the fullness of the flow experience, we are also building a bridge to the future of our universe.
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes IX
-Our lives will live a mark on the universe.
-One cannot lead a life that is truly excellent without feeling that one belongs to something greater and more permanent than oneself.
-Individualism and materialism have almost completely prevailed over allegiance to the community and to spiritual values.
-More and more, we seem to bury our heads in the sand to avoid hearing bad news, withdrawing into gated communities protected by armed response. But a good personal life is impossible without staying aloof of a corrupt society, as Socrates knew and those who have lived under recent dictatorships have found out. It would be so much easier if we were responsible only for ourselves. Unfortunately, things don't work that way. An active responsibility for the rest of humankind and for the world of which we are a part, is a necessary ingredient of a good life.
-Act always as if the future of the Universe depended on what you did, while laughing at yourself for thinking that whatever you do makes any difference.
-It is this serious playfulness, this combination of concern and humility that makes it possible to be both engaged and carefree at the same time.
-If a man develops a self-image based on power, or wealth, there are no limits to his exertions. He will pursue the goal set by the self relentlessly, even if he has to ruin his health in the process, even if he has to destroy other people along the way.
-It is possible then to separate those needs that really help us to navigate through life, from those malignant growths that sprout from them and make our lives miserable.
-Once we realize what our demons are, we need not fear them any longer. Instead of taking them seriously, we can smile with compassion at the arrogance of these fruits of our imagination. We don't have to feed their ravenous hunger except on our own terms, when to do so helps us achieve something worthwhile.
-A simple way of improving the quality of life is to take ownership of one's actions.
-Many people spend their entire lives feeling like puppets who move only because their strings are pulled. Under these conditions we are likely to feel that our psychic is wasted. So the question is why don't we want to do more things? The sheer act of wanting focuses attention, establishes priority in consciousness, and thus creates a sense of inner harmony.
-Nor merely bear what is necessary, but love it.
-The quality of life is much improved if we learn to love what we have to do.
-In creating a good life, it is not enough to strive for enjoyable goals, but also to choose goals that will reduce the sum total of entropy in the world.
-One cannot lead a life that is truly excellent without feeling that one belongs to something greater and more permanent than oneself.
-Individualism and materialism have almost completely prevailed over allegiance to the community and to spiritual values.
-More and more, we seem to bury our heads in the sand to avoid hearing bad news, withdrawing into gated communities protected by armed response. But a good personal life is impossible without staying aloof of a corrupt society, as Socrates knew and those who have lived under recent dictatorships have found out. It would be so much easier if we were responsible only for ourselves. Unfortunately, things don't work that way. An active responsibility for the rest of humankind and for the world of which we are a part, is a necessary ingredient of a good life.
-Act always as if the future of the Universe depended on what you did, while laughing at yourself for thinking that whatever you do makes any difference.
-It is this serious playfulness, this combination of concern and humility that makes it possible to be both engaged and carefree at the same time.
-If a man develops a self-image based on power, or wealth, there are no limits to his exertions. He will pursue the goal set by the self relentlessly, even if he has to ruin his health in the process, even if he has to destroy other people along the way.
-It is possible then to separate those needs that really help us to navigate through life, from those malignant growths that sprout from them and make our lives miserable.
-Once we realize what our demons are, we need not fear them any longer. Instead of taking them seriously, we can smile with compassion at the arrogance of these fruits of our imagination. We don't have to feed their ravenous hunger except on our own terms, when to do so helps us achieve something worthwhile.
-A simple way of improving the quality of life is to take ownership of one's actions.
-Many people spend their entire lives feeling like puppets who move only because their strings are pulled. Under these conditions we are likely to feel that our psychic is wasted. So the question is why don't we want to do more things? The sheer act of wanting focuses attention, establishes priority in consciousness, and thus creates a sense of inner harmony.
-Nor merely bear what is necessary, but love it.
-The quality of life is much improved if we learn to love what we have to do.
-In creating a good life, it is not enough to strive for enjoyable goals, but also to choose goals that will reduce the sum total of entropy in the world.
Wednesday, June 19, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes VIII
-When we are able to confront life with such involvement and enthusiasm, we can be said to have achieved an autotelic personality.
-There is a gradation, ranging from individuals who almost never feel that what they do is worth doing for its own sake, to others who feel that most anything they do is important and valuable in its own right. It is to this latter individuals that the term autotelic applies.
-An autotelic person needs few material possessions and little entertainment, comfort, power, or fame because so much of what he or she does is already rewarding. Because such persons experience flow in work, in family life, when interacting with people, when eating, and even when alone with nothing to do, they are less dependent on the external rewards that keep others motivated to go on a life composed of dull and meaningless routines. They are more autonomous and independent, because they cannot be as easily manipulated with threats or rewards from the outside. At the same time, they are more involved with everything around them because they are fully immersed in the current of life.
-An important dimension of it means to be autotelic is what one does with one's time.
-An autotelic person is often in challenging situations.
-Self-reported happiness is not a very good indicator of the quality of a person's life.
-It is not enough to be happy to have an excellent life. The point is to be happy while doing things that stretch our skills, that help us grow and fulfill our potential.
-If there is one quality that distinguishes autotelic individuals, it is that their psychic energy seems inexhaustible.
-Autotelic persons are less concerned with themselves, and therefore have more free psychic energy to experience life with.
-Creative individuals are usually autotelic as well, and they often achieve their breakthroughs because they have surplus psychic energy to invest in apparently trivial objects.
-I don't care what kind of problem it is. If I can solve it, it is fun. It is really a lot of fun to solve problems, isn't it? Isn't it that what's interesting in life?
-PAULING. What starting him on a long and productive life was a determination to participate as fully as possible in the life around him.
