Compass, a handbook on parents leadership by James Stenson. Quotes XIII

-Effective parent leaders team up to control the family's access to the tube.
-We will watch programs and play games that bring us together as a family.
-Don't let uncertainty lead to inaction.
-Think of time spent with the tube as time away from the family.
-It's unnatural and positively unhealthy for kids to sit still for hours.
-Have only one television in the house.
-All in all, it's not a bad thing for your children to get used to living a little bit different from the crowd, especially in moral matters.
-If young people get in good shape by the time they are sixteen, they will probably stay that way till their mid-forties or later.
-A great husband and wife share one mind and will concerning their children's upbringing.
-Confident kids resist drugs, peer-group pressures.
-How can parents work at strengthening a mutual support?
1. Set some time apart each week to talk about each of your children.
2. Determine that you will never ever oppose or demean each other in front of your children, especially when one of you is correcting a child.
3. Don't ever carry on a heated quarrel in front of your children.
-It is healthy for children to see that sometimes even loving parents will argue but then swiftly reconcile. Everyone has faults and anyone can have a bad day. Spotty flashes of anger flare up in nearly all marriages, but apologies swiftly cover these over. I am sorry... please forgive me... is one fo the strongest bonds of marriage.
-If you sense that a disagreement is getting out of hand, signal with each other. Whatever it takes, do anything rather than scare the kids.
-When your children ask your permission in a fairly important matter, put off your decision until you have checked with you spouse. And your spouse follows the same deferred decision policy with respect to you.
-No matter what you do, realize that each of you may have to swallow your pride a bit for the sake of presenting a united front to your children.
-Kids don't just need to be taught right from wrong; they need specific, concrete words and terms to fasten these concepts into their judgment and keep them there: honor, integrity, ethics, self-respect, etc.
-Judgment means the ability to make significant distinctions in life:

• Needs from wants.
• Heroes from celebrities.
• Love from eroticism.
• Courage from cowardice.
• Objective from subjective. 

-Active people make mistakes. 

-Put worthwhile books into your children's hands, read aloud to them.

-Encourage children to form opinions, but to base these on facts. 

-Integrity means unity of intention, word, and action. 

-People respect for your world, your integrity depends hugely on your commitment to keep your commitments. 

-You teach integrity in the areas of accepting invitations and keeping appointments. 

-The last place where well-brought up kids behave rightly is at home.

-When the kids see that Mom considers Dad the Number One person in the family, and Dad treats Mom as Number One, then most other family lessons fall into place.