With love and prayers by F. Jarvis. Quotes XIII

-Love is acting patient on the outside with others when your are burning on the inside with some concern of your own.
-Love is often an act: it is the curbing of your own natural desires, it is willed caring for another person when you'd really like to be caring about your own needs.
-A lot of people will advise you to be your real self. It's terrible advice. Your real self is egocentric and self-seeking. Don't be your real self.
-When you put on the act of love, the first thing you do is to put yourself in the other person's place.
-It is because I love your so much that I've told you that your essay is atrocious. (Love is intolerant. If you love a person, you are sometimes intolerant of things he does and says).
-To be a good loser, to handle disappointment with class.
-Real happiness in life only comes to those who are able to care about others at some cost to themselves.
-That confrontation was the most important thing that ever happened to me. Your forced me to break out of my lifelong pattern of behavior. You made me act kind and patient, and I found I actually liked being kind and patient. By forcing me to change my behavior, you actually changed who I was on the inside.
-The outward practice of love leads to an inward disposition to love.
-If you want to be happy, then, you must learn to love: to pay the price of caring for others, of putting them first, of inconveniencing yourself.
-If you are condemned to death, if you discover you're going to die, you are strangely liberated.
-The prospect of death brings perspective, conveys a divine irresponsibility: we suddenly see how small our wold is, and we suddenly realize the unimportance of all the things we considered so important.
-Only a few in every generation go beyond the conventional to the daring.
-There is much, much more to life than striving. Life is more than getting, more than accumulating.
-A faith that takes into account life's shortness and life's deepest and most ultimate questions is the only faith that can bring us real happiness.
-If you never take any risks, you will never love. If you never make yourself vulnerable to another person, you will never get hurt. If you never attempt anything great, if you have never set big goals or  have high hopes, you will never be disappointed. But what a narrow and, frankly, cowardly way to live.