-Every morning you wake up and it's like the dawn of creation.
-Without disinterested interest life is uninteresting.
-Time is what one must find in order to develop interest and curiosity to enjoy life for its own sake.
-As one focuses on any segment of reality, a potentially infinite range of opportunities for action is revealed for our skills to engage with. There is never a good excuse for being bored.
-Those who survive are able to ignore selectively the external conditions, and to redirect their attention to an inner life that is real only to themselves.
-One needs to learn to control attention.
-There is a gradation, ranging from individuals who almost never feel that what they do is worth doing for its own sake, to others who feel that most anything they do is important and valuable in its own right. It is to this latter individuals that the term autotelic applies.
-An autotelic person needs few material possessions and little entertainment, comfort, power, or fame because so much of what he or she does is already rewarding. Because such persons experience flow in work, in family life, when interacting with people, when eating, and even when alone with nothing to do, they are less dependent on the external rewards that keep others motivated to go on a life composed of dull and meaningless routines. They are more autonomous and independent, because they cannot be as easily manipulated with threats or rewards from the outside. At the same time, they are more involved with everything around them because they are fully immersed in the current of life.
-An important dimension of it means to be autotelic is what one does with one's time.
-An autotelic person is often in challenging situations.
-Self-reported happiness is not a very good indicator of the quality of a person's life.
-It is not enough to be happy to have an excellent life. The point is to be happy while doing things that stretch our skills, that help us grow and fulfill our potential.
-If there is one quality that distinguishes autotelic individuals, it is that their psychic energy seems inexhaustible.
-Autotelic persons are less concerned with themselves, and therefore have more free psychic energy to experience life with.
-Creative individuals are usually autotelic as well, and they often achieve their breakthroughs because they have surplus psychic energy to invest in apparently trivial objects.
-I don't care what kind of problem it is. If I can solve it, it is fun. It is really a lot of fun to solve problems, isn't it? Isn't it that what's interesting in life?
-PAULING. What starting him on a long and productive life was a determination to participate as fully as possible in the life around him.
-Every morning you wake up and it's like the dawn of creation.
-Without disinterested interest life is uninteresting.
-Time is what one must find in order to develop interest and curiosity to enjoy life for its own sake.
-As one focuses on any segment of reality, a potentially infinite range of opportunities for action is revealed for our skills to engage with. There is never a good excuse for being bored.
-Those who survive are able to ignore selectively the external conditions, and to redirect their attention to an inner life that is real only to themselves.
-One needs to learn to control attention.
Tuesday, June 18, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes VII
-How many people never realize that they can shape their psychic energy so as to get the most out of experience?
-There are so many examples of individuals who overcame obstacles that the belief that the quality of life is determined from the outside is hardly tenable.
-Even at ninety years of age, Linus Pauling kept the enthusiasm and curiosity of a young child. Everything he did or said was bubbling with energy.
-Pauling and others who share this type of attitude like to do almost everything. The only thing they definitely don't like is wasting time.
-Because for most of us a job is such a central part of life, it is essential that this activity be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.
-They are three reasons why jobs are resented:
1. The job is pointless.
2. The job is boring and routine.
3. Jobs are often stressful.
-It is always a better deal to do something one feels good about than something that may make us materially comfortable but emotionally miserable.
-A trivial job can turn into a memorable performance that leaves the world in a better shape than it was before.
-Small adjustments can turn a routine job one dreads into a professional performance one can look forward to with anticipation each morning.
-Stress is detrimental to achieving flow.
-Only by exercising control can stress be avoided.
-Besides work, the other major area that impacts on the quality of life is the kind of relationships we have.
-Conversation is more important to marriage than sex.
-When people pay attention to each other, or to the same activity together, the chances of flow binding the family increases.
-Only when there is harmony between the goals of the participants, when everyone is investing energy into a joint goal, does being together become enjoyable.
-It is sad to see how often people ruin a relationship because they refuse to recognize that they could serve their own interests best by helping others achieve theirs.
-If top management is filled with greedy egotists the company will eventually suffer for it.
-There are so many examples of individuals who overcame obstacles that the belief that the quality of life is determined from the outside is hardly tenable.
-Even at ninety years of age, Linus Pauling kept the enthusiasm and curiosity of a young child. Everything he did or said was bubbling with energy.
-Pauling and others who share this type of attitude like to do almost everything. The only thing they definitely don't like is wasting time.
-Because for most of us a job is such a central part of life, it is essential that this activity be as enjoyable and rewarding as possible.
-They are three reasons why jobs are resented:
1. The job is pointless.
2. The job is boring and routine.
3. Jobs are often stressful.
-It is always a better deal to do something one feels good about than something that may make us materially comfortable but emotionally miserable.
-A trivial job can turn into a memorable performance that leaves the world in a better shape than it was before.
-Small adjustments can turn a routine job one dreads into a professional performance one can look forward to with anticipation each morning.
-Stress is detrimental to achieving flow.
-Only by exercising control can stress be avoided.
-Besides work, the other major area that impacts on the quality of life is the kind of relationships we have.
-Conversation is more important to marriage than sex.
-When people pay attention to each other, or to the same activity together, the chances of flow binding the family increases.
-Only when there is harmony between the goals of the participants, when everyone is investing energy into a joint goal, does being together become enjoyable.
-It is sad to see how often people ruin a relationship because they refuse to recognize that they could serve their own interests best by helping others achieve theirs.
-If top management is filled with greedy egotists the company will eventually suffer for it.
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes VI
-What matters is the dosage.
-As the patterns turn into habits, they begin to have definite effects on the quality of life as a whole.
-The phrase "bread and circuses" to keep the populace contended during the long centuries of Roman Empire's decline.
-A society begins to rely heavily on leisure only when it has become incapable of offering meaningful productive occupation to its members.
-There are individuals who, confronted with the sterility of their jobs, escape productive responsibilities altogether to pursue a life of flow in leisure.
-If a society becomes too dependent on entertainment, it is likely that there will be less psychic energy left to cope creatively with the technological and economic challenges that will inevitably arise.
-If one's job is beyond redemption, the other solution is to make sure that free time at least will be a real opportunity for flow, for exploring the potential of the self and the environment. Luckily, the world is absolutely full of interesting things to do. Only lack of imagination, or lack of energy, stand in the way. Otherwise each of us could be a poet, or a musician, an inventor, or explorer, an amateur scholar, scientist, artist, or collector.
-A relationship that leads to order in consciousness instead of psychic entropy, has to meet at least two conditions: to find some compatibility between our goals and those of the other person; and being willing to invest attention in the other person's goals.
-Lack of true friends is often the main complaint of people confronting an emotional crisis in the second half of life.
-What can one do? As with other aspects of life, the important thing is to decide for oneself.
-There are more arguments in families that are emotionally close; when the family is in real trouble, parents and children avoid each other instead of arguing.
-The moods of the father affect the moods of the rest of the family, and the children's moods affect the mother, but the mother's moods have little discernible effect on the rest of the family.
-Rules and discipline are needed to avoid excessive waste of psychic energy in the negotiation of what can or cannot be done.
-It is possible to learn to like solitude, but it doesn't come easily.
-One can learn more about true preferences by listening to what people say others want, rather than to what they claim they want themselves.
-While we are repelled by differences, we are also fascinated by the strange and the exotic.
-Ideal communities, like ideal families, may never have really existed.
-Extroverts who are thought to be born not to be made, get a better deal in life all around.
-It is possible to be both extroverted and introverted at the same time.
-As the patterns turn into habits, they begin to have definite effects on the quality of life as a whole.
-The phrase "bread and circuses" to keep the populace contended during the long centuries of Roman Empire's decline.
-A society begins to rely heavily on leisure only when it has become incapable of offering meaningful productive occupation to its members.
-There are individuals who, confronted with the sterility of their jobs, escape productive responsibilities altogether to pursue a life of flow in leisure.
-If a society becomes too dependent on entertainment, it is likely that there will be less psychic energy left to cope creatively with the technological and economic challenges that will inevitably arise.
-If one's job is beyond redemption, the other solution is to make sure that free time at least will be a real opportunity for flow, for exploring the potential of the self and the environment. Luckily, the world is absolutely full of interesting things to do. Only lack of imagination, or lack of energy, stand in the way. Otherwise each of us could be a poet, or a musician, an inventor, or explorer, an amateur scholar, scientist, artist, or collector.
-A relationship that leads to order in consciousness instead of psychic entropy, has to meet at least two conditions: to find some compatibility between our goals and those of the other person; and being willing to invest attention in the other person's goals.
-Lack of true friends is often the main complaint of people confronting an emotional crisis in the second half of life.
-What can one do? As with other aspects of life, the important thing is to decide for oneself.
-There are more arguments in families that are emotionally close; when the family is in real trouble, parents and children avoid each other instead of arguing.
-The moods of the father affect the moods of the rest of the family, and the children's moods affect the mother, but the mother's moods have little discernible effect on the rest of the family.
-Rules and discipline are needed to avoid excessive waste of psychic energy in the negotiation of what can or cannot be done.
-It is possible to learn to like solitude, but it doesn't come easily.
-One can learn more about true preferences by listening to what people say others want, rather than to what they claim they want themselves.
-While we are repelled by differences, we are also fascinated by the strange and the exotic.
-Ideal communities, like ideal families, may never have really existed.
-Extroverts who are thought to be born not to be made, get a better deal in life all around.
-It is possible to be both extroverted and introverted at the same time.
Monday, June 17, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes V
-I don't think I ever sat down and ask myself, now what am I going to do in life? I just went ahead doing what I liked to do.
-It is not the external conditions that determine how much work will contribute to the excellence of one's life. It is how one works and what experiences one is able to derive from confronting its challenges.
-What accomplishments in life they were most proud of. I suppose it is just to have raised six kids, and brought them up.
-The best investment he ever made was the year he took off from his successful career to spend with his children as they were growing up.
-Having leisure does not improve the quality of life unless one knows how to use it effectively.
-Physical health is better when a person focuses on a goal. On weekends, when alone, and with nothing to do, people report more symptoms of illness.
-Without necessarily being aware of it. one will seek out stimulation that will screen out the sources of anxiety from consciousness.This might be watching TV, or reading redundant narratives, such as romances or mysteries. These are quick ways to reduce chaos in consciousness in the short run, but usually the only residue they leave behind is a feeling of listless dissatisfaction.
-Few people have learned to structure their psychic energy autonomously, from the inside.
-Human beings feel best in flow, when they are fully involved in meeting a challenge, solving a problem, discovering something new.
-Free time with nothing specific to engage one's attention provides the opposite of flow: psychic entropy, where one feels listless and apathetic.
-Why would we spend four times more time doing something that has less than half the chance of making us feel good? To get organized for a basketball game takes time: one has to change clothes, make arrangements. Each of the flow-producing activities requires an initial investment of attention before it begins to be enjoyable. One needs such disposable activation energy.
-If a person lacks the discipline to overcome that initial obstacle, he will have to settle for something that, although less enjoyable, is more accessible. This is where passive leisure activities come in.
-It is not the external conditions that determine how much work will contribute to the excellence of one's life. It is how one works and what experiences one is able to derive from confronting its challenges.
-What accomplishments in life they were most proud of. I suppose it is just to have raised six kids, and brought them up.
-The best investment he ever made was the year he took off from his successful career to spend with his children as they were growing up.
-Having leisure does not improve the quality of life unless one knows how to use it effectively.
-Physical health is better when a person focuses on a goal. On weekends, when alone, and with nothing to do, people report more symptoms of illness.
-Without necessarily being aware of it. one will seek out stimulation that will screen out the sources of anxiety from consciousness.This might be watching TV, or reading redundant narratives, such as romances or mysteries. These are quick ways to reduce chaos in consciousness in the short run, but usually the only residue they leave behind is a feeling of listless dissatisfaction.
-Few people have learned to structure their psychic energy autonomously, from the inside.
-Human beings feel best in flow, when they are fully involved in meeting a challenge, solving a problem, discovering something new.
-Free time with nothing specific to engage one's attention provides the opposite of flow: psychic entropy, where one feels listless and apathetic.
-Why would we spend four times more time doing something that has less than half the chance of making us feel good? To get organized for a basketball game takes time: one has to change clothes, make arrangements. Each of the flow-producing activities requires an initial investment of attention before it begins to be enjoyable. One needs such disposable activation energy.
-If a person lacks the discipline to overcome that initial obstacle, he will have to settle for something that, although less enjoyable, is more accessible. This is where passive leisure activities come in.
Sunday, June 16, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes IV
-Work generally takes up a third of the time available for living.
-Those who like their work lead richer lives.
-Children from an early age participated in their parents' work, and gradually found themselves performing as productive adults without missing a beat along the way.
-Exposure to productive tasks in the home, the neighborhood, and the community is much greater for children who grow up in wealthy and stable environments.
-In the US, almost nine out of ten teenagers are employed sometime during high school, a much higher proportion than in other technologically advanced countries, where parents prefer their children to spend as much time as possible studying, rather than being distracted by jobs irrelevant to their future careers.
-A person who grows up experiencing most of the day as neither important nor enjoyable is unlikely to find much meaning in the future.
-The attitudes set in the early years continue to color how we experience work during the rest of our lives.
-Without the goal and the challenges usually provided by a job, only a rare self-discipline can keep the mind focused intensely enough to insure a meaningful life.
-The quality of experience at work is generally more positive than one would expect. Nevertheless, if we had the chance, we would like to work less. Two major reasons seem to be involved: the objective conditions of work since those who pay another person's wages, are not particularly concerned with the well-being of their employees; and the subjective attitudes towards work.
-The intrinsic rewards of work are easiest to see in the highly individualized professions, where a person is free to choose his or her goals and set the difficulty of the task.
-"You could say that I worked every minute of my life, or that I never work a day"
-Those who like their work lead richer lives.
-Children from an early age participated in their parents' work, and gradually found themselves performing as productive adults without missing a beat along the way.
-Exposure to productive tasks in the home, the neighborhood, and the community is much greater for children who grow up in wealthy and stable environments.
-In the US, almost nine out of ten teenagers are employed sometime during high school, a much higher proportion than in other technologically advanced countries, where parents prefer their children to spend as much time as possible studying, rather than being distracted by jobs irrelevant to their future careers.
-A person who grows up experiencing most of the day as neither important nor enjoyable is unlikely to find much meaning in the future.
-The attitudes set in the early years continue to color how we experience work during the rest of our lives.
-Without the goal and the challenges usually provided by a job, only a rare self-discipline can keep the mind focused intensely enough to insure a meaningful life.
-The quality of experience at work is generally more positive than one would expect. Nevertheless, if we had the chance, we would like to work less. Two major reasons seem to be involved: the objective conditions of work since those who pay another person's wages, are not particularly concerned with the well-being of their employees; and the subjective attitudes towards work.
-The intrinsic rewards of work are easiest to see in the highly individualized professions, where a person is free to choose his or her goals and set the difficulty of the task.
-"You could say that I worked every minute of my life, or that I never work a day"
Sunday, June 9, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes III
-It is the full involvement of flow, rather than happiness, that makes for excellence in life.
-When we are in flow, we are not happy, because to experience happiness we must focus on our inner states, and that would take away attention from the task at hand.
-Only after the task is completed do we have the leisure to look back on what has happened, and the we are flooded with gratitude for the excellence of that experience. Then, in retrospect, we are happy.
-The flow experience acts as a magnet for learning.
-Do you ever get involved in something so deeply that nothing else seems to matter, and you lose track of time?
-Flow is generally reported when a person is doing his or her favorite activity.
-Because almost any activity can produce flow provided the relevant elements are present, it is possible to improve the quality of life by making sure that clear goals, immediate feedback, skills balanced to action opportunities, and the remaining conditions of flow are as much as possible a constant part of everyday life.
-The quality of life depends on what we do in the seventy or so years we are allotted, and on what passes in consciousness during that time.
-Good things in small doses, tend to improve the quality of daily life considerably, but the effects are not additive; a point of diminishing returns is quickly reached.
-When the job presents clear goals, unambiguous feedback, a sense of control, challenges that match the worker's skills, and few distractions, the feelings it provides are not that different from what one experiences in a sport or an artistic performance.
-The first step in improving the quality of life consists in engineering daily activities so that one gets the most rewarding experiences from them.
-Being alone affects most those individuals who have the fewest resources.
-The interactions have many of the characteristics of flow activities, and they certainly require the orderly investment of psychic energy. By contrast, when we are alone with nothing to do there is no reason to concentrate, and what happens then is that the mind begins to unravel, and soon finds something to worry about.
-A more difficult, but in the long run even more useful, skill to acquire is the ability to tolerate solitude, and to even enjoy it.
-Locations also have an effect on the quality of experience.
-For many families, the car has also become the location for togetherness. At home parents and children are often dispersed in different rooms, doing different things, when on an outing in the car, they talk, sing, or play games together.
-The environment in which one lives affects one's mind.
-It is not the external conditions that count, but what we make of them.
-The excellence of daily life finally depends not on what we do, but on how we do it.
-It is important to reflect on the effects that the daily environment, the places, people, activities, and times of the day, has on us.
-There is no law that says we have to experience life in the same way. What is vital is to find out what works out best in your case.
-When we are in flow, we are not happy, because to experience happiness we must focus on our inner states, and that would take away attention from the task at hand.
-Only after the task is completed do we have the leisure to look back on what has happened, and the we are flooded with gratitude for the excellence of that experience. Then, in retrospect, we are happy.
-The flow experience acts as a magnet for learning.
-Do you ever get involved in something so deeply that nothing else seems to matter, and you lose track of time?
-Flow is generally reported when a person is doing his or her favorite activity.
-Because almost any activity can produce flow provided the relevant elements are present, it is possible to improve the quality of life by making sure that clear goals, immediate feedback, skills balanced to action opportunities, and the remaining conditions of flow are as much as possible a constant part of everyday life.
-The quality of life depends on what we do in the seventy or so years we are allotted, and on what passes in consciousness during that time.
-Good things in small doses, tend to improve the quality of daily life considerably, but the effects are not additive; a point of diminishing returns is quickly reached.
-When the job presents clear goals, unambiguous feedback, a sense of control, challenges that match the worker's skills, and few distractions, the feelings it provides are not that different from what one experiences in a sport or an artistic performance.
-The first step in improving the quality of life consists in engineering daily activities so that one gets the most rewarding experiences from them.
-Being alone affects most those individuals who have the fewest resources.
-The interactions have many of the characteristics of flow activities, and they certainly require the orderly investment of psychic energy. By contrast, when we are alone with nothing to do there is no reason to concentrate, and what happens then is that the mind begins to unravel, and soon finds something to worry about.
-A more difficult, but in the long run even more useful, skill to acquire is the ability to tolerate solitude, and to even enjoy it.
-Locations also have an effect on the quality of experience.
-For many families, the car has also become the location for togetherness. At home parents and children are often dispersed in different rooms, doing different things, when on an outing in the car, they talk, sing, or play games together.
-The environment in which one lives affects one's mind.
-It is not the external conditions that count, but what we make of them.
-The excellence of daily life finally depends not on what we do, but on how we do it.
-It is important to reflect on the effects that the daily environment, the places, people, activities, and times of the day, has on us.
-There is no law that says we have to experience life in the same way. What is vital is to find out what works out best in your case.
Tuesday, June 4, 2019
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes II
-Experience takes place in time, so time is the ultimate scarce resource we have.
-Over the years, the content of experience will determine the quality of life.
-One of the most essential decisions any of us can make is about how one's time is allocated or invested.
-What our life is consists in experiences related to work, to keeping things we already have from falling apart, and to whatever else we do in our free time.
-Everyday life is defined not only by what we do, but also by who we are with.
-While what we do day in and day out has a lot to do with what kind of life we have, how we experience what we do is even more important.
-Beyond the threshold of poverty, additional resources do not appreciably improve the chances of being happy.
-When we feel active and strong we are also more likely to feel happy.
-The choice of what we do will also affect our happiness.
-Without dreams, without risks, only a trivial semblance of living can be achieved.
-Goals that we pursue will shape and determine the kind of self that we are to become.
-Without a consistent set of goals, it is difficult to develop a coherent self.
-To make sure that we survive in a dangerous world dominated by scarcity, our genes have been programmed us to be greedy, to want power, to dominate over others.
-Most of our goals will be shaped by genetic or by cultural inheritance.
-When a person likes what he does and is motivated to do it, focusing the mind becomes effortless even when the objective difficulties are great.
-Innate talents cannot develop into mature intelligence unless a person learns to control attention.
-Flow experiences to describe the sense of effortless action we feel in moments that stand out as the best in our lives. Moments in which what we feel, what we wish, and what we think are in harmony.
-When high challenges are matched with high skills, then the deep involvement that sets flow apart from ordinary life is likely to occur.
-Flow occurs when challenges and skills are high.
-When goals are clear, feedback relevant, and challenges and skills are in balance, attention becomes ordered and fully invested. Because of the total demand on psychic energy, a person in flow is completely focused. There is no space in consciousness for distracting thoughts, irrelevant feelings.
-When a person's entire being is stretched in the full functioning of body and mind, whatever one does becomes worth doing for its own sake.
-Over the years, the content of experience will determine the quality of life.
-One of the most essential decisions any of us can make is about how one's time is allocated or invested.
-What our life is consists in experiences related to work, to keeping things we already have from falling apart, and to whatever else we do in our free time.
-Everyday life is defined not only by what we do, but also by who we are with.
-While what we do day in and day out has a lot to do with what kind of life we have, how we experience what we do is even more important.
-Beyond the threshold of poverty, additional resources do not appreciably improve the chances of being happy.
-When we feel active and strong we are also more likely to feel happy.
-The choice of what we do will also affect our happiness.
-Without dreams, without risks, only a trivial semblance of living can be achieved.
-Goals that we pursue will shape and determine the kind of self that we are to become.
-Without a consistent set of goals, it is difficult to develop a coherent self.
-To make sure that we survive in a dangerous world dominated by scarcity, our genes have been programmed us to be greedy, to want power, to dominate over others.
-Most of our goals will be shaped by genetic or by cultural inheritance.
-When a person likes what he does and is motivated to do it, focusing the mind becomes effortless even when the objective difficulties are great.
-Innate talents cannot develop into mature intelligence unless a person learns to control attention.
-Flow experiences to describe the sense of effortless action we feel in moments that stand out as the best in our lives. Moments in which what we feel, what we wish, and what we think are in harmony.
-When high challenges are matched with high skills, then the deep involvement that sets flow apart from ordinary life is likely to occur.
-Flow occurs when challenges and skills are high.
-When goals are clear, feedback relevant, and challenges and skills are in balance, attention becomes ordered and fully invested. Because of the total demand on psychic energy, a person in flow is completely focused. There is no space in consciousness for distracting thoughts, irrelevant feelings.
-When a person's entire being is stretched in the full functioning of body and mind, whatever one does becomes worth doing for its own sake.
Finding flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Quotes
-Between now and the inevitable end of our lives we can choose either to live or to die.
-To live is by no means something that will happen by itself.
-What does to live mean? It must mean to live in fullness, without waste of time and potential, expressing one's uniqueness, yet participating intimately in the complexity of the cosmos.
-The only path to finding out what life is about is a patient, slow, attempt to make sense of the realities of the past, and the possibilities of the future as they can be understood in the present.
-The best strategy is to assume that these seventy or so years, are our only chance to experience the cosmos, and we should make the fullest use of it.
-The actual quality of life will be determined by our thoughts and emotions, by the interpretations we give to chemical, biological, and social processes.
-To achieve excellence, we must first understand the reality of the everyday, with all its demands and potential frustrations.
-The accident of birth, puts a person in a slot that greatly determines what sorts of experiences his or her life will consist of.
-There is enough room for personal initiative and choice to make a real difference. And those who believe this are the ones with the best chance to break free from the grip of fate.
-To live means to experience.
-To live is by no means something that will happen by itself.
-What does to live mean? It must mean to live in fullness, without waste of time and potential, expressing one's uniqueness, yet participating intimately in the complexity of the cosmos.
-The only path to finding out what life is about is a patient, slow, attempt to make sense of the realities of the past, and the possibilities of the future as they can be understood in the present.
-The best strategy is to assume that these seventy or so years, are our only chance to experience the cosmos, and we should make the fullest use of it.
-The actual quality of life will be determined by our thoughts and emotions, by the interpretations we give to chemical, biological, and social processes.
-To achieve excellence, we must first understand the reality of the everyday, with all its demands and potential frustrations.
-The accident of birth, puts a person in a slot that greatly determines what sorts of experiences his or her life will consist of.
-There is enough room for personal initiative and choice to make a real difference. And those who believe this are the ones with the best chance to break free from the grip of fate.
-To live means to experience.
Friday, May 31, 2019
Thursday, May 30, 2019
Win Forever by Pete Carroll. Quotes VIII
-Being supportive would be crucial. Our always enduring will to be positive and hold on to the belief that something good was just about to happen, no matter how dire the circumstances, would truly prove to be worthwhile.
-I am very lucky that I have a job that I love doing and am so passionate about, but I also realize that I still am a part of a larger world.
-We have the power to create our own reality.
-When it comes to leadership and performance the basic principles are almost universal.
-The discipline comes when you consistently stay in touch with your vision.
-I know myself so well that if I miss my first ten shots, you had better look out, because I know I am going to make my next ten.
-When you truly know yourself, you have the best change of using your strengths to your best advantage.
-Compete to make yourself valuable at whatever you're doing.
-Your first job experiences may not be what you have dreamed about, but there is intrinsic value in a job well done.
-Listen to your heart, trust your intuition, and allow yourself to be fascinated by the adventure to find the real you.
-Life is never about singular moments because they are never enough to sustain pure happiness.
-Life is about the journey.
-When I am asked about what I will miss the most, it will be the people.
-The beauty of life is that it doesn't stop.
-The first meeting I held included everyone in the organization. I wanted them to know that everyone was an important part of the team.
-I believed that setting the bar extremely high was necessary and appropriate for putting our new program in motion.
-Games were determined not by how you start, but how you finish.
-We have the power to direct and redirect our lives and the opportunities that surround us, but first we have to acknowledge the power that resides in our thoughts and visions.
-I am very lucky that I have a job that I love doing and am so passionate about, but I also realize that I still am a part of a larger world.
-We have the power to create our own reality.
-When it comes to leadership and performance the basic principles are almost universal.
-The discipline comes when you consistently stay in touch with your vision.
-I know myself so well that if I miss my first ten shots, you had better look out, because I know I am going to make my next ten.
-When you truly know yourself, you have the best change of using your strengths to your best advantage.
-Compete to make yourself valuable at whatever you're doing.
-Your first job experiences may not be what you have dreamed about, but there is intrinsic value in a job well done.
-Listen to your heart, trust your intuition, and allow yourself to be fascinated by the adventure to find the real you.
-Life is never about singular moments because they are never enough to sustain pure happiness.
-Life is about the journey.
-When I am asked about what I will miss the most, it will be the people.
-The beauty of life is that it doesn't stop.
-The first meeting I held included everyone in the organization. I wanted them to know that everyone was an important part of the team.
-I believed that setting the bar extremely high was necessary and appropriate for putting our new program in motion.
-Games were determined not by how you start, but how you finish.
-We have the power to direct and redirect our lives and the opportunities that surround us, but first we have to acknowledge the power that resides in our thoughts and visions.
Win Forever by Pete Carroll. Quotes VII
-I am always looking for the fun in everything I do.
-The idea is to keep them fascinated with what's going on, so they keep coming back.
-To effectively handle major swings of emotion in a game is a skill that will allow a player to perform at this best.
-Our players were loose and relaxed.
-Our guys knew that the only thing left to do was go out and perform like they have been prepared to do. And that is exactly what happened.
-A head coach's primary objective is to orchestrate the overall mentality of his team.
-The greatest detractor from high performance is fear. If you can eliminate that fear through hard work and preparation you will put yourself in an incredible position to take on the challenges you face.
-Those setbacks, challenges and hardships have been learning experiences.
-When you have gotten to a place where you are as ready to embrace the learning opportunities given to you by the games you lose as to embrace the ones given to you by the games you win, then you are ready for all the potential outcomes.
-The only comparison that matters is yourself.
-If you create a vision for yourself and stick with it, you can make amazing things happen in your life.
-What you expect is usually what you get.
-The power of visioning. You can create whatever you envision as long as you are willing to always compete and stay on course with you objective.
-The idea is to keep them fascinated with what's going on, so they keep coming back.
-To effectively handle major swings of emotion in a game is a skill that will allow a player to perform at this best.
-Our players were loose and relaxed.
-Our guys knew that the only thing left to do was go out and perform like they have been prepared to do. And that is exactly what happened.
-A head coach's primary objective is to orchestrate the overall mentality of his team.
-The greatest detractor from high performance is fear. If you can eliminate that fear through hard work and preparation you will put yourself in an incredible position to take on the challenges you face.
-Those setbacks, challenges and hardships have been learning experiences.
-When you have gotten to a place where you are as ready to embrace the learning opportunities given to you by the games you lose as to embrace the ones given to you by the games you win, then you are ready for all the potential outcomes.
-The only comparison that matters is yourself.
-If you create a vision for yourself and stick with it, you can make amazing things happen in your life.
-What you expect is usually what you get.
-The power of visioning. You can create whatever you envision as long as you are willing to always compete and stay on course with you objective.
Wednesday, May 22, 2019
Win Forever by Pete Carroll. Quotes VI
-What actually occurred was a result of our preparation, which allowed every player to perform brilliantly under the most pressure-filled situation imaginable.
-Practice is everything.
-In my nine years at USC we had freshmen starting at every position, including quarterback.
-We conveyed our expectation that every incoming player had the chance to start in this first year.
-We discovered that by setting these high expectations and using supporting, consistent language, we could enable a freshman to contribute immediately.
-We didn't promise trophies, titles, or even that they would start, much less play. As coaches, we would create opportunities for them to show their value and worth to the team and perhaps earn a starting position. What we did promise at USC, and will continue to do so at the Seahawks, it that all players, be they freshmen or rookies, seniors or veterans, would be given an equal opportunity to compete for a spot right away. That wasn't a sales pitch, it was the truth.
-First-year players could help us win.
-The most important things I am looking for are competitive will and love of the game.
-Recruiting was just another way to compete.
-Not every recruit was equipped to handle the best working alongside the best.
-The only way to earn the right to be on the field was by competing for it, and they also knew that we would respond accordingly.
-We were far more wary of setting expectations too low than of setting them to high, and by placing great expectations on our student-athletes, our coaching staff had the belief they could field a championship team year after year.
-Practice is everything.
-In my nine years at USC we had freshmen starting at every position, including quarterback.
-We conveyed our expectation that every incoming player had the chance to start in this first year.
-We discovered that by setting these high expectations and using supporting, consistent language, we could enable a freshman to contribute immediately.
-We didn't promise trophies, titles, or even that they would start, much less play. As coaches, we would create opportunities for them to show their value and worth to the team and perhaps earn a starting position. What we did promise at USC, and will continue to do so at the Seahawks, it that all players, be they freshmen or rookies, seniors or veterans, would be given an equal opportunity to compete for a spot right away. That wasn't a sales pitch, it was the truth.
-First-year players could help us win.
-The most important things I am looking for are competitive will and love of the game.
-Recruiting was just another way to compete.
-Not every recruit was equipped to handle the best working alongside the best.
-The only way to earn the right to be on the field was by competing for it, and they also knew that we would respond accordingly.
-We were far more wary of setting expectations too low than of setting them to high, and by placing great expectations on our student-athletes, our coaching staff had the belief they could field a championship team year after year.
Monday, May 20, 2019
Win Forever by Pete Carroll. Quotes V
-I want our guys to know that we believe in them, and I want to show them how far we will go to stand by them. When I do that, I get it back many times over in the long run.
-Having the freedom to weigh my options was more important to me than money or a sense of security. In Seattle, as at USC, I want everyone to know that we want them to realize their dreams. I want people who will fight for us because they know we'll fight from them.
-We live in a society that celebrates executives, coaches, and other leaders yet doesn't put a very high value on teaching as a profession.
-Leading and teaching go hand in hand.
-A flexible and open communication is an incredibly powerful leadership tool.
-Failure to communicate is unacceptable for a parent, a coach, or a leader.
-Learn your learner.
-The competitive environment we operate in as coaches demands that we be extraordinary teachers.
-We wanted to observe our players in as many situations and scenarios as possible.
-It's a challenge to understand the people you're dealing with so that you can approach them in the most effective possible way. A way that allows them to operate and perform at their very best.
-The best teachers, coaches, and leaders are often the best observers.
-I never want to be cut off from the flow of what's going on and what everybody is thinking.
-This effort to know more about our players is never ending, as our teaching is never ending.
-The greatest competitors of our time own a deep down desire to be the best.
-The details of each day's work are accounted for down to the minute.
-I wanted them to see practice as something to look forward to with excitement and focus. When we did that properly, our practices were as competitive and fiery as any game.
-I wanted to practice at game speed.
-Critique effort first.
-Our goal was for our players to face tougher opposition on our practice field than they would encounter in games.
-Competitive cauldron. Anson Dorrance.
-We kept score during everything.
-Finding the right balance and emphasis is critical for keeping practices fresh and players focused.
-A different theme for each day of the week:
TELL THE TRUTH MONDAY
COMPETITION TUESDAY
TURNOVER WEDNESDAY
NO REPEAT THURSDAY
REVIEW FRIDAY
-Always passionate speaking from the heart.
-Players need to focus no matter what is going on around.
-By making our practices competitive, by making the most of teachable moments, and by creating a stadium-like atmosphere, our players definitely felt more comfortable in real game's situations.
-Having the freedom to weigh my options was more important to me than money or a sense of security. In Seattle, as at USC, I want everyone to know that we want them to realize their dreams. I want people who will fight for us because they know we'll fight from them.
-We live in a society that celebrates executives, coaches, and other leaders yet doesn't put a very high value on teaching as a profession.
-Leading and teaching go hand in hand.
-A flexible and open communication is an incredibly powerful leadership tool.
-Failure to communicate is unacceptable for a parent, a coach, or a leader.
-Learn your learner.
-The competitive environment we operate in as coaches demands that we be extraordinary teachers.
-We wanted to observe our players in as many situations and scenarios as possible.
-It's a challenge to understand the people you're dealing with so that you can approach them in the most effective possible way. A way that allows them to operate and perform at their very best.
-The best teachers, coaches, and leaders are often the best observers.
-I never want to be cut off from the flow of what's going on and what everybody is thinking.
-This effort to know more about our players is never ending, as our teaching is never ending.
-The greatest competitors of our time own a deep down desire to be the best.
-The details of each day's work are accounted for down to the minute.
-I wanted them to see practice as something to look forward to with excitement and focus. When we did that properly, our practices were as competitive and fiery as any game.
-I wanted to practice at game speed.
-Critique effort first.
-Our goal was for our players to face tougher opposition on our practice field than they would encounter in games.
-Competitive cauldron. Anson Dorrance.
-We kept score during everything.
-Finding the right balance and emphasis is critical for keeping practices fresh and players focused.
-A different theme for each day of the week:
TELL THE TRUTH MONDAY
COMPETITION TUESDAY
TURNOVER WEDNESDAY
NO REPEAT THURSDAY
REVIEW FRIDAY
-Always passionate speaking from the heart.
-Players need to focus no matter what is going on around.
-By making our practices competitive, by making the most of teachable moments, and by creating a stadium-like atmosphere, our players definitely felt more comfortable in real game's situations.
Win Forever by Pete Carroll. Quotes IV
-The Win Forever philosophy is not just about maximizing the potential of our players. It is about maximizing the potential of everyone in a program or organization. A big part of my job is creating an environment where this will happen.
-As head coach, I set the vision and the philosophy, but it is the coordinators and other coaches who are charged with implementing it on the ground with the players every day.
-I love to stoke little rivalries between the coaches of various position groups.
-I am constantly making suggestions, but they coach the message in their own ways, in their own voices.
-If I want them to coach to their full potential, I have to not only allow them to be authentically themselves but insist upon it.
-They would have to teach from inside themselves.
-Putting together a staff may be the most important part of any head coach's job, and I have always enjoyed it.
-One person at the top simply can't do everything that needs to be done.
-If a leader is clear and consistent about his philosophy's core values, it frees everyone up to do their best. It frees the top leadership to treat its middle managers in a whole new way.
-When everyone gets to contribute his maximum effort, it is transformative for the whole organization.
-You want to compete with people you can trust to lead and those are my coaches.
-Our efforts to win are based on our ability to control every aspect of our team environment, from energy to focus to camaraderie.
-There is so much more room for personal style and expression than many people realize. Whatever the context, not taking advantage of that may be a huge missed opportunity to involve people on a deeper, more competitive, and ultimately higher-performing level.
-How can an organization expect to maximize its overall potential if its people up and down the ladder don't have the chance to contribute in a way that taps into their ability as individuals?
-Rather than expecting loyalty from my coaches, I found that I got all the loyalty I could ask for by supporting them and advancing their careers.
-Our success depends on every one of us being willing to sacrifice parts of ourselves to the share effort. That only works when we trust one another completely, and once that level of trust is in place, it's worth a lot to keep it there.
-As head coach, I set the vision and the philosophy, but it is the coordinators and other coaches who are charged with implementing it on the ground with the players every day.
-I love to stoke little rivalries between the coaches of various position groups.
-I am constantly making suggestions, but they coach the message in their own ways, in their own voices.
-If I want them to coach to their full potential, I have to not only allow them to be authentically themselves but insist upon it.
-They would have to teach from inside themselves.
-Putting together a staff may be the most important part of any head coach's job, and I have always enjoyed it.
-One person at the top simply can't do everything that needs to be done.
-If a leader is clear and consistent about his philosophy's core values, it frees everyone up to do their best. It frees the top leadership to treat its middle managers in a whole new way.
-When everyone gets to contribute his maximum effort, it is transformative for the whole organization.
-You want to compete with people you can trust to lead and those are my coaches.
-Our efforts to win are based on our ability to control every aspect of our team environment, from energy to focus to camaraderie.
-There is so much more room for personal style and expression than many people realize. Whatever the context, not taking advantage of that may be a huge missed opportunity to involve people on a deeper, more competitive, and ultimately higher-performing level.
-How can an organization expect to maximize its overall potential if its people up and down the ladder don't have the chance to contribute in a way that taps into their ability as individuals?
-Rather than expecting loyalty from my coaches, I found that I got all the loyalty I could ask for by supporting them and advancing their careers.
-Our success depends on every one of us being willing to sacrifice parts of ourselves to the share effort. That only works when we trust one another completely, and once that level of trust is in place, it's worth a lot to keep it there.
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